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Amy Chua wrote her infamous article “Why Chinese mothers are superior” and as the Tiger Mom she became the defining voice for White America of Chinese and Asian-American culture. I disgaree with universalizing the WMAF experience into somehow speaking for all Asians. I think WMAF speaks for WMAF. And the Tiger Mom experience specifically relates to how WMAF parents raise their Hapa kids. Likewise I wrote an article in 2011 “White moms love their children, Asian moms hate their Tiger Kids”. This article was likewise interpreted as applying
universalizing to all white and Asian women. Although I only intended it to apply to white and Asian moms raising Eurasian children. Obviously White Moms, married to Asian dads, and raising Hapa kids is a tiny minority, and can’t be considered typical of the white population.

However as a subgroup, I have noticed at least from polling my blog comments, that white moms actually care about the feelings of their Hapa sons, while Asian moms coolly dismiss it. A White dad from Halfsigma posting here, find something to praise in the Oriental female character, in her steely determination to ignore feelings, while the white mom embodied the decadence of the West, by caring about children’s emotions. As a person, I felt bad troubling these brave white women, who get enough hate for marrying the most despised race of men. But as an empiricist, this just added more data to my studies in the difference between WMAF and AMWF child-raising.

The complete and total failure of WMAF sons as a population is one of the most covered up stories in the world today. I don’t want to sound like a tinfoil hat conspiracist, but it really does seem like there was a deliberate disinfo campaign to use Keanu Reeves and Dean Cain Tanaka with their full white moms, as the posterboys for WMAF couples. Now all the dirty secrets about WMAF families are coming out, and WMAF couples are mad as hell about it, aggressively attacking any Hapa sons who speak out. WMAF is always bragging about how they are the richest, most common coupling. This is supposed to prove that they are normal nay superior. Lets accept these facts. The fact that wealth, education, and numbers has failed to produce a single Eurasian success story is a striking blow against them.

Poor Wilkes McDermid was a Eurasian son driven insane by the interracial dating disparity. In a way documenting the vast gulf between AMWF and WMAF sons is honoring Wilkes legacy. He was a Eurasian who made his public suicide driven into despair by the cruelty of his WMAF birth. Some people think its ridiculous to be driven to suicide by internet dating disparities. But if you are told your entire life your manhood is worthless, why live? If its not an official study, then you will just dismiss it as anecdotes. It has always been my impression, in spite of any official stats, that the WMAF to AMWF disparity was 100:1. I never actually counted. Wilkes McDermid actually counted, and invited his friends to come with him to count. The ratio he got was 99:1. I believe him. He is dead, he has no reason to lie. And his London observations match what I’ve seen personally in America. With a 100:1 advantage in population for WMAF, what does it mean that there is a 100:1 advantage for AMWF in celebrities and success stories? Does it mean that an AMWF son is 1000 times superior to a WMAF son?

Then these WMAF apologists will make excuses why its impossible to name a single success. They will claim there are so few WMAF couples around. So few Eurasians. Yeah, and other times they brag that they are the most common, most rich couple, to make themselves seem normal. With all that money and numbers you can’t make a single son of note? Only when naming success stories are WMAF numbers tiny. When all the deranged, criminal, psychotic Eurasians of the past year are named, then this is just a drop in the bucket out of the millions of millions of WMAF sons. When asked to name good WMAF Hapas, there are only a few hundred in the world apparently. And what about AMWF? If anyone is rare, tiny in numbers, it is AMWF. So why is it possible to name successful AMWF sons? My point is not to make a pissing contest between AMWF and WMAF sons. Rather this is evidence about how the abusive nature of the WMAF relationship dooms all WMAF sons to failure. The world needs to know this. It enrages me, that all this is going on in 2015 America, and the world turns a blind eye to it. Its a big deal what WMAF couples are doing to their Eurasian sons.

Why is it that white mothers are capable of loving their-half Asian sons, and identifying with their Asian issues, while Asian mothers, who are freaking Asian themselves, are unable to do this for their sons?

The dirty dark secrets of WMAF families could not be kept secret forever. Eurasian boys are all grown up now, and they are speaking out in record numbers. The momentum is growing. People are noticing.

I wish I could just have a neutral observer here, not a white or Asian, maybe a white woman or Black person. Someone with no skin in the game. Let them look at all the evidence and judge. Are we Eurasians crazy or do we have a case? IMHO any good faith neutral observer looking at the data, would have to concede we have a major Eurasian crisis on our hands. The more white men and Asian women attack their own children in public, the more their true ugliness is being displayed for the whole world to see.

Its ironic that in some of my recent posts I have actually found myself in the position of actually defending my WMAF parents somewhat, in explaining that no they are not the stereotypical bad WMAF couple. I guess to some extent this is a mark of how things have changed. Eurasian issues are very much in the air now. And the arguments of this blog and others have sunk in. People are realizing just how toxic WMAF couples are and the impact this has on their children. And compared to what other Eurasians are now saying, I’ve become actually something of the centrist-moderate. I don’t think this is because of any change or mellowing or softening on my part. If you go back to my 2011 posts, you will find old posts saying the exact same thing. And I think its important that clear lines be drawn on this issue, not just for personal reasons, but to understand the Hapa phenomenon as a sociological trend.

I have read the blogs and comments, of those who do come from the stereotypically bad, classic WMAF couples. Its pretty heart-wrenching, and the results are what you would expect from the offspring of a relationship that hates them. These Eurasians have a powerful role to play in giving testimony against the crimes of their parents. However it is to easy for a WMAF couple to then say, well thats not me. I’m one of the good ones. I’m sorry you had terrible, shitty, parents, but its wrong of you to blame all WMAF couples for the experiences of your parents as individuals. And thats why its important to me to state clearly, that no it is you bad WMAF couples who have made me hate my parents. Where my parents, do in anyway adhere to WMAF tropes, I have not been shy about exposing them on this blog, and airing all of our family dirty laundry. There aren’t all that many skeletons. And I hold them to a very high standard of political correctness, calling them out for even implicitly racist assumptions. In their defense, this is a very high standard that few people could probably meet. Imagine having political-level coverage, inside your own home 24/7, seizing on the racist implications of any statement you make in privacy.

So yeah, for the Hapa children of bad, racist, sexist, WMAF couples, there will always be “Good” WMAF couples, saying they are being unfairly tarred. And this brings me to the larger point of this post which is the racist Tourette’s of these “good” WMAF couples. I’m referring to those WMAF defenders and apologists, who post on the comments section here and on other Hapa sites. These WMAFs have every incentive to show themselves in the best possible light. As its all anonymous, all they have to do is not be racist for 2 paragraphs, and they can at least appear to be decent people who just happen to have intermarried. But this simple, easy standard, it has been impossible for any WMAF couple to meet. Its really shocking. And this is them on their best behavior, trying to pretend that their relationship is based on colorblind live and not racism and sexism. They are trying to prove they can be good parents to Half-Asian children. And yet these degenerates can’t go 2 seconds, without dropping extremely offensive, racist, sexist, outrages. And this is them on their best behavior trying to prove they are not racist but just starcrossed lovers. It amazes me. Every single WMAF apologist, without fail, will drop some extremist, racist, imperialist, colonialist, sexist, far right statement, while they are trying to prove the exact opposite. At this point, its so against their own self-interest that it seems almost like a pathology. A racist sexist Tourette’s syndrome. If this is them showing their best public face to political correctness, one can only imagine what monsters they are off screen. And these are the parents of Eurasian kids. They can’t type 2 lines, without extreme racism against their own children.

Just for once, it would be nice if there was a genuinely decent white guy, who just happened to meet a woman, who happened to be Asian, and there wasn’t any sexism, imperialism, racism involved. But at least on the internet that seems utterly impossible. White men who like Asian women, seem unable to control their racist Tourette’s. They can’t go 2 seconds, without going on a rant against western women and people of color. It amazes me. And its not to say its all clear sailing for the decent white guy. I consider my parents to basically be in that category, and yet I’m the one who started this freaking blog. The racial and sexual categories do matter irregardless of individuals. But WMAF couples seem to be unable to muster an ounce of decency on the individual level. They are incredible hypocrites when they attack the Hapa sons of “bad parents”, since they are the textbook example of the bad couple themselves. At this point a “good” decent, colorblind WMAF couple is a purely theoretical concept, a unicorn. At least on the internet, which seems to bring out the worst in people. But its not like WMAF is bad online, but happy and shiny in real life. These are the views of offline WMAF couples.

It wasn’t my intention to demonize all WMAF couples. I wanted to say that if your relationship is based on racism and sexism against your own children, you are a monster, and you are going to have big problems. But the longer my blog remains online, the more comments I get, the more public Eurasian problems become, the more I see that the overwhelming majority of WMAF couples really are monstrous. Based on the worst trash of 21st century society. The type of pure undiluted racism and sexism, you thought was left behind in 1945. A new type of sexualized racism, that traditional narratives of black-white racism are not fit to cover. There is a bit of a generation gap in that their Hapa kids are still young and can’t talk back to them yet. Although for some weird reason, there are a lot of young Asian moms posting online about how their toddler Eurasian sons already hate them. But that aside, for the most part it is the Eurasians born in the late 1990s and early 2000s, a period from which the Eurasian population doubles, who are just coming of age now, and beginning to come to grips with the hell they are in. It is an exciting time, but a tragic time, don’t be surprised by the extreme bitterness that is going to come out of them. I encourage any skeptics, to not take my word for it. Do a little googling on your own and see what WMAF couples are about. And then ask if its so shocking that Eurasians are so full of deep psychological issues.

A whole generation of Asian-American women writers have defined Asian identity through their Joy Luck Club imitation knock offs. Now at last the long awaited sequel has emerged the Boy Luck Club. If the Amy Tans wrote of the revolt of Yellow Feminism, in alliance with White MRA Husbands, against Asian Patriarchy. Now their sons are writing of their revolt against Tiger Mom. The rebels have become the Dragon Queens, and are facing new rebels in turn. The cycles of the Mandate of Heaven. The torch has been passed to a brave new generation. These Asian women are old hags now, and with youthful energy their Eurasian offspring are seizing the microphone out of their hands to be the new voice of Asian-America. I’m not saying its right for half-whites to speak for Asian-America. But it has been passed as hereditary property. The last generation of Asian-Americans was ruled by Asian women married to white men. And so its only natural that their Eurasian children inherit the dragon throne.

With all the talk of heroines revolting against Confucian patriarchy, Asian-Americans are the most matriarchal race in America. Ruled under the iron heel of the Dragon Lady, Tiger Mom. What other race has universally females as their face representing them in politics, civil rights activism, law, art, literature, culture, news, television, media etc? Whenever an Asian-America is called to speak on any issue, it is always a woman. A Feminist study critiques the fact that men are overrepresented in television, for all races except Asians of course. Except Asians could be the corollary to all sociological studies. Asian-America is ruled under the iron fist of the the Tiger Mom and her white husbands. When Donald Trump wants to understand the sneaky Chinese mind he turns to a whole list of fiction and non-fiction written by Asian women and their white husbands. When George W. Bush wants to understand Asian history, he turns to Jung Chang and her white husband. When White America wants to understand the
“traditional” Chinese family, they turn to Amy Chua and her white husband. All these women are old hags now. Its time for their Hapa children to speak.

When we Hapas were still young and in our diapers. When our moms could still point to the miracle of a “cute baby” and not the embarrassing gaping absence of cute Hapa adult men. Asian women tried to speak for their Eurasian children the same way they have spoken for Asian men. Asian women post baby pictures for their Hapa sons, and even write dialogue for their sons, about how they have personalities just like mommy. Asian-American women novelists wrote stories of their Eurasian children being bridges between worlds. But now we Hapas are all grown up and we have seized the microphone right out of mommy’s hands. Eurasians are speaking for themselves, and this scares the shit out of white men and Asian women. The alliance of White MRAs and Yellow Feminism has been exposed. They tried to play both sides. Asian women sold WMAF as liberal and feminist, while white men sold WMAF as conservative and anti-feminist. Now they are collapsing on both fronts. Both Feminist and White Nationalist women are shinning a light on WMAF tyranny. They tried to be all things to all people, now they are collapsing on all sides.

Eurasians are the rebels now. Once our moms rebelled against their traditional Confucian parents, now we are rebelling against them. They have given us a bully pulpit. It is a great irony, that now that so many insane Eurasians are hitting the news, Asian women are doing more than anyone to draw attention to it. They are saying that Eurasian sons are an important part of the Asian-American community, and that the crisis of their sons, is a crisis that the entire Asian-American community needs to face. There is article after article by Asian women about the insanity of Eurasian sons, and how all Asians need to deal with this crisis. They are the ones who want to make their sons the posterboy for Asian-America. But they aren’t going to like what Eurasians have to say.

I don’t need an Asian-American woman novelist to speak for me, and write a book with me as a character, a puppet on her strings following her script. I can speak for myself. And more and more Hapas are hitting their late teens and early 20s and also speaking up now. No longer will they hide behind Tiger mommy’s skirt and let her do the talking for them. Its all bubbling to the surface now. The dark secrets of the WMAF family, all the dirty laundry is being aired.

It is fitting that Eurasians are the creation of women novelists. Because Eurasians are an idea that looks good on paper, but doesn’t work in reality. When faced with the overwhelming evidence of Hapa failure, the response is always it SHOULD work. These are the 2 best, most intelligent races mating, only good things should come out of it, empirical facts be damned. Hapas were fine when they were characters in Asian-American literature. Now that we are writing our own stories, our parents don’t like where this story is going to end.

Even more so then when I began this blog, I have become more convinced than ever through an overwhelming data vomit of evidence that the White male Asian female coupling is a relationship of pure evil. That everything that can possibly be bad about the male and female character is united together in the relationship from hell of WMAF. IDK if this applies to every last WMAF couple in the world, but certainly any white guy on the internet who posts about his Asian wife, under any circumstances, is always vile. Why should I even care? White women I actually like. But Asian women have taken on the form of demonic satanic succubi for me. If the most evil women in the world want to hook up with the most evil men in the world, I shouldn’t lose any sleep over it. I’m not crying or White Knighting over poor, innocent, Asian victims being manipulated or taken advantage of by evil White PUAs. No, Asian women, are more demonic succubi than actual women to me at this point. Why should I care?

Yeah, its a shame that these evil couplings are creating Eurasian kids. And thats why it should be no mystery to anyone, on why every single Eurasian son in history has been a failure. Why WMAF couples have to steal AMWF sons as part of their disinfo. Why WMAF couples began a whole disinfo campaign about Keanu Reaves and Dean Cain Tanaka being WMAF sons, despite both having pure white moms. I’m not the savior of the Eurasian race, although perhaps at times I have written as though I have. I’ve reached a fairly large audience at this point. Anyone googling on Hapa issues can relatively easily find me. Hapas are on their own and will have to decide themselves whether they are for or against their parents. I’m not exactly a neutral fly on the wall in this battle, as I’ve done much to define the contrary Hapa voice. But ultimately I can only lead Hapas to water, can’t make them drink. The vast majority of Hapas seem to agree with me. Some sign on 100%. But what intrigues me more, is that even the Hapas who most militantly disagree, don’t deny my facts. They admit that being Hapa is terrible. And some of them have stories much more awful than my own. The only difference is they believe in positive thinking and moving passed the bitterness. But the point is, that while white guys try to deny my voice, even my Hapa opponents admit that being Eurasian is hellish.

I’ve got to stop driving myself insane with these WMAF issues. Look if the most evil men and women, want to get together, let them torture each other. And as for the innocent Hapa kids they bring into their sadism. Well, Hapas will have to find their own voice. I’ve done more than my share. Its not my job to save every Hapa in the world from his own parents. When he hits his teens, and starts becoming aware of these issues, he’ll figure it out for himself. As someone who has repeatedly said my own parents are relatively benign, I would think that the children of stereotypical WMAF couples would figure it out more quickly than me, since its staring them in the face. Pop culture and the internet played a big role in me coming to these ideas. Honestly, if my parents were the only WMAF couple in the world, which for many years it felt like, then I’d have never come to such rage. This is due to WMAF as a sociological fact, not my parents personally.

So this is my way of making peace with hell. If satanic males and females want to get together to share their common interest in torturing babies, let them enjoy each others demonic company. As for the Eurasian kids enslaved by these sick perverts. Let Eurasians find their own voice, let them do something about it. And since WMAF couples seem like the worst type of Tiger parents, who long to live vicariously through their cute Hapa babies, before they are even born. The horrific track record of Eurasian failure, seems like genetic just deserts. Even if not so fun to be an instrument of Nature’s humor.

I’m overdosing on empathy. I don’t mean this to trumpet my own horn as some kind of Saint. What is my greatest weakness? I care too much.

No, I’m using empathy in a purely technical term without any moral connotations. Harkening back to the original German etymology of empathy from Einfühlung (“feeling into”). I think that is the problem I’m feeling into too much. Putting myself in hypothetical shoes. And extremely tight painful shoes at that. The empathy I feel is towards the children of Bad WMAF. The classic white nazi anti-feminist dad and self-hating castrating Tiger Mom. For the most part I don’t feel my parents fall into this in anyway. They aren’t perfect, they have WMAF privilege, and I have not been shy about calling them out viciously whenever they the least bit exploit these privileges. But they are not the classic WMAF stereotype of the media, Hollywood, history, statistics, anecdotes, novels, celebrities, history, the internet etc. But in my overdose of empathy, all I can do is see myself as the Eurasian son of all those nasty couples. What it must feel like to have parents like that. And thats why I get so enraged over it. How dare you talk like that about Asian men, when your own Half-Asian son, will have to endure that life. It is though I became the son of every single WMAF couples in the world. Every single discussion about WMAF or Hapas became about me personally. It was as though I were the incarnation of every single Hapa in the world.

I started blogging again around Thanksgiving. And despite playing devil’s advocate about the pros of my situation. I couldn’t think of anything to be thankful for. I acknowledged yes, there are plenty of times and places which were worse than my own. But living in the 1st world, there was no race worse to be than a WMAF son. And no sophisms could change that. That was my frame of reference comparing Eurasians to all other races. Well, here is another frame of reference. Comparing me as an individual to all other Eurasians. In this r/Hapas has cheered me up. Misery loves company. I don’t want to say that I feel superior in anyway to the Hapas who suffer there. But I acknowledge that I have not experienced the same degree of racism from either my parents, peers, or society in general as expressed there. They really make it sound like being Eurasian in America today is like being a Black in 1920s Alabama. They are constantly taunted and even physically assaulted. What got me, is that these comments were not even coming from one of the “Woe is me” bitter Hapas. No, these were the positive, chin up, Hapas. The ones saying cheer up, its not that bad. Oh sure, I got called Chink and Gook all the time, rejected by girls who openly hated Asians, and jumped by racist classmates. But really guys being Hapa isn’t that bad. Sure my parents, were the classic WMAF couple who hated Asian men. But we don’t need to be dwelling on our misery.

Now I don’t agree with that level of turn the other cheek positivity. But it does put my own pain in perspective. Many Eurasians have had it much worse than me. The very fact, that what I say about Eurasians as a race is true, actually makes my own personal situation look better in perspective. I’v very thin-skinned about racism and not one to laugh off a joke. And yet, even I must admit that the racism I experienced has been relatively mild compared to these other Hapas. I’ve never been called a racial slur in my entire life, which seems to be a daily experience for these Hapas. I’ve never had any racist experiences with Asian women. I’ve never had a white girl reject me openly based on race. With each individual rejection, I felt I was being rejected respectfully as an individual person. I didn’t feel at the time that race played any role. It is only mulling over statistics in aggregate, that I begin to feel that subconscious hatred of Hapas, must have been driving rejection behind the scenes. Its weird that me with my negative attitude has had much less negative experiences than the Hapas trying to have a positive attitude. The Hapas saying “its not that bad” have had worse racism than me.

The other thing that got to me, is that some of these Hapas might belong to supposedly “privileged” categories. For example even the self-described white-looking Eurasians, have experienced much more direct open racism for their Asian features than I an Asian-looking Hapa has. I have never pretended that Hapa girls have it easy, like the “Abort your sons and its all good” crowd. But I have kind of felt that Hapa guys get more hate, the same way Asian guys get more hate. And anti-Hapa girl racism, is more the sexual fetishization variety of racism reserved for females. But no, the Eurasian girls described openly hostile aggressive racist bullying, that we might associated with boys. People just yelling out racial slurs at them on the playground. There is nothing fetishizing about that. Its just violent racial bullying like Hapa boys get.

I’m not saying the situation is good for Hapas, in fact I’m saying its terrible. But in a way that does put my own situation in perspective. So much of my fear of racism, is almost like preemptive reaction. I know racism is coming and so I’m fighting back before it even happens. But for so many of these Hapas its not a future contingent possibility or a hypothetical or sociological data, it theirs personal experiences and childhood memories. And the few racist incidents I endure seem relatively mild, compared to the bombardment they suffer under. I got a reputation as one of the most bitter Eurasian blogger, at least until some friendly competition has been emerging over the last year. But it seems like I have endured some of the least racism of any Hapa, at least compared to the Hapas who post at r/Hapas. Even the white-looking Hapas all talk about how girls openly tell them, they don’t like Asians. And I’ve been rejected plenty of times, any I’ve never felt in person that I was not being respected as a human being. Its only looking at sociology, that I feel that subconsciously it must have been statistical racism. Nothing is settled here, but I do appreciate having lived one of the least racist Eurasian lives possible. I’m not saying “its not that bad”. All my complaints about my own life still stand, their lives are just worse. They are the ones with the horror stories.

I don’t want to make it into “Eurasian World Problems”, oh those Hapas have it much worse than me, therefore I should be grateful for what I have and shut up. But yeah, even the white-looking Hapas, that I’m kind of jealous of, describe getting more hate for their Asianess than even I get.

I do feel empathy for the Hapas born out of the classically racist WMAF, even if they are not me. But ultimately that is going to be their own personal battle. I think it is reprehensible for parents to do that to their child, but thats going to be their battle. Just by having this blog, bringing up Eurasian issues, I’ve done all I can for them. The Eurasian genie is out of the bottle and these currents are very much in the air now. They are the ones who are going to suffer the most, not me. And I wish them the best, but I can’t and wont live their lives for them, and theres no point mentally torturing myself as though I’m.

In the same day I can go whiplashing between 2 opposite extremes on the Eurasian issue. I can feel myself calming down, and feeling maybe I’m a little too harsh on my parents, just because they belong to a category with a lot of bad apples. But then on some random corner of the internet or media, where I thought I was safe, I will have the ugliest aspects of WMAF shoved in my face, and I will rage. How do I balance my desire to separate myself from the whole world of WMAF, with the extreme viciousness displayed by them?

One of the points I’m repeatedly emphasized is that old habits of White-Black binary oppositions don’t work for White-Asian issues. Its much more complex and multivaried. Hence, I’m often attacked for racism, by those seeing race in those traditional terms, as I try to untangle the web. So lets stop looking at WMAF as a binary opposition between evil WMAFs and good-leaning WMAFs. I consider my own parents to be among good-leaning WMAFs, but its hard for me to admit that there are any good WMAFs, when the structural racism of the bad ones corrupts them all. Why are there so many more “good” WMAFs than good AMWFs? These couplings don’t happen in one direction by accident. And so even if not subjectively malicious, there is definitely objective WMAF privilege in even the best of them.

Instead of Good WMAF vs Bad WMAF, lets look at it as a continuum. On one extreme lets hold the openly evil, racist, sexist, satanic WMAF. These couples actually do exist, and in rather large numbers. On the other hand are good-leaning WMAFs. Basically decent people, not perfect. Perhaps actively anti-racist to varying degrees. But still ultimately profiting from WMAF privilege. But its not either/or. The vast majority of WMAF is in the middle somewhere inbetween. Its my perception that the WMAF center leans much more towards the evil than good-leaning side. But they might not have the pure sadistic satanism as displayed by some WMAFs in my comments sections. Most WMAF couples lean towards, racism and sexism, but not with the fiery honesty of the most vicious of them. If the WMAF numbers lean overwhelming towards the bad side, what impact does this have on the good-leaning ones? Should what extent should they be judged for the crimes of their category? These are difficult issues, and deeply personal to me, as they directly impact how I treat my own family.

Why am I so bothered by evil WMAFs, how does it affect me? Suppose hypothetically all Black women hated Asian men. If Black women were known to especially despise Asians, and had a bunch of blogs about how disgusting Asian men were. Its never good to be attacked, but it wouldn’t cut so deep as WMAF attacks do. I don’t have any interest in Asian women, so why do their attacks mean so much? Well, part of the reason is races are just naturally paired together. This is
caricatured as patriarchal Asian men “owning” their women. But the truth is the opposite, de facto every other race of men “owns” their women accept Asians. Even WMAFs will rely on the trope that Asian men and women were “made for each other”, and thats why both have the smallest parts. In that sense Asian women hating Asian men, is a much more powerful message to the world than Black women would be. Now I wish the genders of a race were not associated with each other. If as a Eurasian male, I had nothing to do with Asian women, that would be wonderful. But thats not the case. For better or for worse the 2 sexes of each race are paired together. And since Asian women are the only women at the dance complaining about their partner, it sends a loud message to all men and women, that Asian men are the worse. And of course evil WMAFs are quite open in explicitly and loudly stating this implicit message.

And then these same WMAF couples go onto have kids, and WMAF issues become Hapa issues. Its a pretty ugly situation all around. And I wish more neutral, objective observers would take a good hard look at the issues I’m gesturing at, instead of just demonizing me as racist and insane. Look I’d love to see races break down, and us to become a big rainbow race. I once bought the lie that race-mixing helped undermine racism. But these just aren’t the facts on the ground. WMAF is quite clearly a power relationship based on domination. And no one suffers from it more than the Eurasian children. In an ideal world, races wouldn’t mean anything and there be tons of WMAF and AMWF. And not just White-Asians mixing as the “2 best races”, but all kinds of mixes with the rainbow. And while there wouldn’t be any strict 1:1 quota in mixings, the digressions would be based on random drift, and not structural power relations. As WMAF to AMWF is happening now, with an observed 100:1 ratio, it very much is about power, sexism, racism, and not rainbow love. I hope my readers can look into these specific issues, and not just write me off as a hater against mixing.

Lets wrestle with these Eurasian issues. On the one hand I would like to put them behind me and forget about it. But there is no in front of me anymore. I see no hope in my life, and Hapa issues are the elephant in the room. Yes, Hapa issues depress me and get me down. But my whole life is down. We can say that Hapa issues are not a distraction from my other pursuits, but that all other pursuits are a distraction from Hapa issues. It is hopeless trying to self-censor myself and not come back to this blog. And theres no point in making it a battle of wills, since my self-discipline is utterly broken, now that I have nothing to hope for in this horrid world.

Is being Eurasian the be all end all? My personal flaws and the flaws of the race are not mutually incompatible. As I said last post, if we made a Venn diagram of stereotypically Asian traits and loser traits, there would be a perfect overlap. So lets say that being Half-Asian imposes a strict bamboo ceiling on my best possible life. Now I’m on the floor, in the basement. At the absolute bottom of human well-being and flourishing. Life has become hateful to me. Given the garbage cards I was dealt in life, could I have played them better? I will concede that its possible my life could have been marginally better. But I could also have made worse choices and made my life worse. I think the bamboo ceiling is pretty low. Back in 2009 I used to debate with myself whether life in 2009 was worth living. And my devil’s advocate could definitely score a few debating points over myself. If you can accept the culture and system, there is a lot to enjoy as an average or even below average American man in the 21st century. And it was these debates with myself that convinced me to give life another chance, when I was on the brink of suicide. But I was a victim of my own success. By entirely swallowing and absorbing the values of American culture, it was impossible to ignore the racial aspect. And so I wrote this blog in 2011, just as I was making my best effort to integrate into the mainstream.

If the best argument of 2010 was “life as an average American male isn’t that bad” the argument of 2015 is “life as an average
Asian/Eurasian male is TERRIBLE”. When I look at the life of the average Asian-American male, even if he has achieved middle class status, economically, I see nothing to envy. I don’t want to live that life. And this is where WMAF comes in. As I see WMAF couples as both instigators of and profiters from Asian male emasculation. And then they create Half-Asian sons who have to live in this world. Well thats the Hapa Paradox that is at the heart of this blog. I think a large amount of WMAF couples are loudly and proudly based on open racism against Asian males and sexism against Asian females. And you can google these creeps up yourself, if you want to see the background to Hapa males. Now maybe they are just a loud, militant minority. But their hateful words ring true to me, since its perfectly in line with the trends and actions of “mainstream” WMAF couples. There is a big crisis in our hands. And whats the best case scenario for a WMAF couple? At best they are not openly racist, but still ignore the problems their Half-Asian sons might suffer. It might not even be intentionally malicious. Anti-Asian racism isn’t de jure to the same extent anti-Black racism was in the 1950s. So to someone who is not a Half-Asian son, it might seem like he is just thin skinned and hypersensitive. Since these are largely cultural issues. Why complain about the lack of Asian rappers and basketball players when Asians are the highest income group? My white dad asked me.

For my white dad, it seems silly for me to be angsting out over lack of Asian male movie stars. But it does matter. Look at the gay rights movement “It Gets Better”. It has gotten better for gays, in my lifetime I’ve seen a revolution in gay rights. What was the cause? “Liberal Hollywood brainwashing” normalizing the behavior. To an extent that is true, but not as sinister as conservatives would make it out to be. The media over the last few decades has done a lot to show gays as just regular human beings. To humanize them. Once gays are just regular people, its hard to hate them. Compare and contrast that with the progress Asian men have made in the media over the last decade. It is hard to name a single character who was a fully developed human being. And I do think it makes a big difference. If having prominent sympathetic characters and celebrities builds empathy, I think decades of bombardment of asexual, nerdy, Asian enemy clowns has accomplished the opposite. Asian men are more than ever mere insects or robots. Completely subhuman. And this has eradicated my psyche. It is hard for me to even think of myself as human anymore, and I eschew all human contact. This Hermit Kingdom isolation has backfired, in that rather than freeing me from mental pollution, I obsess more than ever over being Hapa. And the internet is even nastier than the people I knew in real life.

Being half-Asian makes me feel less than human. I feel that US society sees me as less than human. When people are shocked by how wide the AMWF to WMAF gap, for me the real miracle is that AMWF even happens at all, when Asian men are not even human in US society. To be an AMWF is to revolt against a whole cultural apparatus. This is why it is to the infinite eternal shame of WMAF that they have to baby-snatch successful Eurasian celebrities from the sons of full white mothers. No Asian mother will ever raise a successful Eurasian celebrity.

How do I deal with this issues? I have no incentive to try, since the life of the average Asian man, hold zero appeal to me. I have no reason to strive for it. And I’m under no illusions that I will be some above average Super Eurasian that breaks down barriers.

I feel that being part Asian makes me less than human in American culture. And I resent my own parents for being a WMAF couple, which I see as both symptom and cause of Asian dehumanization. My parents created me to be a human being, and took away my humanity in a single act. They might not have maliciously intended any harm, but the bad apples have spoiled the bunch. And there are tons of WMAF bad apples, which lead me to see them as a truly vile coupling. It is just impossible to have the level of empathy for another race of males, that is necessary to be a parent to a Eurasian son. Can my parents, even with the best intentions, ever feel what I feel? No, they can’t. And if they want to pretend that being Asian male is identical to being white male in USA, then all communication between us must necessarily break down.

But what can even the best of WMAF do? Suppose a WMAF couple read my blog and were totally convinced by my arguments and genuinely wanted to do their best to advance the interests of their Eurasian son. Some WMAF bloggers do pretend to speak like that. Maybe a Chang Johnson leads some Asian-American civil rights organization. I read a piece by a WMAF Asian mom trying to convince white women to give Asian men a chance. But as many comments told her, it was impossible to take her seriously, when her own actions spoke so much louder than her words. What could a genuinely progressive anti-racist WMAF couple do to help their half-asian son? Even, with the best of intentions- nothing.

Its a sad world Hapa men live in. And we are too isolated to even find each other and build communities. We are all on our own. To even find this blog, a Eurasian man would have to already be half-way to my conclusions, if he was already defining himself by his mixed status and seeking out resources. Most Eurasian men probably just take the stance advocated by my commentators. “I’m a personal failure and loser, it has nothing to do with my race”. Unless they are searching, they wont find out, that there are so many WMAF sons out there exactly like them. Its not a coincidence that so many Hapa guys end up in the same place.

What is one good thing about being Eurasian? The answer I most frequently get are variations on “at least you are not a disgusting full Asian, they are the lowest of the low”. But because of the 1-drop rule, I’m treated by White Society as a disgusting full Asian, I’m the lowest of the low. And so your negative compliment is just a straight insult. The one good thing about being Eurasian, is that you are the worst race of males. I did an entry on the “Uncanny Valley” on why being “better” than the worst race of males, wasn’t any advantage. There was also a blog entry by Bitter Halfie Man, who explained that he had no advantage in getting Asian or Hapa girls over full Asian men. He said it was a purely theoretical advantage, since any Asian girl who admired his white traits, could easily get a full white guy. The same logic of course applies to girls of any race.

Its not just about girls, sex, relationships. Even just walking down the street, I always see social groups congregating together based on race, culture, ethnicity. Humans are a naturally tribal species. They form in and out groups. And every time I see friends of all the same race hanging out together in even the most diverse areas. Its a punch in the stomach. A reminder that Hapas have no tribe, and will always be the permanent outgroup for this most tribal species of ape.

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