Sometimes I feel a little guilty saying my parents are “not that bad”. Maybe I’ve been “bought off” by reparations. Its funny, in my teen years when I would through my enraged tantrums and wreck the house, as early as 15, my dad told me if he couldn’t control me, he’d get rid of me. Now many, many years later. At a time when my peers have begun to marry and start families. I’m less functional and more dependent on him than I was at 15. During one of my rants I went on and on about how horrible it was being a Hapa man, but that I’d live off of my “reparations” from my White dad. And this enraged him, and he said no one would stop him from throwing a full grown man, my age out of the house. Hes sarcastically brought up my “reparations from my white father” a couple of times since, so I guess it had an impact on him. Does this make us even? I consider being Half Asian a shitty life. But hey as long as someone else is paying for it.
The more militant Hapas would say that anyone who says “my parents weren’t like that” is making excuses. And it would be hypocritical for me to say WMAF is the devil, but oh not my parents. Thats why I reference 2011, as my guide. Am I betraying what I said then? Its true I said a lot of angry things about my parents. But the anger was over WMAF as WMAF. That with WMAF happening at such overwhelming rates as it was. It couldn’t be interpreted as anything other than a rejection of the value of Asian males. And thats why I shine the light on those WMAFs who just come out and say it. Since it “proves” what I’ve always thought WMAF is about. But even in 2011, I was saying my parents aren’t that bad. It was always about my anger at WMAF as a trend. Although where my parents messed up, I always brought it up.
Yes, one flaw in my parents is they refuse to acknowledge just how hellish life is for Asian men. Once my dad even joked that I should write a book called “My life as an Asian Man… and my unsympathetic White Father.” Little does he know, I’ve long written, many volumes of that book. At the same time, I’m not here to say “my evil parents refuse to acknowledge that Asian male life is hell”. Because what good would it do if they did?
Say one of you “Good WMAFs” comes here, and says “I wont be like your rotten parents, I will tell my kids all about institutional and structural racism, and patriarchy and imperialism and colonialism, and how WMAF fits into all that.” Slow clap. So you acknowledge that WMAF is at the nexus of all that racism and sexism, at least on the aggregate. But you still want to benefit from imperialism? How is that better than being ignorant? In some ways knowledge is more evil. Like the Asian women who write these “progressive” “feminist” articles about how they know its so bad being an Asian man, but sorry they also married a white man. Is that the model you are looking to, when you say you will be a WMAF who acknowledges racism against Asian men? Sorry son, I took advantage of you being the worst race of males, but try to make the best of it, and fight the man. (not me though!)
Does it mean every WMAF is bad? No… but. But either you have to be willfully ignorant. Maybe not outright racist, but not really thinking about racism either. Or you are a hypocrite and opportunist. You acknowledge structural racism, and then you proceed to profit off your privileges. Acknowledgement means nothing. There is nothing worse than those articles written by WMAF,that says they get Asian male problems.
Oh I just happened to meet my White husband, Asian wife. We just met and it clicked. I’m not like your evil parents, who went to Asia looking for an easy wife. My parents met in the USA. Through a mutual friend. Thats about as conventional way for a relationship to start as you can get. Once as a kid, I even asked my parents, if they could invite that friend to my birthday party, since she was the reason I was born. Back then I looked at me being born as a good thing.
BUT. But I don’t accept that WMAF “just happens”; when AMWF doesn’t “just happen”. Lets say my parents’ WMAF is pure and innocent, they just met and clicked. When I told my mom about my hatred of WMAF to her face, this was pretty much her answer. Lets accept it. But then switch the genders around. If it were an Asian male immigrant to the US, with a thick accent, would he “just happen” to meet a white woman and marry? Its not an accident we Hapas have white dads. Just by probability, there was more of a chance of being WMAF. A LOT more. And I don’t care what the official stats are. I go by what I see. And I honor the legacy of Wilkes McDermid, who personally counted it, and saw 99:1. This has been my general experience as well. I’ve said 100:1. I see WMAF everywhere. Maybe I’ve seen 20 AMWFs in my whole lifetime. So don’t tell me it “just happens”. Don’t tell me you grew up in a 70% white country or a 90% white town. Because if it “just happened” it would “just happen” for AMWF too. I go by the ghost of Wilkes. If I see 99:1, then its 99:1. I can make all the excuses in the world I want for my parents. But the point is, it wouldn’t have just happened for an Asian male FOB. If he went to a 90% white town, he wouldn’t “just happen” to meet a nice white girl and marry her.
Thats why I’m angry at my parents just for being part of the WMAF trend. And have given them much grief for it.
The thing about the WMAF sons with bad parents, which seems to be most of them, both those that agree or disagree with me. The thing is, they make it about their parents. They have horror stories to tell. These horror stores certainly illustrate the challenges of the Hapa experience. I have some politically incorrect anecdotes, but I wouldn’t say I have horror stories. But then these WMAFs come along, and they read all these horror stories. And it just reassures them. Me and my Asian wife are normal people. We are not these monsters. So obviously it doesn’t apply to me. Even if 90% of WMAFs are monsters, I’m part of the 10%, so my kids will be totally fine. And the Hapas don’t exactly challenge this. They resort, that no you must deep down be a bad WMAF. Don’t get me wrong. That usually IS the case. On the internet, WMAFs have a terrible case of racist Tourettes, where they can’t help but be racist and sexist.
In the rare case where a WMAF doesn’t slip up, these Hapas are shocked. And they fawn all over them. You guys will be fine, because you aren’t racist. You’re not one of the bad ones. Yeah, I’m surprised too, just because WMAF online is just so racist and sexist. Meeting one that isn’t is a diamond in the rough. And generally I wont attack them. I wont say that really you are racist, or that just by being in a WMAF you’re evil. If they believe and say the right things, and they aren’t racist, I wont start trouble with them. BUT. But I don’t believe they’ve solved the Hapa problem. The Hapas with bad parents. Maybe they agree, problem solved. They had bad parents. They see most WMAFs on the internet are bad. They read the bad WMAF news stories. And then they meet a WMAF who isn’t obviously bad. And they say, your kids are going to be totally fine. I disagree. I say their kids can very well be me.
Don’t get me wrong. I’m all for anti-racism. And I don’t want my point to be, go ahead be racist against your Hapa kids, don’t be racist, they are all doomed in the end. Being racist against your own kids, is a horrific form of child abuse, and it definitely makes a bad situation much, much, worse. But not being racist, doesn’t remove the bad situation. So when I say my parents aren’t that bad, aren’t stereotypical, aren’t racist. It might seem I’m making a pro-WMAF statement. But in the longrun, its a much darker anti-WMAF statement. Unlike the other Hapas, I’m not going to tell you, just don’t be racist, just address Asian male problems, and your kid is clear sailing. No, you can do everything perfectly right, and your son is still me.
Parents only have a limited role in their kids lives. Society, culture, peers has a much bigger influence. So lets say the WMAF parents believe all the right things, perfectly politically correct, have never said anything bad about Asians their entire life. Then the Half Asian son goes to school. He learns he lives in a culture, where Asian men are overwhelmingly the least valued as males. He learns 1st hand all the Asian stereotypes. He sees the overwhelming WMAF flood. Which follows naturally from the proposition that Asian men are the worst men. WMAF is at the heart of Asian emasculation. Both a cause and effect of it. Without commenting at all, on the character of his parents as individuals, once he has come to experience life as a Half-Asian man, WMAF comes to embody everything thats terrible about that life. Its obvious that women of ALL races, but most conspicuously Asian women have rejected Asian men as men. Then what is he supposed to think about his WMAF parents? And you not being directly, openly racist against Asian men, doesn’t fix it. Asian women still by far have the highest rate of outmarriage, overshadowing overwhelmingly any other race of women. And you are part of it. Your son can certainly think like me. WMAF is about me being the worst kind of man. And my parents are WMAF.
This is why me saying “my parents aren’t that bad” is not a copout, but a defense of the Hapa cause. I’m not going to tell a WMAF who acknowledges Asian men have it bad, that their sons will be just fine. What are you going to tell your son? Yes, theres a lot of racism against Asian men, especially in the dating field. Sorry about that son. Acknowledgement doesn’t solve the problem. Face it, your WMAF is going in the wrong direction. Your WMAF is part of the trend, that Asian women, unlike any other race of women, are totally unsatisfied with their race of men. Why is inmarriage better than outmarriage? Its not about better or worse. Its about whats normative. Its about IS not OUGHT. All other races of women DO inmarry, thats the IS, thats the facts. Asian women are the ONLY race of women to outmarry in such large numbers. Implicitly it is a sexual selection against Asian men. But we don’t need to just deduce the implications of it. Its explicit. There so much overt propaganda saying Asian men are the worst race of men. I’ve said before, the shock is not that AMWF is so rare, the miracle is that AMWF can happen at all, given the overwhelming tide against Asian men. I’m half inclined to ignore all the white women in AMWF who post here as trolls trying to weaken my resolve. I’ve never seen any of you in real life. Now in the internet, you want to tell me, you exist and have found my blog?
If its all about bad parents. Then the WMAFs reading can just say they wont be bad parents. Even when they do have racist tourettes. If I say I have good parents, then there aren’t any easy solutions.
It matters for the Hapas too. Theres no point trying to convince every Hapa in the world, that their parents are evil. You wouldn’t even convince me, the author of this blog. But theres no use, just writing off those Hapas as brainwashed. I’m glad all these Hapa resources about terrible parents exist. And I hope it helps those Hapas grapple with their demons. But suppose a Hapa with nothing against his parents comes to my blog. If hes suffered as a Half Asian male in society, he might identify with the thought process I’ve been through. As far as parents go, he might remember all the ways his parents have been less than parents. But more importantly than them as individuals, he sees the Hapa paradox. Hes born of WMAF, but WMAF as trend says hes less of a man. Its impossible to read it any other way in the context of US culture, and what Asian men and Asian women are to US culture.
Look my blog isn’t and never has been a programmatic statement. I don’t lay out what the Hapa problems are in a concise, orderly manner, and then present a program on how to fix it. Its personal, rambling, autobiographical, stream of consciousness. And maybe this hurts my blog in being a tool to convince anyone of any specific position. But I look at it heuristically. The only people who can be convinced in the end, are my fellow Hapas. So they look over the whole stream of my life. I’m sure much of it is unique to me. But some of it, it only happens to Hapas. And they might have thought they are the only people in the world who’ve ever dealt with it. And then they learn its a Hapa issue. They can see how my thought process evolved, and they can choose to follow me if they want.
As long as Asian men and Asian women occupy the spaces they do in US society. Which in my opinion are the worst places any males and females can be in a cultural space. Then WMAF will be a substantiation of it. If Asian men are nerdy, sucky, enemy eunuchs. And Asian women are easy prostitutes, or quiet, non-feminists, that even nerdy awkward white guys can talk to and have a good chance with. Then WMAF follows naturally. The overwhelming numbers of WMAF. Follow from a race, in which the men are sexless, and the women are easily available to the lowest status white men. Its ugly. And Hapa come to feel like they are born out of something ugly, no matter who their parents are as individuals.
To the “good WMAFs” as a Hapa male, born of WMAF, thats how I feel. I feel that WMAF embodies all the ugliness associated with asian men and asian women in white society. Its ugly and I see WMAF as ugly. And its not going to change so long as WMAF takes place in a context where Asians are where they are. I hate the cultural space Asians occupy. There is no worse type of man or worse type of women. Everything the ideal Man shouldn’t be, thats what an Asian man is. You think your half whiteness can free your Half Asian son from all that? It didn’t free me. Just look at pictures of REAL Hapas, NOT your fake Keanu and Dean Cain. Some of them might be on the mixed side. But you can’t look at pictures of Hapas, and tell me, that Asianess is irrelevant to them. They will suffer it. And if WMAF remains anti-Asian its anti-Hapa. This is what I mean when I write that I was born of my own racial castration.
As long as Asians remain what they are to White Society, Hapas will remain what they are. And with the True Face of Hapas emerging in just the last few years, America does not like what it sees.
You swear it was innocent, but there’s little you would ever know about them. Your mother made a conscientious decision to cut you off from the rest of the world, and I do suggest that as long as you live you remind them of this.
Trust me, nothing is more painful to a father than watching his bloodline implode.
I can’t believe I’m on the other side being one of those Hapas saying “my parents were different”. But as my above post points out; the Hapa Cause, needs a guy in my position saying all this. Because thats the number one WMAF answer to all the horror stories on your blog.
“Sorry you had such terrible parents, but it has nothing to do with MY WMAF.”
They can’t give me that answer. As my titles says, even if they think they are the perfect WMAF; their son can come to think exactly like me. You’re right I don’t know the whole history of my parents. All I know is that they don’t openly have the traits of the worst stereotypical WMAFs. They have me, the worst enemy of WMAF, living in their own house, ready to pounce on the least politically incorrect statement; and report it here. That be a hard test for anyone to pass.
>Your mother made a conscientious decision to cut you off from the rest of the world
If you mean I wasn’t seeing many WMAF couples, thats true. But it wasn’t by design, as I was around plenty of Asians. In fact my mom was not part of the “WMAF club” but only friends with Asians married to other Asians. She introduced me to other Asian boys through this network. Although I didn’t get along with them well at the time.
In a way we are both privileged Hapas, and both had an option to turn our backs on the Hapa problem. Your parents embodied many of the worst aspects of WMAF. But at the same time, you said you were one of the more White-Looking Hapas. You had it in your power to turn your back on Asian problems, and just embrace being White. But you didn’t.
I’m on the more Asian looking side. (Although now that I know that Dean and Keanu, aren’t real Hapas, my frame of reference is more accurate, I know there are plenty of Hapas more Asian looking than me.) Theres no way I could escape being an Asian male in America. But I could just say, I’m sorry all you other Hapas have such bad parents. I don’t think my parents imbue those stereotypes. Its not my problem. But that wasn’t my stance. I took a very harsh position, that WMAF inherently degrades all Asian males, including Hapas. My anger was largely based on WMAF as a sociological trend, and not personal against my parents. I said this in 2011.
>I do suggest that as long as you live you remind them of this.
Trust me, nothing is more painful to a father than watching his bloodline implode
I do. I have told my parents that their line ends with me. Its almost unjust that my parents have had the most anti-WMAF hate barrage from their own son; when their are plenty of other WMAF parents who deserve it more. While I’m not inherently against race-mixing, when I attack my parents, I’m basically saying that WMAF is always wrong under all conditions and can never be justified as long as the AMWF imbalance is so great. Thats why I could never tell one of the “good WMAF” couples, that you guys are doing everything right, your Hapa son will be fine. Because I don’t see any WMAF couples being better than my parents, and I’m still so harsh on them.
There can be no line between good and bad because all of these relationships rely on petty lies and social imbalances to even exist in the first place.
I know I was the inspiration for you on Eurasian issues. I awakened you and your blog has done so much to awaken others. I’ve analyzed and criticized WMAF couples, but for a real dissection of their flaws, I’d have to recommend your blog. Knowing that I was the inspiration; I felt a little guilty seemingly retreating and “going soft”. I know how much you hate Hapas who say “my parents weren’t like that” and its your mission to convince them they were. After all you’ve done to spread my original message, I didn’t want to let you down.
I actually went back to read over my 2011 blog, which surprisingly wasn’t much, only 24 posts all together over a 2 month period. Yes, theres a lot of anger against WMAF and my own parents. But I also notice that in article after article, I constantly have to insist and remind everyone that my parents aren’t that bad, my beef with them isn’t personal and WMAF as a whole is the problem. My very first line of my first post even said my parents aren’t bad people as individuals.
This quote was from June 15th, one of the 1st eight posts on my blog.
“I don’t know how many times I have to repeat it. My parents are not especially evil. I do NOT come from a stereotypical WM/aF marriage. If your going to force me to repeat myself over and over again on it.”
Already in the 1st weeks of my blog; I was already complaining about constantly having to repeat that my parents weren’t bad. From the start its never been about that. Thats actually a strong point of my blog. The reason I had to repeat myself so much was that WMAFs were making the accusation that I just have bad parents. The same accusation they make against you and the others. This was part of my defense of my blog and claims.
But I agree WMAF can’t be separated from the social imbalances. I never said my parents were totally innocent. I said even if I assume that they are, for the sake of argument; I still couldn’t let them off the hook for the social imbalance. I said its no accident that WMAF “just happens” and AMWF doesn’t.
Black women get ragged on pretty badly too, though the dynamics between BF/WM and WW/BM are different. Why is that BW can not care about the millions of men proclaiming their undesirability but AM/Hapa men take it extra hard? I don’t understand it well.
Go to youtube. Black women are offended when they receive racism from Black Men who hate Black women and only date White women. It is crushing to their self esteem and they don’t deserve the abuse considering it is Black women that are primarily raising Black children themselves.
Emmm….do you mean I care if my kids look Asian, black, Hispanic? I am mixed white and that’s good for health. Hybrid vigour exists. I don’t want to see a ” coffee coloured world ” in the future, anymore than I want black and white swans ( who can interbreed) to all become grey…but it dosen’t worry me if we do all end up coffee. It just nice to have variety.
Hello,
Out of curiosity, do you think the situation is the same for HAPA females? By the way, I am an Asian female myself, who has never dated a man before, and is very, very aware of the prejudice against Asian men and is attracted to people, rather than their race–and yes, I have had crushes on Asian men (as well as Indian and Asian men). I am sure you are attractive, masculine and a lovely person. I can definitely understand where you are coming from, and I am deeply sorry you have suffered so much as a result of the way our society is set up, my heart truly goes out to you. Please know that there are Asian women out there who have grown up in a white society and still very much find Asian men attractive, and that you are a worthy, beautiful human being regardless of what the media or society says. *hugs*
Lots of love,
Jane
Hello,
Out of curiosity, do you think the situation is the same for HAPA females? By the way, I am an Asian female myself, who has never dated a man before, and is very, very aware of the prejudice against Asian men and is attracted to people, rather than their race–and yes, I have had crushes on Asian men (as well as Indian and Asian men). I am sure you are attractive, masculine and a lovely person. I can definitely understand where you are coming from, and I am deeply sorry you have suffered so much as a result of the way our society is set up, my heart truly goes out to you. Please know that there are Asian women out there who have grown up in a white society and still very much find Asian men attractive, and that you are a worthy, beautiful human being regardless of what the media or society says. *hugs*
Lots of love,
Jane,
We’d like to get in touch with you regarding the 2016 Mixed Remixed Festival. Can you provide us with an email address? http://www.mixedremixed.org
I want to say thank you for your blog and all the work you have put into it. I found it back in 2012 and I had never read anything like it before. I’m not mixed I’m 100% white living in Europe, that’s why I found it interesting to read a perpective I’ve never heard before. I really appreciate you sharing your views on your blog. Once again, Thank you.
Thanks Ingrid. I know that my blog touches on some delicate issues of race, gender and mixing and so its bound to be controversial. But I tried to explain myself as calmly and reasonably as I could, so people could understand how I came to think and feel the way that I do. I feel frustrated when even with my best efforts, some readers seem totally unable to understand where I’m coming from. I really appreciate it, when someone not from America, and without any direct link to these mixings, can comprehend and appreciate my perspective.
Hi again and thanks for responding to my comment! After reading this blog I started to take notice of the things you talk about on here. For example, white right wing men who are obsessed with asian women. There was one guy on an online forum I visit that was bashing asian men and said that asian women should be with white men instead cause they treat them better. I called him out and asked him if he realized that his sons would be asian men. He didn’t respond to me so I don’t know what he thought of my comments.
I’m wondering do you think this appropriate for me to do? I’m a white woman and I don’t have an asian boyfriend or half asian children. From reading this blog over the years it seems like most white women who read this blog fall into those categories. Do you think it’s inappropiate for me to talk about these things that don’t really affect me and that I don’t have directly experience of? I know that hapas like you can speak up for yourself but when I see that kinda racism and sexism it makes me angry and I want to say something.
I think the comments by women like you, not directly connected to Hapas, are very powerful. You can look at it from a neutral and objective perspective, and so your insights and agreement are most appreciated.
I would refer to your comment below regarding white men who are obsessed or want to be, or expect to be able to be, with Asian women for racist reasons. In your case you mention a white man who believed whites make better husbands for Asian women.
Please note its a big world with billions of people. There are Black men who are obsessed with white women or who want, or expect to be, with white women for racist reasons. This can include them believing that white men are all weak, sissy, and sexually inadequate.
Both types of the above men exist but they are not the majority and I somewhat doubt you would endorse a website by a mulatto that criticised black men with white partners in the same generalised obsessive terms as this one does in regard to WMBF.
Most difficulties and problems, including wars relate to economics/greed. There is currently a imbalance in WMAF and AMWF due to whites being able to use their money to obtain Asian female partners in places like Thailand and the Philippines. Some such women are “gold diggers” as are some white women. But western currency goes further in such countries. Many Asian women are simply looking for a good provider for their future(or even more so, existing children. That some Asian women might be obsessed with whites and believe them superior may be true (like I said, it’s a big world). Others may be as delusional in regard to what is the average white man as American women who think all French men are romantic lovers. What you goning to do? Police, stop, bar such relationships.
If I was a mulatto brought up by a black white hating father, that would clearly be psychologically damaging. What you going do? Police, stop, bar such relationships?
http://www.ozy.com/true-story/i-tried-it-being-white/38961 The confessions of a race and culture traitor….
I bet there is a lot more Asian couples than Asian-White couples, so calm down and recognize that. Also, you are the one who is racist. I’m an Asian woman and I’ve dated a guy from every race. My current boyfriend is White. Back then, when I was ignorant, I told myself that I disliked white guys and I wouldn’t date a white guy because of racism. However, when you stop looking at people for their color and just look at them for who they actually are… you’d realize that there is an amazing person behind whatever race he is. And that’s why I love my boyfriend. I didnt expect to fall for him because he’s white and I used to be racist. But after talking to him, I realize that he’s better than my ideal type and I love his personality a lot. I do not care what race he is or how he looks like because I love him as a person. So stop being an ignorant, racist bigot. Stop being a little hoe and go learn to love yourself and see the world for what it actually is instead of through your racist bias. Stop being a little cunt.
You;re a hypocrite saying you dislike racism when you are in fact, racist towards women who aren’t white. So grow up and learn to love someone for their personality and not for their white-ness. You hypocritical slut.
Racist Asian Women Who hate Asian Men are unable to love their own Asian Looking Half Asian Sons And hence will subconsciously hate their own Asian Looking Half Asian SonS..
But not all asian woman with hapa sons with hate their own sons. Some do but most don’t.
@Lily Stop lying…..you know you are only dating him because he is white….
Quit assuming Asian woman only date white men because of their whiteness. Troll.
And my boyfriend isn’t with me for my race either. He is like me and open to date all types of races. It just happens that he is white and I am Asian. It just happens that this guy with an amazing personality is a white guy. And that this girl with a cute face is an Asian girl. He also isn’t racist towards Asian males, as he just sees them as people and not inferior. In fact, he is friends with several Asian guys and guys of other races as well. And there are a number of Asian male/White female couples. But in my experience, Asian guys don’t usually like white girls. In fact, 96% of Asian guys I have met are into Asian women or another race, but not white. I probably wouldn’t like a white girl either if I was a guy, unless she had a really amazing personality. Also, it’s disgusting how you fetishize white females. You are a whore and you are a culture traitor. Grow up and learn to love people for who they are as a person, and not their goddamn skin color. You freaky cunt. You’re a slut. Stop fetishizing WMAF and white women.
And if me and my boyfriend last and we have a mixed-race son, he will have a great life because he will have a loving father who knows how to make him smile and play sports with him and can be serious and goofy at the right time. And he will have a loving mother to nurture him and keep his life focused. And he will also be incredibly good looking because his parents are both obviously good looking. And he will also be charming from his dad and be tough like his mom. And he won’t grow up to be racist like you because he will like someone for their personality and not see the world for it’s racial bias.
Your Half Asian Son will be charming just like Elliot Rodger and Daniel Holtzclaw lol……………….and You and Your White husband will fill his brain with White Supremacist Ideas just like Elliot Rodgers’s parents did……
Do you have the evidence to back up your assertions? I could trawl the Internet for ” fucked up” mulattos…So u then say black and white can’t get married because of mulatto ” fuck ups”?
Once in the USA it was a big deal for a WASP to marry a Irish or Italian American. Who cares now? Should have WASP/ Italian Irish not have got married in previous generations because of racism and their children not ( supposedly) ” fitting in” to then social dynamic?
In South Africa a white who marries a black still faces plenty of social opprobrium despite SA being post apartheid…And yeah…the blacks often don’t like the mulattos and the ” coloureds” don’t like the blacks…Guess that means apartheid was right, then?
I accept that ” hapas” have discrimination in some parts of America. That discrimination is nothing compared with what Blacks experience. Stop feeling sorry for yourself.
Let Lily alone. To say that all WMAF couples raise their children in white supremacist environments is beyond ignorant. I’m a teenaged hapa and my Taiwanese mum and White father raised me to love my partially Taiwanese ethnicity.
Stop lying racist White supremacist bitch………….
That just may work if you do all those loving, caring things you mention. And move to some cave in an isolated area with no connections to the outside world, i.e. neighbors, mass comm even books, internet, etc.
Good luck with that.
This is very sad and difficult to read, and not because of your perceived plight, but rather the real problem you are blind to.. Women of every race aren’t dating you because they regard your race as unattractive, they’re not dating you BECAUSE for all your years in life, you are immature, exceedingly negative, and too selfish/self-absorbed to see or care about the suffering of the ones closest to you. If at the age of 15 you were throwing words such as “You have RAPED my mother, and I will RAPE your daughter” at your parents, and a decade later you still feel justified in saying so, it tells me you have not learned what unconditional love is, or that having to suffer/sacrifice to provide love to someone else is a tenet of every relationship. And no woman or girl wants to get involved with a man like this. No woman wants to date a man who reduces every unique aspect of her down to one factor, being an “AF/asian female or WF/white female. Trust me when I say your parents love you, and are probably trying their best to understand and guide you, especially since you say you have not been thrown out of the house like many children would be at this point. There is not a single parent in this world who doesn’t suffer when their child suffers. Now, speaking as a physician myself, your posts show very evident signs of either bipolar disorder or placement on the spectrum of autism. Both are debilitating conditions to deal with without the support of a medical professional and your family, and I think this may be why you have suffered by yourself for so long, and so silently.. Please go see your doctor and seek his/her advice. It’s neither healthy or normal to have a childhood history of discussing rape/”spirits of fatherland”s/race traitors, thinking about others only in terms of their ethnicity and ability to “Score women”,or to have such a fixation on your race as the root of your problems. It’s never too late to help yourself and live a gainfully enjoyable life. I look at your posts from a third party perspective and know that you are wrong. Why? My brothers,cousins, friends are Hapa themselves, and while they have encountered set-backs here and there (a white/black/indian/asian etc girl rejected them), each and every one of them got back on their feet. Instead of internalizing the rejection, they rallied and improved their life, whether via beautification, specialising in a sport or hobby. They have all found (or are finding) women who appreciate their lust for life. Speaking as a woman now, you probably attract very few women for the same reasons that very few women are attracted to men with undiagnosed/addressed mental conditions. (Which are, among many other things: depression/having no interests/passions/hobbies/friends/lack of interest in, or failure to cultivate your innate talents) And it is okay if you haven’t fully found your niche in this world. I want to tell you to know that you are capable of more. You must know that you are as capable as any of the people above of being happy.
Lol. Dude you’ve got your head waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay to far up your ass. And you tack waaay too much value onto celebrity culture. Good Lord! Yes white males, in general, probably have a higher average physical sexual market value than “halfs”, but tough cookies. So what. . I’ll bet a fat, unattractive white can easily whine that he’s uglier than the average “halfie” and blame it on his slow “white” metabolism…not everyone gets everything they want… Stop victimizing yourself and start enjoying life, or before you know it you’ll soon be a miserable 50 year old who blames all his problems on his mixed-race identity.
You guys need to wake up. You’re wasting your potential by gluing your eyes to a computer screen filling your minds with this useless crap. Some of it may have some truth in it, but most of it is built on a weak foundation of logic. The bottom line is, giving far too much attention to this issue and you’re driving yourselves mad. You are human beings with infinite potential to add value to this world. There are a multitude of highly influential mixed race people in the world who became influential because they focused on important things of value and didn’t let this sort of negativity bring them down. The reality is, no matter who you are, not matter what race, gender, sexual orientation, there is always going to be a way to look at the world that will convince you are eternally “f*cked”, for the lack of a better term. That’s the way human nature is. There is a voice in the back of everyone’s mind telling them they aren’t good enough. Living a happy, productive life means learning how to overcome it. I know before even reading my message you will have convinced yourself of your own points and therefore will probably have counterarguments describing why your situation is worse than that of others because of some WM/AF slightly twisted reasoning. Sure, I can see where you are coming from, but there are far too many holes in your logic for me to jump on your bandwagon. At the root of your arguments there is simply insecurity, and a strong need for validation. It’s tough because as a mixed race person, there are a lot of societal forces that you have to deal with, I get that. It’s hard to argue that there are not some really cool benefits that come along with it as well. To be honest, I think you guys are bothered because something inside of you hates the fact that you believe that white people are superior in some way. I think that’s the crux of your issue. The reality is that there are no such thing as superior races. Anybody who has interacted closely with people of different backgrounds finds that there are most certainly superior individuals and genetics, but that they do not limit themselves to one race in particular. I would agree that there are cultures that have been more effective at certain things, but there are people within every race that defy every stereotype. It’s really tough to make blanket statements that stand the test of objective argument. The problem with your situation, is that you are confining your thoughts you yourselves and to online message boards and blogs. Most people, Eurasian WM/AF males included, who are doing real shit with their lives aren’t going to spend time perusing these online halls of pessimism and victimization. Trust me, I know a lot of WM/AFs and AF/WMs Eurasian males and your arguments don’t stand the test of reality. Maybe the Eliott Rodgers and other mentally ill individuals are scaring you to think that there is some sort of trend and you are all doomed because of these societal forces and racism and confused identity, etc. I understand, you’re scared. I hope you guys can gain some courage to challenge your own limiting perceptions and/or come to peace with yourselves so that you can go out into the world and enjoy it. Staying online spreading this sort of negativity only serves to damage the minds of those who come in contact with it. Is that the sort of legacy you want to leave on this world? I know you’re probably going to say that you are fighting the evils of WM/AF, etc. etc. I’ve read almost everything you have written, I know, I get it. The reality is, it’s going to happen. As the world globalizes, human beings will be human beings and they will mix with each other. It depends on which camp you are in, you can indeed argue against it, but there are equally as valid, and in my opinion, much stronger arguments for it. Either way, you are only hurting yourselves by dwelling on this issue. There are far greater things you can be doing with your time. I wish you all the best, brothers, on your journey forward in life. And to all my hapa brothers out there, be proud of who you are. Stop reading this crap and realize there is a whole world out there waiting for you to fucking kick some ass. Peace and love.
If you guys took the time to actually read my comment… I already told you guys that I date guys of all races. And btw, update, I dumped that white guy because hes a whore, irresponsible and etc.
I’m now seeing a Mexican guy and I am not seeing him for his race. I love him for all our inside jokes, his sweetness, the way he makes me laugh and etc.
I’m sorry you guys are so ignorant that you think love is just a race. It honestly isn’t. I’m sorry you guys are so insecure and such pathetic losers that you are self internalizing white supremity. The fact that you even believe that any Asian woman that dates another race is disgusting means that you are so insecure that you are internalizing racism yourself. I’m sorry you’re a disgrace to yourself as a person and your insecurities and your race.
Stop labeling people in stereotypes because we are not a stereotype, we are human.
Frankly, if you examine your dating pattern, you will realise that you tend to date more western looking men. Sharp nose, ape-like eyes etc.You have indoctrinated to hate the features of your race.
Race is more than skin-colour , it could easily mean western looking features or characteristics.
When an Asian girl dates a white men, is she not saying I prefer the sharp nose of a white man better than my Asian fathers,brothers? Is she not saying that the virtues exhibited by these white men are better than Asian men? Afterall, what virtues does an Asian man have that cannot be compared to a white men? If he does not have these virtues,can I not say that these virtues are found more in white men and that they have been brain-washed to place Asian virtues on a lower level of attractiveness than the virtues of these white men.
Not really… my Mexican boyfriend looks Filipino
Emmm…I have ” yellow fever” and that’s because I am very attracted to that look. It’s nothing to do with Asians all suposedly wanting to wash my feet. If they are attractive and have a nice personality, it does not matter to me whether they come from central China or were adopted and brought up by white people in Chicago. I don’t dislike White features but just find myself more attracted to Asian. Why should that be bad? Why should preferring white features be bad?
@ Lily Don’t worry your future half Asian son may have similar blog like this…
And please think TWICE before bringing a half Asian son into this world, if you really hate/despise Asian men…
It was pretty common 50 years ago to tell bblack/white couples not to marry and have children as the children would not know where they “belong” and would be fucked up. It certainly was true that mulattos faced discrimination from both black and white society. Blacks called them “yellowmen” and whites called them half breeds or “niggas”. Well, we have moved on… And we would not have moved on if one had accepted all the reasons why different looking humans (supposedly) can’t interbreed.
If the Nazi had won the second world war, then being a brown eyed European would now be a big problem for the brown eyed. That it would have become a big problem does not mean that worrying about blueeyeMbrowneyeF is not stupid. One can bring up good kids whatever the colour of your partners eyes, skin, shape of features or hair.
I used to be into half Asian guys and now that I’ve read this, I think a lot less of them. Thanks asshole.
I’m racist towards white people. I just hate everything that they stand for. I know it is irrational, but I hate white people. Yesterday, some white lady came into my work all demanding and shit and I said “sorry but I dont serve your white entitled ass. Go ahead and report me to my manager, I will tell them what a racist, white cunt you are. I am not going to give you my name. You should give me yours so I can report you for harassing me and interrupting me from doing my job. I’ll tell security how you are harassing me because you think your better than me because your white. So fuck off and stop being a little crybaby bitch” logically, I know that’s rude. But fuck it, I dont know, I really hate white people. They do think theyre better than you subconsciously. So fuck them and anyone who believes in white supremacy.
“They do think”? I agree there are plenty of racists out there… Try being black in China or Russia. Maybe the majority of humans are currently racist but things have certainly improved in Western societies over the last 50 years… I am white and do not think myself as racially superior to any race…. Maybe being brought up in cosmopolitan London gives me a different perspective. An Euroasian in a London school will be just one of multiple racial types ( including mixed) and not stand out as different. Sure rural Alabama is different to London or New York, but you should try the difference between being black or Euroasian in rural Alabama…
So you are a racist. Anyone who disagrees is full of sh**
I’m going to provide a comprehensive political programme for asian/WMAF kids out. Don’t worry, in the U.S. we have incredible bargaining power, I think we have this shit in the bag. Follow me at @SanguineEmpiric
You just need to get into alt-right/NRx/Propertarianism (latter two preferably) but understand there’s a TON of non-whites in NRx, and we will outline a programme out. Just talk to me on twitter or
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Trust me, we can win this thing, and demand that they respect us. I’m not quite asian, I’m an Asiatic Aryan(Sikh). We’re “Ex-White”(Lol), Jatt Sikh comes from Goth(old german tribes). So I have some affinity for them, but also with you guys. Let’s fight this one out, shall we? I truly care about all your problems, and would like to show you there’s a way we can achieve what we want. No need to be solemn.
Every race comes on this planet to fight for it’s survival, fight till the end, not to suicide themselves. Your Euro and East Asian ancestors survived horrifying things in Eurasia. They did not sis back and cry. though I understand your as well as the positions of new Eurasians is unique and it is harsh. You guys face some really strange and unique problems. But learn to be bigger than your problem. DO NOT LET your parents determine anything in your life and future. Their pairing may disgust you but you must move from disgust and hatred to detachment. Detach from unnecessary thoughts and emotions and win back your life. Those people who mock you, Asian girls who hate their own race, white women etc… are neither perfect nor live perfect lives.
Do not let Western media affect your life in it’s potrayal of Asian or Eurasian men. Western media is just cultural marxist brain washing. Unfortunately women (especially in California) are slaves to the media. The US media who could not even predict a Donald Trump victory, the same media which gloated about a 95% chance of a Clinton presidency, do not take them seriously. They are scum. a joke.
The world is huge, California is not the world, nor the U.S. Travel, go to Europe and meet new people.
One option convert to Islam, you are guaranteed a wife in Islam.
Second, learn game, game helps, do not believe the crap about Asians/Eurasians are useless
Alpha acting/dressed Asian guy wins over Beta White acting/dressed guy in China
Asian guy pickup
For game try girlschase.com
See all the videos of Elkreif
or actualised.com
Also
Female love for men is rubbish in one respect. Women may never really love men at all
Read the blog of Rollo Tomassi
https://therationalmale.com
Also check out these great philosophy videos, very helpful
Hope these help.
I’m kind of shocked by your negativity, and curious about you as well. I hope you will contact me sometime and/or post more! ^_^ -22 yo female white/asian
I think people need to get a grip….If a “white privilege ” man in apartheid era South Africa fell in love with a black women, what problems did they have? What problems do black/white relationships still have in South Africa or elsewhere. Should black/whites not have kids as “they (mulatto kids) won’t fit in”. Many white women won’t date short men irrespective of race. That’s unfortunate for short men but hardly the end of the world. There are more WMAFs as more white women won’t date Asians than there are white men who will. That is the way it currently is, but can change. Once there were far more White male/black female. Then it became more the reverse and now it’s becoming more even. Nevertheless racism still abounds.
I accept that eurasian males may experience racist problems including in dating white women. But hey, how do you fancy being black?
Why not translate everything you said to being half Jewish and half Aryan in Nazi Germany? What would be the dominant narrative regarding your supposed inferiority as a part jew in such a soceity. How many part Jews with non Jewish fathers would attempt to buy into the dominant narrative of Aryan superiority and hated Jews and hate being half Jewish…?
Ok, it took an war and invasion to overthrow the Nazi narrative of Aryan racial superiority..
However there is no need for war to overturn a dominant narrative of white superiority in the present western world…it’s already changing and in the major cities mixed race from all races is becoming the new normal….I accept that it remote parts of Missisippi it will take a long time for the negative ( and I must add internerlised negativity of some Eurasians) attitude to Eurasians to dissappear…But the important thing is that not only are attitudes changing…but that Eurasians should not internalise white superiority anymore than part Jews in Nazi Germany should have internalised Aryan superiority….
I used to think you were crazy and self hating but you are highly intelligent once you calm your anger
Let me tell u a secret. There is no actual community. Asian people are some of the greediest, sociopathic and short sighted people in the world. Ethnicity has nothing to do with “getting along”. U can bet that most whites have been killed by other whites and most asians by other Asians. This whole asian solidarity bs is a typical American thing and like all thing asians just a copy of the real deal I.e. black experience in the united states. I can go on a long screed but want to leave a bit of help.
The only two groups in America that have managed to beat whites have been nomadic, rootless, legendarily non-cultural and confrontational. I would even go as far as to say that the root of all human creativity and intelligence is nomadism(refusal to settle) both real and metaphorical. The two groups are of course Jews and blacks.
Every other immigrant group from irish to Indian has carried too much baggage and acted more like a caravan than a nomadic raiding party. Do u see Jews/blacks caring about how society perceives Africa and Israel. No, they have mentally cut off all connections to the “motherland” and decided to carve out a kingdom of their own in America which has imbibed them with the strength and wisdom to wage a war on the settled group of America(whites). This is also the reason why a black man has been in the white House despite blacks numbering less than Hispanics and Jews could do the same whole asians have no chance.
Stop trying to carry the weight of Asia and asian men on your weak shoulders, leave it to asians, understand that u r not an Asian and there are no red carpets waiting for u in Asia. Become a true nomad of the spirit and channel your inner barbarian, live for yourself, fight, fuck, and most importantly pledge allegiance only to those who are nomadic like u and are ready to pledge allegiance to you otherwise you will forever be disappointed. Always remember no one screws asians like other Asians, why pledge allegiance on such bs like ethnicity, that is childish and children get killed in the wild.
It is an age old story, barbaric nomads collect and destroy the any settlement. They do that not by being idiots or pussies or making groups based on skin color or eye shape but by being ruthlessly rational and calculating. I think a black person would be a better ally than random asian.
Most asians have the mentality of permanent guests or tourists in America which is very same to the migrant workers middle East, as u can see the results are roughly the same. Burn the bridges to the “homeland” and prepare to carve a kingdom of your own, let other Asians go to hell, they are losers who want to suck up to whites and believe that the power balance in America is god ordained when in reality white power is at its last leg, the barbarians are winning(blacks and Jews). Be one of the winner do not be in the camp of losers.
Just come down to mexico m8 most of us are halflings and don´t give a fuck, plus anything exotic has it´s merits here. As for racism against full asians, mostly chinese it´s reversed, many people don´t like them because they won´t let their children intermarry and are more financially successfull (mostly because of slave labor in asian restaurants), if they just opened up a little they would be better received.
I note u appear to delete my comments.
My comments aren’t racist. You simply can’t stand that they they point out how nonsensical, and indeed, racist your arguements are. You have boasted of a high quality education and educational achievement. I don’t so boast. I had a poor quality education and know that I am only slightly above average intelligence. Your promblem is failing to use your intelligence to even consider that you may be exaggerating out of all proportion WMAF and failing to differentiate between the effects of dysfunctional patents and societal racism. My father hated Jews, although I am one fourth Jewish. Unless your father beat you for being part Asian, get over it. I see my father as a jew obecessed silly old git. Try being black and born and raised in the States ( even with a privileged education). Stop feeling sorry for yourself.
I wasn’t able to read ur entire post. I will only comment on what u said about the disparity between the numbers of WMAF and AMWF.
Please don’t overlook economics and sexism.
Men seldom look to marry for wealth. Many non predatory women look to economic status as they worry about their future children’s (or present) economic security.
As such white men in places like the Philippines can get a young good looking wife (especially if she already has kids) with an income that in the west is rather moderate. Have u noticed the descrepancy in numbers between WMjapaneseF and WMphilophineF? The richer economy of Japan is the reason.
And what is your opinion about the descrepancy in numbers between ChineseMphilopineF and philophineMchineseF?
In addition you should note that many WF will not date short white men. Asian men, who are shorter on average, are clearly at a disadvantage. I can agree talleven a 190cm Asian man is at an disadvantage in seeking to date WF, but it will only take a Kpop band to break into the western market, for all the Asian boys in school to become the “hottest property” for white teen girls… Once it was very rare for WWBlackM but not so much for WMBF. Then it became reversed (u figure why) but nowadays the figures in the West are about even… Times and cultural attitudes change.
I’d have to agree with the commenter above saying don’t let Western (US) media confuse your perception and close your eyes to reality. I have two Hapa children and they have been treated as rock stars by other people since the day they popped out. I don’t expect them to resent me, because people around us look like them, act like them, and are interested in them. We’re just not even connected with this dialogue of hate and isolation.
For context, we live mostly in Southeast Asia, but we have also had good experiences in Tennessee and even in California. Those of you who are feeling so caught up in racial resentment, like the author, please understand — it’s a big world, full of lots of amazing and complicated people. What Hollywood chooses to portray has zero relationship to what you will find once you let go of your defense mechanisms, and get out there. Good luck, all.
Your blog got mentioned on a phd thesis here. Although he seems to conflate your blog with EurasianTiger’s, due to the propaganda that all unhappy hapas are ET. Of course anyone who has read both your blogs, know that isn’t true. The author seems to pick up, you are two different people. With your unwillingness to ever be involved with an Asian, and ET marrying an Asian woman.
https://www.jstage.jst.go.jp/article/anzshr/37/1/37_43/_pdf