So we got yet another AM/WF white girl posting at this blog. Geez do you guys have a global newsletter or something? Are you just that loving and maternal, that you find every single website on the internet, that might possibly trouble your future kids? Wow what a difference from WM/AF. Anyway I decided to turn my long response into a new post, since I think it touches on a lot of key issues with WM/AF. I just had an interesting conversation with my Asian mom yesterday. Where she was bragging about her younger cousin marrying a white dude. I’m thinking what the hell is wrong with her damn family. Then she has the nerve to suggest I follow that WMs example and go to Asia for a wife. And I let her know very clearly I have 0 interest in Asian women, and that white dudes who go to Asia for a wife are considered losers. She has the gall to bring up Murdoch and his Tiger Wife. What is it with her and Tiger women? Last time when I challenged her, she brought up Amy Chua Tiger Mom. Perhaps she doesn’t realize Tiger is an insult. Then she calls me a racist.
Because the disparity between the AM/WF response to this blog, and the WM/AF response is shocking. Especially considering how rare AM/WF really is in the real world. The fact of the matter is, white women contribute as much to the WM/AF disparity as Asian women and white men do, by racistly rejecting Asian men. If white women didn’t reject Asian men, so readily, then there wouldn’t be a disparity even if there was a ton of WM/AF. On online dating an AM has to make 250K MORE than a white man just to get a response from a white woman. My idiot white dad encourages me to try online dating, despite astronomical stats like that. I believe the next heighest- black men- only have to make 70K more than a white man. MY stupid WM/AF parents encourage online dating and Asian girls, the two type of women I would be sure to avoid. As an Asian male, my only hope is to win girls in the real world with daring. There is no other choice. So white women are even more racist against Asian men than Asian women are. But of course its more “sane” for white women to be racist against Asians than it is for Asian woman to be.
Ok so with that disclaimer. The difference between the white and Asian women who have posted on this blog has been astronomical. I know that white men like to praise Asian women as submissive and quiet, and bash white women as loud feminist cows. But maybe white women have more actual humanity, that becomes with being less obedient and more of a real person. Perhaps you need freedom and equality to be capable of real love. All racial stereotpes aside, on this blog at least, its been white women who give a shit about their children, and Asian women who callously dismiss it, just caring about their personal happiness. So I didn’t think it was possible, but all the opinions from white women on this blog has actually made my opinion of Asian women drop even lower. At first I was angry at all the AM/WFs posting here. What are there like 12 of you in existence, and you have to come to my dinky blog, while the WM/AFs dont give a shit and party on? BUt now I’m actually glad you all posted here. Seeing how loving AM/WF is exceeded all expectations, and is part of what inspired me to just lie to everyone that I’m a son of AM/WF.
And trust me, most Eurasian girls, who consider themselves more than cheap whores and playthings to amuse old white grandpas, would also much rather come from AM/WF. One Southeast Asian Hapa girl, posted here a sad story about how she has to see young teen girls with much older white men, right there in her own country. She said she wised for a kind loving white mom, like her friends had, over her cruel Tiger Mom who took out her hatred of Asians on her innocent daughter. So I think a Hapa daughter would love and respect you, and be very grateful she is not offspring of a WM/AF. I think you marrying an Asian man, despite all the de-masculinizing stereotypes against them, would encourage a Hapa daughter to view herself as human being, and not just as a toy to satisfy the pleasures of a white man’s lust. HAving a dad, who went against the stereotypes of masculinity, would breed a much healthier daughter who in adulthood would expect love and compassion from men and not just brute dominance.
WM/AFs are not just anti-Asian, they are anti-feminist because white women have gotten too bitchy and feminist, so poor white man has to go overseas for his obedient maid. How do you think that impacts on a female (Asian or white looking) offspring?
The analogy between a Hapa daughter looking at AM/WF and me looking at WM/AF is just ridiculous. And is probably based on the assumption, I’m against race mixing, when I’m only against racial domination. Perhaps if your daughter looks Asian, she will face challenges she wouldn’t if she were pure white. I’m not going to lie and pretend racism against Asians doesn’t exists when the whole point of this blog is that it does exist. What is the biggest symptom of the racism against Asians? The huge WM/Af, AM/WF disparity. So you as a white woman, loving her Asian dad, would only inspire your daughter, that your love could overcome the huge racism against Asian men. Your daughter would learn a totally different lesson from AM/WF than I did from WM/AF. To use the analogy of me and my white dad. Its very unlikely that your daughter would view you as a white woman “stealing” Asian men from Hapa/Asian girls like herself. Its not like Asian or white girls face the same obstacles in western society that asian men do, so the whole basis for the resentment wouldn’t be there. And as I’ve said earlier seeing the example of your AM/WF in the face of a cruel racist WM/AF society, could give your daughter an inspiration and courage, that I never had in my shitty life.
Anyway THANKS for posting AM/WF, your giving me more ideas about who my make believe AM/WF parents should be, and just how awesome they are!
Have your parents seen your blog ?
I just want to say, your blog is really good and you seem to tackle the issue of hapa males dead on.
The best way to get to your parents is to marry an asian lady and give them 3/4 asian grandchildren!
Quite the opposite in fact. My parents have always assumed I would date marry and Asian girl, despite the fact that I have 0 sexual attraction to them. Even before I started to focus on WM/AF and really grew to hate Asian women, I’ve just never felt any attraction to them whatsoever. I’ve always felt some resentment towards my parents for naturally assuming I’d end up with an Asian girl. And when my mom suggested yesterday that I go to Asia to find a wife, I tolder her that only the biggest American losers do that. Thats when she brought up Murdoch. My dad even said something about me meeting a nice Asian girl at the gym. Asian girls don’t even go to the gym. Why would just asume I would end up with an Asian girl? I guess because I look Asian. But being white doesn’t stop white guys from taking Asian girls. I used to feel kind of guilty about having what John Meyer calls a KKK dickkk, but seeing what Asian women really are, I’m glad I’m only attracted to white girls.
Granted 60% of Asian girls do marry Asians. But this isn’t a presidential election. 60% is pitifully low, especially considering the loyalty other races of females, and AM/WF rates. So I don’t feel bad blanketly attacking Asian women, since 51% isn’t the standard on things like this.
Its funny how Asian men get attacked as being primitive, racist, and patriarchal for having traditional ideas about women being loyal to their race. Its not about race-loyalty, the fact is that Asian women perceive being Asian as low status and are jumping ship. When the empirical fact is that all other races of women are loyal to their race. White women are by far the most loyal to white men. A black man needs to make $80K more to get an online dating response, an Asian man needs to make $250K MORE than a white man. I don’t believe women should have racial loyalty to their man. But I do have a huge problem, when every race but Asian women are loyal. Also its not like Asian women are so liberal and open-minded. Asian women are far more racist towards black and hispanic men than even white women are.
“Granted 60% of Asian-American girls do marry Asians.”
Please change and correct all mistakes.
Also, where are you getting your numbers, Random Number Generator? While there are a good amount is Asian-American (plus the occasional foreign gold-diggers) girls who sold/will sell out their bodies to the White Man, the numbers aern’t as high as you make them out to be.
The report says, some 40% of Asian-American women married non-Asian-American & non-Asian husbands. Read the full report from: http://pewsocialtrends.org/assets/pdf/755-marrying-out.pdf
“Some 40 percent of Asian women outmarry, compared to only 20 percent of Asian men…and surprisingly, this gap has grown since 1980, when the ratio was 1.5:1 instead of 2:1.”
http://forum.koreansentry.com/a/interracial-marriage-report-from-us_post3070.html
Also see this Columbia University article in which Asian-American women were the only ones not attracted to their own race, not only that they ranked Asian-American men dead last. My only consolation was the Asian-American men also ranked Asian women dead last.
faculty.chicagobooth.edu/emir.kamenica/documents/racialpreferences.pdf
But yeah do your own research and you’ll see 40% as the most commonly cited figure. On online dating and in some urban areas of California, the stats are even worse.
Hapa schnapa. Get a life and stop obsessing on race. I was just visiting Hawaii and saw plenty of well adjusted Hapa men enjoying life and women.
i don’t like asian women either. They have this stigma that reeks of ego like I’m better than you every time I’m near them. “Look at me, I’m with a white guy, that makes me cooler.” rotflmao. They’re using each other…sooooo funny…
“40 percent” of Asian-American women = society’s garbage.
It’s like there is a percent chance that their brians will malfunction and turn into easy sex-dolls for everyone but their own race, upon being born and/or raised here.
The few AM/WF that do exist are generally a realization of what one is taught in school about feminism and women’s advancement, ie, respectful, equal partnerships.
WM/AF relationships are the opposite. The male is usually a sleazy, exploitative social misfit who wouldn’t have a chance of landing a decent white woman. The female has psychological problems and is obsessed with becoming white.
See, white people pontificate one set of principles but act by another. Your average good-natured, intelligent, Asian guy buys into these principles, and then wonders why he can’t get any pussy. He can’t get any because that’s not how the game actually works. While he’s in his dorm room thoughtfully writing an essay about women’s rights for his history class, the white guy next door is busy tossing around his latest Asian whore like a rag doll.
With whites, especially those living on the coasts or large cities, everything tends to be for show. It doesn’t seem like Asian males have figured that out or found a way to adapt to it.
Love my Japanese girlfriend immensely…dated for almost 2 years. But didn’t know that made me a social misfit. You shmuck.
That’s one way to look at it. And along certain dimensions (e.g., physical attractiveness), you are right, or they are equivalent, at least.
But Asian men don’t fit neatly into that dating spectrum. Most white women don’t even consider them an option at all. A white woman who dates an Asian man has to be strong and smart enough to reject stereotypes and societal pressures. I think it tends to select for admirable personalities. Not that I support it happening.
Also, let’s face it, if a tub of lard throws herself at an skinny Asian guy, he would rather just go without.
Have you considered getting therapy for your psychosis young man?
Perhaps you could try speed dating? Hopefully in the minute encounter you could keep the hateful and condescending words out of the conversation… Just a thought. You
Could find yourself a nice white woman, or man, and be part of the loving relationships population. Good luck!
I am a mixed race woman (half black, half white) and have been following your blog with some interest since it deals with mixed race issues. I really love how honest you are in all of your posts; don’t worry about what other people think about your writings, since it is your own experience and not theirs. I completely agree with your statement: “So you as a white woman, loving her Asian dad, would only inspire your daughter, that your love could overcome the huge racism against Asian men.”
I 100% cosign this coming from a different angle. My dad is white and my mom is black, and they have been together for over 30 years. I’m 27 now, so they were together in the 70s only ten years after the decision to make interracial marriage legal (Loving v. Virginia). Since although I am half white, I am viewed as a black woman and there is a huge part of society that says that I am the most undesirable woman there is (out of Latinas, Asian women, white women, etc, black women are usually dead last). In this way, black women and asian men are very similar. I haven’t really felt that way about myself at all though, and have dated all kinds of men, from white to hispanic to black to middle eastern etc. I feel like having a clear example of a white man (who, by society’s standards, could have had any kind of woman he wanted) married to a black woman (a representation of myself), I’ve never once doubted myself. A child that’s of a race that is viewed negatively by society (black women, asian men, etc) needs something or someone to encourage them to believe that the stereotypes constantly forced into their faces aren’t true. For me, that was my father and mother as an example.
I contrast my own self-esteem with the self-esteem of girlfriends who have been raised by black men and white women. Not to say anything against their parents, who are absolutely lovely people, but what does it say to their black daughters when their black fathers chose a white woman, who is the opposite of them and constantly talk about how pretty their wives’ blonde hair and blue eyes are in front of them? Wouldn’t that give anyone a complex about their desirability, especially when society is reinforcing that message that they are inferior every single day? I don’t know what the solution is in pairings like this (for mixed women children of black men and white women, or hapa men children of asian women and white men), but there needs to be some kind of movement from parents to help with the racial issues.
As you mentioned, It’s also been a huge inspiration to me all of the things my parents have overcome to be together, and I’ve always admired my dad for consistently and firmly standing up for my mom when people are racist to her (or them as a couple). I always felt safe growing up knowing that both of my parents’ love for each other was stronger than anything cruel the world could throw at them.
I really like the blog, and please keep up the good work.
I appreciate reading your responses, too, Adriana. It’s interesting to hear responses from children that come from interracial relationships. I am curious about the different experiences and dynamics of these relationships and how it affects the children. For example, would a female of a BM/WF experience a disconnect since she looks different from her white mother? My interest rests in children that look physically different from their same-gender parent (ex. half Asian son and white father, black daughter and white mother).
It’s been my experience that my mixed race girlfriends that come from white mothers have more severe racial issues. One of my girlfriends with a white mom looks almost completely white, but identifies black and pretty much rejects her white mom, for what reason I don’t know. It’s a source of severe pain for her to be identified consistently as white. Another girlfriend is the one I mentioned above whose father is always talking about how pretty blue eyes are, and she is always with guys who treat her like shit because she has low self-esteem. The third girlfriend I know who has parenting like mine (black mother, white father) is doing pretty well — engaged to another halfie like her, doesn’t seem to have many racial issues.
Also, I’m just saying this is my experience, I’m sure there are WM/BW children who have issues and BM/WW children who don’t.
I’d also be curious to know about the male children of these couples — since men tend not to talk about their problems as much, I don’t know how some of my mixed race male friends feel about their parents. If they follow the pattern of my female friends, the damaging pairing would seem to be BW/WM (because they wouldn’t have a male role model that looked like them and the support of the dominant hierarchy in place suggesting that they are worthwhile). However, maybe they don’t even have these problems because both black and white men seem to have pretty decent holds in society as both masculine and achieving.
I am glad Adriana posted a comment. Without her comment your blog would be devoid of musings about Black women. You barley mention Black men but at least you mention them while Black Women are not even on your radar. I was wondering why that is. You are utterly honest in your blog posts and would love to hear your thoughts on Black Women/Asian Men or just your musings on Black Women period. If you do cover the topic would you consider posting it to r/blackladies or r/blackgirls
Hmm, I thought the post would be about differences in parenting styles.
From reading the post and the comments, it seems you are not attracted to asian women, but only women with white or part white ancestry. I think you’re right that even though you are part white, it is the otherness that will work in your favor. I think part of the problem is that you have to value the asian part before others will.
Look at it this way,
Most if not all white women attracted to asian men would be attracted to hapa men. Most if not all asian women attracted to white men would be attracted to hapa men.
Your only problem would be asian women attracted to asian men only and white women attracted to white men only. Even in these times, these women are the majority. But 40% aren’t exactly bad odds. And that 60% close-minded women wouldn’t be people that are fun to hang out with anyway.
and before you go about putting white women on a pedestal, this paper is pretty illuminating to show what you’re up against:
Click to access racialpreferences.pdf
white women (and black and hispanic) are pretty much all biased against asian men with call back rates at less than 50% of what they’d call back white, black, and hispanic men.
asian women are the only ones who don’t show that bias against asian men (or men of any race).
asian men actually show a slight preference for white women over asian women.
as has been proven in the past. the racial prejudice is on the part of white women against asian men.
I don’t get it. I’m a white female, and by -far- Asian males rank at the top of my sexual attractiveness list. Hapa or full, doesn’t tend to matter.. but my subconscious just wants me to keep an eye on them. :S
Never realized that Asian males are -that- undesirable, and still kind of can’t wrap my head around it due to my own opposite leanings..
Being a blue eyed, white female with two degrees and the ability to cook like a demon has allowed me to have my pick of the men folk. I have only found three men with the balls to tolerate both my humor and desire to out logic any argument. Most men told me i was intimidating. I dated two white guys and then there was my husband. He is a year younger then me, my same height, my same weight even but he can run circles around me any day. I have never respected a man so much as my Vietnamese/Chinese husband. He is first generation, quiet traditional but also very respectful of my culture/traditions. Basically he is BOSS! I never would have thought an Asian man would have been interested in a white girl for many of the reasons listed in comments above, and that alone stopped me from trying. White girls don’t think they are attractive to beautifully tan, hairless men with zero percent body fat. I hope my children have the confidence to know that they can pick any aspect of either culture to integrate into their lives. In my eyes they are gifted with the magically ability to shape shift into “locals” of many worlds due to being less distinct.
White Woman Worship. Bigoted. Extremely Insecure.
Where I’m from in the Bay Area, I see upwards of 20 white men with Asian women every day, often with mixed kids. On the other hand, I almost never see Asian men with white women. I have not seen an Asian man with mixed kids in maybe a year. Growing up, almost every Eurasian I knew had a white father. I only remember two who had Asian fathers. I’ve also personally known many Asian women who only dated white men despite growing up in Asian majority neighborhoods and attending Asian majority schools. I currently know of an Asian girl who is cheating on her Asian boyfriend with a white guy. Her roommate told her that she only dates white men. I recently learned from my friends that another Asian girl I know is currently allowing herself to be touched inappropriately by several of her white male friends, like on her thighs, butt, and breasts.
A couple of my aunts grew up in Asia but never once dated Asian men. Both are now married to white men. One of their husbands has referred to me as “yellow”, “oriental”, and “chink” on multiple occasions and once tried to strangle my brother. My white uncle grew up on the Kung Fu Craze of the 70s, which is what drove him to go to Asia and eventually find my aunt. She thinks half-white Asians are more beautiful than unmixed Asians. My other aunt once said Asian men are “ugly” and “disgusting” in front of her mixed son and that that was why she would never marry one. She added that her white husband wasn’t that handsome, either, but that his whiteness made up for it. Her husband once complained to my mother that he was upset that none of his kids look like him because they’re Asian.
I have been cognizant of the Asian interracial disparity since age 10. I’ve also observed that black men are much more likely to date white women than black women are to date white men. I’ve witnessed both social trends up and down California, in every major urban center I’ve been to, including San Francisco, San Jose, Los Angeles, San Diego, and others. I wish I could tell you that I’m just imagining everything, but I’m not.
The way I understand it, the modern Asian interracial disparity and its representation in the media trace their origins to the Chinese coolies in the Old West and to America’s wars in East and Southeast Asia.
Nearly all Chinese who came to the US during the late 19th century were men who competed directly with white men for jobs as laborers. Because of laws severely restricting the immigration of Chinese women, most Chinese men had to turn to white women for wives if they wished to marry. In fear of Asian men taking “their” women, white men passed anti-miscegenation laws banning interracial relationships between whites and Asians. Supposedly, this was to “protect” white women from Asian men, who were the Yellow Peril. During this historical period, Asian men were stereotyped as rapists of white women, similarly to how black men are still seen today. As a result, most Chinese men in the US ended up dying single. This is reflected in demographic data showing a drastic population decline in the Chinese American population during the early 20th century. During the Exclusion Era, white men coined the terms “chink” and “ching chong” to dehumanize Chinese men, which made it easier for them to be massacred, driven out, and ethnically cleansed.
This all changed after the defeat of Japan in World War II. White American soldiers who had spent years killing Japs Japanese men brought home tens of thousands of war brides from across Asia, including Japan, obviously, and countries like China, Korea, Burma, and the Philippines. This was facilitated by the War Brides Act, which was pushed for by American GIs and basically legalized marriage between white men and Asian women in the US. Meanwhile, Asian men were still forbidden by law to marry white women. Interracial marriage between whites and Asians was taboo when it was mostly between Asian men and white women. It only became socially acceptable once white men started marrying Asian women in great numbers. While there were still more Chinese and Filipino men married to white women than white men married to Chinese or Filipino women, by the 1950s, Japanese women married to white men already outnumbered Japanese men married to white women. This was largely due to the war brides phenomenon. It was during this time that films like The Purple Plain, House of Bamboo, Love Is a Many-Splendored Thing, Sayonara, China Doll, and The World of Suzie Wong not only popularized, but romanticized the white male/Asian female pairing.
US participation in conflicts like the Korean War and the Vietnam War further bolstered the notion of American military might subduing Asia, which was becoming an increasingly feminine entity in the white American male psyche. White men’s conquest of Asian women had become the analogue to American imperialism in Asia. Asian women were commonly seen as prostitutes willing to service white men fighting in these wars. The word “gook” was used to refer to these women, then became a racial epithet to dehumanize Asian men on the battlefield. The simultaneous emasculation of Asian men and fetishization of Asian women arose from white men killing off Asian men and appropriating Asian women for their own sexual use. Even today, movies like The Wolverine depict a white man “saving” an Asian woman from her evil and sexist Asian male ex-boyfriend, fiance, father, and grandfather, most of whom are killed off in the storyline. To add insult to injury, the white man and his Asian damsel in distress hop into bed together despite the two barely knowing each other.
The Model Minority stereotype which pits Asians against blacks as their social and sexual opposites concurrently desexualized black women and hypersexualized black men. While Asians had become a feminine race in the white American mind, blacks had become their masculine counterpart. This is why white men think black men have big penises and Asian men have small penises, even though most white men are not gay and have probably never slept with a black man or Asian man in order to see for themselves. Even into the 1960s, black men and women married whites at equal rates. But by the 1970s, after the lifting of anti-Asian immigration quotas and the repeal of the South’s anti-miscegenation laws against blacks, both Asian women and black men began dating and marrying whites in droves, leaving Asian men and black women in the dust.
“One of their husbands has referred to me as “yellow”, “oriental”, and “chink” on multiple occasions and once tried to strangle my brother”
so then did you do something about it?
It is clearly a lost cause trying to appeal to the conscience of WMAF. They obviously have none. All they can see is their selfish interests and so they will never respond to either logic or feeling. They will make excuses. They will ignore the happiness of their own future kid.
The only hope is to appeal directly to the rising generation of Hapa children. The white-asian population increases exponentially from the 1990s to today. And we can reach out to them. Thanks to Google, we can walk right into the homes of WMAF and speak straight to their kids. For many of us it took years of self-exploration and soul-searching to come to grips with who we are. There was just a nagging voice in the back of my mind telling me there was something wrong with being Eurasian from childhood. It was hard to know the boundary line between my personal issues and that of being a Eurasian woman. And it is only thanks to Tumblr, that I see that my supposedly unique problems, are actually that of all Eurasian women.
The rising generation of Eurasians will not have to waste years coming to these discoveries. With a simple google search about Hapa problems, they will crawl into a rabbit hole of explanations. They will learn at a young age, how their WMAF parents have wronged them. The WMAF parents will never understand what it is like to be Hapa. It is a useless waste of time to appeal to them. Rather the Hapa Message needs to go over their heads, directly to their Hapa children. Not many people care about Hapas, and no one else is trying to win them over as a constituency. Hapas need to win back their own narrative and never allow their parents to speak for them. When their mixed consciousness is raised, they will directly challenge their WMAF parents. They will make a revolution in the living room.
The more we Eurasians speak out, and share our painful experiences, the more young Hapas will know they are not alone, and coalesce into something bigger. The only one in the world who can stand up to WMAF parents, are their own children. They are the future. Every word you write will touch 100 Hapa hearts.
I think the WMAF issues and the ensuing issues that their Eurasian children face are often due to the structural (psychological) violence connected to Eurocentric beauty standards, which then plays out into relationships and the Asian mother sometimes taking her resentment and frustration out on her children. This research article explains a lot:
Click to access leizhang-delib2013.original.pdf
One can gather from the article that many Asian women feel so much structural pressure to conform to Eurocentric beauty norms, they are willing to go to extreme measures not only upon themselves, but on their children as well (including marrying white so their children hopefully do not feel as lacking in beauty as they do).
I think reading the article helps to have empathy for what many Asian women experience psychologically, and the pressures they feel to conform to unattainable beauty standards. As the article explains, many Asian women are not even consciously aware that the damaging standard of beauty they have internalized is actually Eurocentric.
The “natural Asian beauty” movements need to expand in Asia in order to promote Asian women’s self-esteem and the ability to get hired for a job without having surgery to look more European. The problem is there are billions of dollars of profit to be made every year from Asian women’s low self-esteem, everything from plastic surgery to skin lightening creams. It takes a very socially conscious cosmetic company to promote women’s self esteem to make money.
Add to this, the Asian sex industry gets revenues higher than the tech industries, by promoting Asian women as fetishes to the rest of the world. Many of these businesses in cosmetics and vice industries are Asian owned and operated – they are adding fuel to the fire in the emotional damage done to Asian women.
All of us are connected. If Asian women, who are our mothers, cousins, aunts, and sisters are psychologically hurt by this structural violence, then we are all hurt by it, and we all have responsibility to heal the damage it does, even if it is just by starting with our own family members.
For example (and this has actually happened to me), if an Asian woman tells you, a Eurasian woman, that your facial appearance or physical appearance is better than hers for any reason whatsoever, then we have a responsibility to let her know that Eurasian features are not more beautiful than full Asian features – and that full Asian beauty is equivalent to Eurasian beauty, that they are different but equal. You may even go so far as mention to her that she is going by a Eurocentric ideal that is not healthy. When larger numbers of Asian women appreciate their own ethnic features, they will also appreciate those same features in Asian men, and then intermarriages ratios between WMAF and AMWF may eventually even out over time.
Although we, as Eurasians may have resentment and anger issues towards our parents, especially our mothers, for any difficulties or horrors we might have been through, it is time that we see the bigger picture and understand that our mothers, sisters, aunts, and cousins are not solely to blame.
Seriously, Murdoch is an example of pedophile/asianphile. When your mother brings up Murdoch to prove that there are non-loser white guys go for asian girls, she proved nothing. and Murdoch is an example of how sick and pathetic a white male in WMAF is. Just because Murdoch has money doesn’t mean he’s successful, he is crazy enough to marry a woman who is young enough to be his granddaughter, and same goes for Woody Allen, who married his ex-girlfriend’s adopted asian daughter.
I don’t see why marrying a gold digger and being a pedophile make you a successful white man.
Hi. White wife of an AM and sister-in-law to another AM/WF couple. Sorry if my presence disturbs you. I thought I should explain what drew me to your blog.
I kept reading about how bad WM/AF is on other sites. I have 3 kids so I started to worry about how life treats Hapas. My girls never lack for friends, but they are still young. My adult son is well adjusted. I asked him some questions just to make sure he is okay. He told me he never thinks of himself as anything in particular. He is close with both his Asian and his White grandparents so it’s not lack of exposure. He said he considers himself American, which he 100% is culturally. He is a pretty easy going man. He takes more after my father physically than my husband. He is very tall and has my hair, but has his father’s eyes. Very well blended in my opinion. I have 1 child who looks like a fair skinned clone of my mother-in-law. She is beautiful, but I wonder if she will struggle with her identity more. Right now she finds any stories about her Asian family interesting, but I think it comes across as foreign and exotic to her rather than a culture that is part of her. I blame her dad for this. He immigrated as a child and has spent his entire life rejecting his heritage in favor of fitting in here. His parents encouraged this. They did not even want us to give their grandchildren ethnic names. They insisted that our kids must be 100% American in order to be successful.
Anyway, that is why I am here. To learn, so maybe I can help my kids if they ever need it. Though I am hoping they will always be confident and comfortable in their skin.
I am very saddened by your blog to be honest. I had hoped all the WM/AF racist crap I had read elsewhere was just white supremacists being jerks. I hate to see anyone so hurt and unable to love every part of themselves.