“nothing is worse than getting together with a loser…. Oh sad you… You want some pathetic sympathy, yeah, you got it…oh poor baby boy…. Good enough?”
You can actually hear the thick pidgin Chinese accent in that comment. Perfectly matching the caricature of a AF with a WM. A thick foreign broken accent, vicious attacks on Asian and Hapa males. And a worshipful attitude towards her white savior. All the comments by Asian women on this blog have been nasty and hate-filled.
At 1st I was disturbed that two White females dating Asian males, had made it to this blog. Typical Hapa failure I thought, I try to explain myself to the conscience of WM/AF, and all I suceed in doing is messing with AM/WF. But on reflection I’m glad that WFs dating AMs posted on this blog. Why? Because it just confirms what I have always believed. White females are not only infinitely more beautiful physically than Asian females, they also have much better hearts. All you have to do is look at a white female, and you’ll see the lie of WM/AF. No white man who had a chance with even the worst white female, would give it up for even the best Asian female. White men can’t stand that white females are actual human beings and not mere sex dolls, so they rip on them for being over-liberated bitches and feminists. White men dream of stripping white women of all their humanity, of humiliating, dominating, degrading and subjecting them to the level of a submissive, subservient, grovelling, Oriental “wife”. The Asian wife, is his fantasy for the white woman made real on a lesser woman. Why do the biggest anti-feminist misogynists who hate women, LOVE Asian women? But at least on this blog, it was white women not Asian women who should maternal loving care. White women actually give a shit about how their kids are going to feel. While I’m sorry for disturbing the peace of any AM/WF relationship, I’m glad to know that white females actually worry about the issues raised on this blog. White females have read this blog, and worry that their hapa children, might suffer from all the things I mentioned. Isn’t that beautiful? White women are actual human beings!!! They might not layover and play the China doll for you, but they’ll actually love you and your children and not just Tiger Mom them.
Tiger moms don’t give a shit about their future hapa sons- drop dead is their only reply. White moms actually want their future kids to be happy and have a good life.
I mean in the real world AM/WF is incredibly rare, and white women are actually incredibly racist towards Asian men. Demaing they make $250,000 more than a white man, just to get a response on online dating. And so considering how rare they are in the world, it pissed me off that the few AM/WF in existance made it to this measly blog on the edge of internet. But you know what? So much the better. AM/WFs love their future kids that much, that they wil find this blog at the edge of the internet, out of motherly concern about any obstacles their children might face. White men praise Asian women as being more feminine than white women. But if femininity means more than just being a sex-toy China doll, and actually loving and caring, then hands down white women beat Asian women in femininity.
So yeah I’ve found the difference between WF and AF responses to this blog to be most enlightening. Although really I don’t want WFs dating AM to comment or even read this blog.
But since you did. Thank you. Thank you for actually giving a shit about your children’s future, unlike Asian females, even though this blog was not even meant for you.
I wonder if the person who made that comment you quoted is actually a Chinese woman in a relationship with a white man…I wouldn’t assume that if I were you. This is the internet, after all. Could just have been a careless typist. Or a drunk one. I hear it’s a pretty common pastime to knock back a few and troll the web. I’ve certainly never tried it, but it might result in the person sounding…dumb…if you know what I mean.
You say that two white females have visited the blog, but how do you know that? Did they each tell you? Has everyone who has commented filled out a survey, listing age, gender, and race, as well as the race of their significant other, should they have one? How do you know at least one of those wasn’t an Asian male/female posing as a white female, thinking that his/her comments would be better received by you? You make yourself out to be pretty obviously racist, so I wouldn’t be surprised if somebody did that.
Perhaps I am totally off-base here, but I believe that women of all races do all tend to care for their offspring. You seem to be unhappy with the way your mother, in particular, displayed (or did not display) her care for you. From what I’ve read about it, the Amy Chua style of parenting, though harsh (and probably damaging, according to most who read about it,) is based in the sincere want for children to be able to succeed as adults in the future, to be hardworking and able to defend themselves in this vicious world as ruthlessly as their mothers raised them. That’s a completely different way of parenting than the “white” way, but whether one way or the other is more “loving” is debatable.
I think that you are splitting people up by race and gender far too much. You are pitting all white men against all white women, claiming that they don’t appreciate women who are “real people” and are instead turning to “China dolls.” I definitely don’t think that all Asian women are as submissive as that stereotype. Especially not Asian American women. If a “white man” in America is looking for a submissive woman, he might date an Asian woman for a time, only to be frustrated that she does not fit this stereotype and break up with her. (This would be a good time for a man of any race to step in and treat her like an individual.) All white women aren’t more “caring” than all Asian women, just as all white men don’t “treat girls better” or worse than Asian men, and one group of these people isn’t looking to “subjugate” any other group of people any more than the reverse. Historically, Big Strong White He-Man has come out on top, but in modern times, the lines are blurring.
I have relatively little experience with women who are “FOB” Asian, just moved to America or whatnot, but they aren’t exactly stupid, especially when they come here in their late teens or early twenties, arriving on the “dating scene” when it’s in full swing. They realize that they don’t have to be submissive and meek in America to “get a man.” After all, American girls are very rarely submissive, so why would they need to be? They realize that they have the “exotic” look going for them and they work it!
White women who demand more money from men on online dating sites are only doing so because they feel that they can. They figure the only Asian men they’d be interested in would be big business executives or doctors making a fortune in some office somewhere, and can’t think about the individual behind the online profile, possibly because they don’t have much experience with men outside their own race. If a man whisks a woman off her feet in real life, and treats her to romance with dignity and respect, she can’t exactly just dismiss him because he’s not making $250,000 more than another guy who treats her like shit and is the same race as she is. And if she does, there’s a good chance she’ll still sleep with romantic-guy behind shitty-guy’s back. Women can be big softies when it comes to love.
There are so few AM/WFs in the world, that it did bother me at 1st that 2 WFs in AM/WF relationships, managed to find this insignificant blog in the middle of the internet. And that both of them were worried that their Hapa children might have to suffer the things I talked about here. But on 2nd thought. I’m glad. I’m glad that they provided yet more proof of how Asian women are sociopaths who don’t gove a shit about their children. It was a nice comparison, to see white women actually worrying about difficulties their Hapa sons might suffer in life. Meanwhile FOBby Asian women, with pidgin english, could only post insults and chest-pounding about how awesome WM/AF is, and then say to hell with any future Hapa sons they might have, they can drop dead. The cultural difference really struck me. And supported everything I’ve been saying. And as I’ve written, Asian women don’t just hate Asians, they also hate women. So I’m glad that WFs posted here to make the difference all the more clear. WM/AFs having sons is the worst form of child abuse. To all those who bitch about double standards, when I support AM/WF and shun WM/AF, one need only compare the WF and WM/AF comments on this blog, to see what each stands for. The idea that any WM/AF could genuinely love a Hapa son, is laughable.
From the comments, AM/WF give a shit about their children, WM/AF don’t.
WM/AFs hate Asians, hate women, and hate their own children.
I think its because he still has a crush on that blond girl, and wants her to be the mother of his cute Hapa babies.
An Asian woman must be deaf, blind and dumb not to see that the Asian man is the most emasculated male on the face of this planet. So, the conclusion must be that she doesn’t give a damn about the state of the Asian male if she decides to go with the white man. In fact, she hates the Asian male for being in the position that he is in. It’s comparable to a French woman dating a German soldier in occupied France during WW2 and flaunting it to her fellow Frenchmen, showing them up as wimps. But, the most despicable are the Asian women who desire more “beautiful” hapa babies with nicer features and wavy hair. They are so filled with hatred for the Asian male and for themselves. She wishes that all her offspring never ever mate with an Asian. But, of course, she will keep a household full of Asian art and furniture to remind her husband that she is Asian, despite how much she wishes she weren’t. Every father and brother of an Asian woman who goes with a white man holds her in contempt. But, more than likely they will keep these feelings to themselves. They know she doesn’t give a crap.
Well maybe they SHOULD give a crap then. Arab, black and white families do, even if their daughters don’t listen. They get their male relatives, group up and make the couple’s life hell.
What asians really need is a “asian supremacy” movement… blacks have it, and of course whites do. It means that even with the number of white women dating black men (and vice versa), black men and white women are still proud of their respective races. I have no doubt that asian men are proud of their race, even with a white partner with mixed children… but can the same be said of asian women?
Anti-fems are not necessarily misogynists at all. I hate, hate, hate feminism, it absolutely DOES emasculate men and make females unfeminine. I by no means favour Asian women over White and there are White women who do not like what the movement promotes either, albeit very few.
Feminist women make terrible wives, terrible mothers and are barely women, because they hate their own genitalia. I don’t really attach that to any particular race, though unfortunately it does seem as though women in the Western world are more into this garbage.
Hey A-money, I knew your username sounded familiar, but it took me a moment to realize you were the Eurasian girl from A-money blog. I just wanted to say that your article on yo-yoing was very useful to me in describing my own personal experiences. From practically begging to be accepted as white, to clinging to my hapaness as proof that I’m not reeeally Asian, to embracing full-scale militant Asian nationalism. And from there, to just despairing that yes I’m Asian, but Asian men are at the bottom of the barrow and its all hopeless. But from the tone of this blog from which I so strongly take the Asian side, and often simply refer to myself as Asian, reader may not realize just how desperately I tried to pass myself as white in my younger days. Or at the very least ensure that I was recognized as Hapa, and thus genuinely American blood in my veins.
The racial dynamic in England is very different from what I understand. Asian means South Asian. And East Asians are a minor force. I read the story of a beautiful white ballerina, who married a Chinese man and had a hapa baby, even though she was a BNP member. After she divorced the Asian and married a BNP leader, he said he would raise the Hapa boy like his own son.
Also reading your thoughts about feminism, I didn’t realize who you were at 1st, but once I realized you were a Eurasian female, it made your comments all the more interesting to me. Although in some ways your comment did touch on the intersection between race and gender that I was talking about. Because you say that nearly all white women support feminism, and that echoes the sentiment of many white men who go on to praise Asian women as the alternative. There becomes a binary opposition where Asian women become the reverse extreme of everything feminist white women are not. Ironically Asian women often try to justify WM/AF as some sort of feminist liberation from the oppressive Orient.
@ StuffEurasianMalesLike: I’m glad you could relate to my post in some way and that it was of some use to you. I tried to be as honest as I could with my experiences, perhaps I will share more in the future.
And you’re right about the racial dynamic being very different … yes, South Asians are more commonly referred to as ‘Asian’, whilst every other kind of Asian is listed as ‘Chinese’ or ‘Other’. There are a few upsides though … for one, there’s always a ‘Mixed Race’ section and two, race is something that is barely acknowledged in this country.
I get what you’re saying about this strange type of AF feminism. It is quite true that many AFs (particularly Thai and Filipino women) want to escape the shackles of a sexist society by marrying outside. I have to say, having visited Thailand and done extensive reading about Thai women’s experiences, I really can’t blame them for wanting to escape. They truly are treated like second class citizens and at times, worse than dirt.
A-Money, you seem pretty cool. I like the way you think about feminists. Bunch-a-whiny-jerks. >=]
You have a blog with a similar username? I’d be interested in reading it. (It sounds slightly less depressing than this one, and just as interesting. I’d like to read the “yo-yo” post.) Would you be comfortable posting a link?
Hey, sorry, only just noticed your response! I do indeed have a blog with a similar name haha … and the yo-yo post is http://a-money27.blogspot.com/2011/07/erasing-lines-ugly-side-to-mixed-race.html
I hate feminism with a passion so there’s a lot of that in there as well. More recent blog entries (in the last month or so) will probably not be archived by genre though they should be easy enough to find. I appreciate the interest in my writing and apologise in advance for anything offensive … I am extremely blunt at times and somethings I write in jest, hopefully you’ll read with an open-mind, anyway.
I also hate feminism with a passion. I’m a woman btw. The direction of feminism has actually made woman more dependent on men because women are now relying on men to validate their accomplishments. If a man isn’t telling a woman that she is beautiful everyday or giving praise to her accomplishments in the workplace then in a nutshell, he isn’t tuned in to her feelings or must be blind to acknowledging her as his equal. Thus, he is the root cause of her low self-esteem and reason for the setbacks in her life. That right there is giving men too much power over a woman’s happiness. There used to be a time when men were men, and women were women. We accepted men for being men and thinking differently from us. If they didn’t kiss up to us on a daily basis, we accepted that they were just being men.
The reason your asian mom married a white guy is this:
1) From reading your past posts, I’ve concluded your mom is from Taiwan. In Taiwan, there are HOT CHICKS EVERYWHERE. Like all women, your mom feels very inadequate when she sees hotter girls everywhere around her.
2) In America, the land of McDonalds and KFC and fat-ass horsey white chicks, your average looking mom is probably considered quite hot (simply because shes not a fat-ass), and is treated as such by white guys.
3) Therefore, your mom loves America and all the dumbass white guys that treat her like princess Cinderella.
Same goes for that girl in the pic in this blogpost. In China, she would be considered a rice farmer and can only marry into the lowest rungs of Chinese society.
In America, she can actually get a pretty handsome looking gentleman.
That girl and pretty handsome looking gentlemen are none other than the parents of Balloon Boy.
I’m not surprised that these 2 losers have gotten married.
Why do I bother to read this polemic of a sick mind? Such broad characterizations about so many different types of people. Silly.
stop being a iittle bitch. I know you gonna say something like but that’s just who am I, emasculated little bitch. FUCK YOU. There are people out there living in infinitely worst conditions, being no fault of their own, while all you do is complain like a little bitch, fuck you you ungrateful little prick.
But hey, maybe you are just a fucking troll.
And so what you don’t get any. SO FUCKIN WHAT. Be a man and say fuck them hos and go suck a dick. Get the fuck out of my face.
Or if you can’t even men up like that then fucking change. Get some money. Buy a hooker you.
But just shut the fuck up please. man the fuck up.
Trust me almost no one else like you you little bitch. Stop generalizing about other people. U are the little bitch here. Quiting your stupid shit bitch.
don’t you have anything better to do. probably not.
I really feel sorry for you that you are wasting precious life like this.
Dude what I’m saying is just stop whining even if you life sucks. You can do something about it.
You must conquer your own self. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and just live life (by that I mean find some goddamn thing to do beside being a little bitch on the internet.)
I’m a full Asian guy and after reading some of your posts, I gotta say this:
What in the flying fuck are you babbling about?
Your disjointed rants go nowhere. It’s like you resent everyone, male and female, Asian and white for a slew of hypocritical reasons. Frankly I think you may have inherited your brain from your white father. Peace.
Dear Hapa guy,
I’m a hapa girl from a WM/AF marraige and I have to say firstly that i’m fairly taken a back at the racist stereotypes you’re throwing around. However, I think you’re being very honest with how you feel, however misdirected that anger might be. Although I dont agree with a lot with what you’re saying, I do believe there’s a basis in truth. I myself, have suffered incredible amounts of grief over the difference in my parents’ background and how it’s affected my identity, sense of belonging and self worth.
In your post I see my own desires for the wonderful, caring, nurturing WF mother that all my friends had. Instead, I had a Tiger mom (hehe I call mine the Dragon mother) who beat me with whatever she could get her hands on and had unreasonable expectations of me. She grew up in an Asian slum and decided that I was the one who had to answer for her own troubled and deprived chidlhood. My father (much older) wasnt much better and true to his European roots just pretended it wasn’t going on, turned a blind eye and just sipped his tea.
I think a lot of the resentment I had growing up mirrors your own. However, I grew up in Asia so I faced racism of a very different nature. I’ve learned that the hapa experience is something that is unique to each hapa although what we all share being straddled cross cultural divide, a position that is precariously poised. You, yourself are going through this process by blogging and trying to figure this out on your own. You’re not alone. We’re an inevitable product of globalization and represent a way forward by being cultural chameleons. Sounds corny but it’s true :). Its an existence that is fruitful, progressive and yet contains more internal struggle then the usual mono-race experience.
I love my European roots, I love my Asian roots and I take pride in that I can see myself in both races. After all, belonging to both continents has made me stronger and more accepting of everyone. I think hapa boys are beautiful and I’ve always been drawn to them. I think these issues will always be a part of who you are but I think you need to take them in your stride and allow them to make you a stronger person instead of blaming it on WF/AM. Trust me, i lived in south east asia where I would regularly see elderly white dudes with teenage asian chicks so I know where you’re coming from. BUT you have to understand that its an organic phenomenon and won’t happen forever. Transitioning/growing pains of rapid globalization, you could call it 🙂
Keep blogging 🙂
Peace, your fellow hapa girl.
ps. That sounded like its all ok you shouldnt feel like crap. Which isnt true, you have every right to feel like crap about WM/AF.. sometimes I want to throw my hands up in the air and say ‘f*ck my life and f*ck you all”.
Thanks for your comment. I’ve only met one Eurasian girl in person, through my mom briefly. She was very depressed and had fights with her mom over rejecting her white dad’s heritage. So my impression from the internet was that Eurasian girls had it pretty good. White males like their “exotic” look, and hell even if they look 100% Asian female, this blog has shown how AFs have done pretty well for themselves on the backs of others. But then again Eurasian males are often assumed to be exotically beautiful too, with the 1st google suggestion for Eurasian male as “Eurasian male models”. Anyway I mostly geared this blog toward Hapa male issues, which is why I gave it the name Stuff Eurasian males like NOT Stuff Eurasian PEOPLE Like. So it is really encouraging to hear 2 Eurasian females comment on this blog about dealing with the same identity issues I have. And it must be terribly demoralizing seeing young Asian children with old white men in your home country. It is bad enough being bombarded with WM/AF in the USA, but to have to see it everywhere in Southeast Asia, must be really demoralizing, making Asians feel like they are not even masters in their own house. I keep talking about 50% chance of having male Hapa children, as though Hapa girls have a free ride. But your enlightening comments bring home the pain that WM/AF causes all their offspring male or female.
The other Hapa girl here touched on the issue of parents having the moral responsibility to think about the obstacles and challenges their children might face before leaping into marriage and parenthood. And I think thats something worth thinking about. Is the personal happiness WM/AF MAY bring the parents, worth the CERTAIN suffering their sons AND daughters, must endure in life? Is parenthood a purely animalistic biological function, or do parents owe something to the pain they will bring their innocent unborn?
I think your over exaggerating the situation. I’m a wf in a am/wf relationship. He was adopted from china to a very rural redneck comm. I’ve dated wm- they left me wanting. We are discussing marriage, one of the things I think of is what my offspring might think of my relationship. It’s easy to say its my life deal with it. But for kids- your right, you are entitled to your opinion. It pains me to think my child might feel emasculated as a male when I plan on introducing him to all aspects of his culture. Family is important in both cultures, there are many positive aspects to each race. Honestly the way I see it is not destabilizing genetic strength of ones self, but increasing genetic diversity and increasing genetic fitness. Simply because you are spreading the variables of illness and disease found in specific cultures around. Example- Asians ( even American ones) have a decreased percentage of heart issues and cancer compared to whites. However Asians have a higher susceptibility to diabetes and anemia. By spreading the genes out you reduce the likelihood of poor health to future children.
Thank you for your insight. I hope someday you don’t feel ashamed of being half white half Asian.
I replied to the blogger earlier because he’s a hapa guy and I have a hapa son. I have a hapa daughter as well. I grew up similarly to you though, i’m full asian with different asian heritage. I often wanted the “tv mom”, and I can tell my kids want that. But I’m not/can’t be like that. I’m me, americanized, but not “tv mom”. Hopefully, they will still understand that I love them. They seem to love me anyway right now. I hope it stays like that, but I will try to prepare myself emotionally when they hate me. Gawd if they grow up with issues due to different identities I will shoot myself, there so many other things to be f’ed up about.
Comedy gold!
But have you considered this? http://imgur.com/WeT1T
Asian woman: Fuck you hapa boy! I’m free to live my own damn life! Its the 21st century and ain’t no one going to tell me how to live my life! I’m going to marry whoever the hell I want, when I want, and my sons can kiss his fat white ass!!!! MY happiness and MY self-interest comes 1st!
White woman: I’m one of the 1/100 white women who dates an Asian man, and I actually worry about my future Hapa’s sons feelings and well-being. The issues raised on this blog, concern me about what kind of life my Hapa sons will live. I don’t want my children to be miserable and resent and hate me for it.
White women may not be feminine in the submissive China doll sense. But if femininity is about more than pleasing a white man, and also about being maternal and empathetic towards children, AM/WF kills WM/AF hands down. The AFs all give the stereotypical feminazi response, my personal happiness, choices, and independence comes 1st, and I don’t give a fuck who I hurt, because I’m a proud Asian woman and you can’t tell me what to do! Wfs with AM, took a more mature response, they didn’t say “I’m going to break up with my Asian boyfriend now because this blog is soo scary, thanks for setting me straight”, but they did express genuine concern about the well-being of their future children and genuinely wanted to be able to relate and communicate with them. Its a higher level of love that comes from being NOT submissive. White women actually want to love their future Hapa kids, while WM/AFs look on them as a cute trophy.
The most devastating moment for an AF married to a WM is when her hapa daughter announces to her that she will be marrying an AM.
What if what you consider “caring” by WFs is actually decedant Western weakness, while what you call “uncaring” by AFs is actually steely resolve?
Except that in this particular case, the Asian female’s “steely resolve” is just to enjoy her white man, and pursue her personal happiness at the expense of everyone else. The hyper-individualism western women are often accused of. Not giving a shit about family or anyone else, accept your needs as a woman.
On the larger subject of Tiger Momming. It is a great irony that Tiger Mom has become a term applied to WM/AF moms. I personally have no problem with Asian parents trying to raise their kids with Asian values. I think that it is somewhat flawed for the American environment, but it has its merits. And often the critics of Asian parenting, assume that if Asians abandoned Asian culture, they would magically be accepted as whites. Its a chicken or the egg thing. Perhaps the reason Asian values promote secondary positions as aspirations, is because that its the only position their racial caste can realistically hope to meet in American society. They are just following the niche they are allowed to fill. But this is a debate that needs to take place internally within the Asian-American community.
I DO however have a MAJOR problem with WM/AF Tiger Moms trying to raise their Hapa kids with so-called Asian values, when the Asian mom has already rejected those values by marrying an Asian man. Amy Chua writes her Romeo and Juliet story in her book about how her Chinese dad forbid her to marry a white man, but learned to accept and cherish it. AFs like Amy Chua reject the Tiger Mom strategy because they don’t like the type of males it produces. Thats why they pick white men, over Tiger mom raised men. So it is a travesty when WM/AFs try to impose Tiger Mom values on Hapas.
That’s an overly broad statement to make about a large and diverse group of people. It certainly doesn’t apply to any of the fobby AFs I know.
To a large extent these so-called “asian values” are the same as traditional western values from before the post-war era. They’re hardly an alien regime from exotic and far away lands. In this period of declining economic opportunity, such parenting would appear to confer a significant advantage. Educational and income statistics bear this out.
Randy, it’s very interesting that you bring that up, that the ” so-called ‘asian values’ are the same as traditional western values from before the post-war era.”
I was thinking something very similar. However, the old-fashioned traditional western values didn’t have as much of an emphasis on education, especially not education for the women. “Way back in the day,” the western idea of a success story was, for a boy, a good, secure job which didn’t necessarily require a degree, and for a girl, to be a competent, relatively obedient housewife. Both genders were strongly and primarily encouraged to work hard at whatever they did, however, something that seems to be a hallmark of the “tiger mom” style, whereas more modern western parenting seems to be more in the direction of “express yourself” and “be happy,” something that is a bit “softer” than what you hear about from the past: “when I was your age, we had to walk ten miles in the snow…” etc.
My own personal experience is that the “Tiger dad” is a more ferocious animal when it comes to disciplining his children. Unfortunately, you won’t hear too much of that in the media because it really doesn’t exist as far as they are concerned. The Tiger Mom is a defanged and declawed beast because she really doesn’t want her children to be like those other kids, you know, the ones who have Tiger Dads.
This is absolutely true. Tiger Dads can be even more “ferocious,” and to the western media, they are more of a rarity and make less of a “story,” the way Amy Chua’s book does. A big (to a child – no comments about asian men being short here, please) angry man in the house can certainly be scarier than a fierce woman, especially if the man is at work all day and the woman is not, and therefore more familiar to the child.
So, StuffEurasiansLike, you might want to count your blessings here…have you considered talking to your father about all of this? I’ve read that he’s tried to “psychoanalyze” you or whatnot, but have you ever just sat down and had a frank chat with him, asked him to let you talk and just listen to you about these things? You never know…it could comfort you at least a little to talk to someone about it, even if it doesn’t solve the race problems of the world or anything.
Instead of pretending to be full Asian you should tell people you have a White Mom and Asian Dad, that would use your Hapa looks to your advantage and do even more to boost Asian masculinity!
If Amy Chua was married to an asian man, she would have never thought of herself as a tiger mom. She would consider herself as just a normal mother who is Asian. Consider the case of Yoko Ono. Who the heck would have cared for her art, much less her music if she was never married to John Lennon. The Asian female must be considered a parasite if she is coupled to a white man.
Ya I hate white-worshipping asian bitches who try to pimp out the asian culture to whites.
Yeah, at the same time I hate the Asian-worshipping White cunts who perversely masturbate over Asian culture. Seriously though, works both ways and I think StuffEurasianMalesLike does a job of representing this.
I suspect John Lennon was gay. He has that fag look. Yoko Ono looks like that Japanese man from the Last Samurai. Shin Koyamada.
Amy Chua looks like a lizard. Her daughters fall far from the beauty of the Pure White Aryan Woman.
From one hapa to another: You’ve got serious issues, dude. Personally, I think you just hate your mother.
Bad week for WM/AF. Submissive Asian wife cuts off white husband’s penis and White Knight boyfriend hangs Asian girlfriend from rooftop. Trouble in paradise?
Ya most likely some yellow fever white guy who found out the hard way that asian bitches are anything but submissive.
…..What?
So, wait. You dislike AW because they’re ‘submissive China-dolls’? My, my, you certainly haven’t met some of the AW I know. Speaking of which, I am the product of a WM/AW couple and I know for damn sure my mom isn’t some submissive plaything. Actually, she made it a point to NOT marry an AM so that should wouldn’t have to become a second class citizen. (And yes, I realize that this is a generalization and doesn’t apply to everyone.) So in such an instance, how would her refusal to marry an AM count as the emasculation of an AM? My mom never would have to make such a promise to herself if her mother didn’t outright favor her brother simply because he has penis. My mom was and still is an affectionate caring woman and has never been a “Tiger Mom”. So much for your generalizations, huh?
And that is why asian women are sellouts. Do black, arab children suffer from discrimination in a white country, even if they were born there? They too are not considered American or British etc… even through they are. But the women have a lot more pride for their race. They are prepared to plough through racial prejudice, because they would rather face being called a “second class citizen” then dilute their race to the point where it just disappears.
Also your comment about your mother makes no logical sense (which I suppose, is an error on your mum’s part) – if HER MOTHER favoured the boy in the family compared to the girl (her), then what has that to do with her relations to another man? Was she really that stupid and racist to dismiss all asian men (and women) as boy-centric?
Well, here’s the classic case of the AF who hates the AM. She learned from childhood to despise him because of favoritism from the parent, and later on, she despises him more, because despite the favoritism, he is still a second class citizen. What better way to thumb her nose at the AM than to run into the arms of a WM. She tells herself and others that she is doing this to escape an oppressive family, but she is no more liberated than the black slave who works inside the house rather than outside in the fields. Over time, she will learn how to disguise her own self-hatred. She will fill her home with Asian trinkets and chatter about how rich her culture is. All her children will know how to use chopsticks. But, she is really a parasite. A person who is in disguise.
She paints a picture of herself as a woman motivated by love to overcome racism and prejudice, a strong woman who did it her way, but she knows the truth. Her true motivation was hate.
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In my opinion, the best interracial marriages are between asians and whites because their children come out handsome/beautiful and smart almost all the time. I know because I have a “Eurasian” son with my Chinese wife. As far as white-black marriages are concerned, it’s like mating a pedigree with a slum dog, and is therefore a total waste of time. That might sound mean and racist, but from my perspective, a white has absolutely nothing to gain by breeding with a black. Look at all the mulatto children out there. Most look plain-out weird and most aren’t really that smart (altho they do seem to be smarter than blacks), altho there are sometimes exceptions. Now, I’m not saying that whites are some kind of master race or anything like that, but I AM white, and as a white I want my children to be smart, capable and handsome/beautiful, so the best bet for me would be to marry a white or asian woman.
Well, when we get to the basics, men and women are fundamentally different. Women need emotional feeding, warmth, and ‘love’, while most men just want to get those panties pulled down so that they can carry out an enjoyable, necessary biological function. Why else would so many women demand that a man commit himself to marriage with her before giving it up? I even tried being nice to her at first, but when she started that “The Chinese from mainland China are superior to all the other Chinese” bullcrap then that’s when I said to hell with trying to be nice. That just goes to show that there has been some brainwashing going on in communist China- brainwashing whose aim is to make the mainland Chinese feel superior to everyone else- similar to the brainwashing that went on in Nazi Germany, as a matter of fact.
Why you little-d!cked b!tch, I’ve screwed all the races of women, and just because I screwed some asian b!tch doesn’t mean I love ’em any more than I love a white b!tch. Asian women are just so EASY, and since they come to your WHITE M-A-S-T-E-R-S because they like our big c?cks doesn’t mean you have to go into a hissy about it. Wanna a tight c?nt, eh? Go find an African pigmy to do, lol! And yeah, b!tch, you and your whole family were losers the day you set foot in our country begging for scraps from your WHITE M-A-S-T-E-R-S. As for me, I come here because I import and make lots of money doing it, but don’t think I have any love for you sneaky little parasites. HOWEVER, if your sister gets horny then tell her to come and get her some, ’cause EVERY man likes tight c?nt.
We ARE turning our backs on white women. And yeah, I think that white women should all “go black” because actually no other men really want them. Actually, the white race will continue as the children of white-asian relationships will retain much of the genetic properties of their white mother or father.
“Bi-racial children also have a tough time socializing, unless they are exceptionally good looking.”
“I fear this is going to be a serious problem as the years go on, as an awful lot of white/Asian children have been born in the last couple of decades. I pity them.”
That’s crazy. It’s certainly no harder and no more confusing for them than it is for Asians born here who have assimilated very smoothly and very rapidly, especially in the nicer middle class suburbs.
I live in a nice NJ suburb that’s about 95% white and of the 10 houses, but on my block there are 3 eurasian families and 2 asian families. Of the 16 children on the block there are 9 whites, 2 asians and 5 euroasians. I know this is anecdotal and that I have an observation bias, but the census data backs up my observations. Wealthy suburbs like Short Hills, have a large percentage of asians and euroasians.
Regarding mixed-race kids, my kids are eurasian and I can say with complete objectivity that they are stunningly and abnormally cute and quite bright as well. Now it may just be that they take after their parents ;-), but hybrid vigor certainly didn’t hurt.
My older son is so outgoing that it’s almost unnerving at times. Sometimes women will follow my wife around a store or the mall to play with my kids, something that I didn’t believe until I saw it myself.
It also seems that very intelligent white men are marrying asian women in large numbers. Again, anecdotally, over half of the very intelligent married white guys I work with are married to asian women.
It could be that as Asian culture does not value extroversion, the personality landscape shifts toward introversion phenotypically in addition to genotypically. So if a very shy guy can pick up a relatively shy Asian woman (who doesn’t have THAT many genes for shyness), you would have more extroverted kids once they’re no longer raised in Asian culture. It might be a way for geeks to have normal kids.
From what I have seen, Eurasian young people face virtually no problems nowadays due to that status. There are simply too many of them. Also, they are from two favored groups that don’t have any big grudges against each other. Some of the guys have the same social problems complained about by guys who are 100 percent Asian (*especially* Japanese guys), but they’re not any worse off for being mixed-race.
You mean Proud Asian Mother of a Eurasian
this is clearly written by an Asian Female
110%
In the past, I’ve had the opportunity to exchange thoughts with a couple of extremely outspoken and unapologetic Hapa males, themselves products of a Asian woman White male unions. My words pale in comparision to theirs. I felt like I was listening to pitbulls, if they could talk. I was surprised and taken aback by that. I was like: Hey, wait a minute. Your OWN parents are part of this and yet you’re attacking it? What gives?
And I realized that them being who they are, they have the insider scope. They know what happens behind closed doors and what gets said or done outside of the earshot of polite company. Ultimately, for whatever reasons even Hapa males tend to identify more as Asian. They are privy to many things that I am not. They, too, know where they stand in the grand scheme of things. They too become quickly and painfully familiar with the unspoken color code. They know how the cookie crumbles, perhaps even better than someone like I can even imagine.
Ultimately, I am not here to bash interracial relationships per se, but to critique what the AF-WM represents. If our community were a ship, it is one that is badly listing toward one side. I don’t know if anyone’s ever seen a ship like that; it is a dramatic sight that is indicative of major trouble that says “there’s a big problem here”. To many Asian males, including apparently even Hapas, it is the symbol of a false pretense at diversity, a gender divide which engenders mistrust, “whiteness” worshipping, and of course, auto-racism. There is no hope for someone like me, who has been mind-fucked beyond repair. But this will continue to have a profound, silent effect on future generations; the constant, unrelenting sight of AF-WM pairs, the single most clichéd interracial relationship on Earth…in the streets, the shopping mall, at schools, in the churches, on college campuses…even in the most unlikeliest corner of Earth, such as a small redneck town – what effect does this have on impressionable young boys and girls, going through puberty and struggling with their identity and sexuality. I have not met EVEN ONE ASIAN-AMERICAN WOMAN who’s thought of this.
Racism is an ever evolving concept. Most of you are working with a notion of racism that is outdated at least 20 years. Most of us tends to think of racism in terms of one group versus another. Racism can be directed at one’s own group as well. It is just as terrible. In fact, I would say that it is worse. Because if one can be racist against their own they can be racist toward anybody. Just as if one cannot love himself, he is utterly incapable of loving others. The fact that Asian women worships white men is hardly a demonstration of their openminded but only proves that they are too easily impressed by what they think represents power, prestige, or privilege.
Respect for asians in general has not improved, despite – from whites’ point of view – the high interracial marriage rate with asian women – is because they are not entering a relationship of equals. It is mostly of the “me love you long time” type, where the subservient asian wife is clearly serving the white man. He is using the citizenship/money and his whiteness – you know, the race that many asian women see as “the best” – to assert authority over her. Thus these marriages mean nothing, just telling us that white men are dominating asian women enough to deprive asian men of their own… who could respect that?
This ties in with the open, casual racism that is afforded to asians that would nearly always be (rightly) mowed down if directed towards other groups… the general lack of respect. A lot of this is to do with asians’ non-conflict stance towards… well, everything. It’s a dog eat dog world out there, and you notice with minority groups they quickly descend into tribalism – getting into similar racial groups and having turf wars. The asians who do not do this – coupled with their relative lack of numbers – mean they are easy targets.
I notice that in Britain, the first interracial relationships between asians and whites were not the type you see now, but asian men (sailors who worked for the Royal Navy during WW2) and their white British wives. Guess what happened to them? All deported. Now the tide has truly reversed, do we see the same thing happening with these asian women who – let’s be fair – are parasitical, leeching off a white’s income and having non white kids? Of course not.
Why is this… because the white governments have seen an opportunity. East Asians are suffering a racial demographic crisis – way more men than women, and an ageing population. Common sense would be to send asian men to other nations so they do not go without families, at the same time balancing out the m-f ratio. Instead the opposite is happening – I read a study where in most african and asian (south) countries, the university students they send for study abroad are always mostly male – EXCEPT the east asian nations, where 65% of those they send from China to Britain are female. Most of these will find a white man there, pop a baby and oh look – they are now British. More importantly, they have deprived a chinese man of their own family – this despite the sex imbalance. Meanwhile, these white men aren’t the sort who are the desirable ones back home – most likely they would be childless and forgotten – but noticing this asian female mentality of white fever – have made asian men the ones childless and forgotten. Then of course you have the old white men with previous families, thus ensuring a pure white family to continue AND spreading his seed to another race – whilst poor asian man can’t even have his own family.
I remember when I was about 13 years old, I was at a (Vietnamese) hair salon getting my hair cut. At the waiting area, there was a young woman with her two kids and her mother. It was the first time in my life seeing (Vietnamese) HAPA kids. Their grandmother was trying to play with her kids, but she didn’t speak any English so she was speaking to them in Vietnamese with the mother encouraging them to play with her. They didn’t understand a word she was saying and tried to avoid her the entire time, giving her looks like “Who the hell are you?”
In a perfect world, self-hating Asian women will have male HAPA kids that will look Asian enough to be bullied, and they will relay their pain to their mothers, whom will then realize that they helped fuel the hate that was echoed onto their kids. Or maybe that’s just bitter wishful thinking.
Someone already mentioned that attractive bi-racial children will always be appreciated anywhere because good looks in general will get you everything. But what of the average-looking bi-racial children? I imagine it would be especially difficult for children who cannot identify with the same-gender parent. Which seems to be the frustration of the author of this blog. If he looks more Asian and experiences the same discriminations as an Asian man then there is no way his white father could ever relate. This would be the same with females of a BM/WF where the daughter looks black and experiences racism as a Black person, which her white mother can never relate to.
I’ve seen that as well. It’s a pathetic sight. All that hard work put into raising a child, and she’s rewarded with grandchildren that probably won’t even visit her grave. What a waste. Hopefully, she has a son or two
Jesus you’ve never met my girlfriend if you think asian women are like submissively and leechy, of course she was mongolian but raised in Russia before moving to America. She’s moody, guarded, and stubborn as all hell but I love her anyway especially those rare times she doe drop her guard. Haha but yeah she definetly wears the pants in this relationship though I do fight for them back every now and then and yes i’m a white guy. I really have never thought of race as an issue so I honestly can’t see where you’re coming from after reading several of these as many of the asian and half asian male friends I have do really well for themselves. I honestly think you have a lot of self hatred probably stemming from your mother and very possibly your father.
who cares.
Its like whatever race of women professes their love to white men, you all become obsessed.
Its clear you have not even dated one because you will know the relationship between asian female and white male is more complex and complicated that it seems. You have to deal with cultural differences, the fact that you will never be asian and your kids most likely will look it.. you may feel left out at times. You will not understand the racism that asians face and most likely will be in denial of it.
sorry but interracial relationships are overrated and you have to be strong willed to handle it. Which is why the divorce rate is so high for this pairing (asian women/white male)
The white men you see with asian women do not care what others think and they are willing to step outside the norm because they love the girl for who she is, not because she is asian.
You seem to have a thing for “asians” in general, it seems as if you never even found one who likes you and who’s personality you click with.
Stop looking at the race and look at the heart. Realize that the realtionship will not be easy and as you pointed out it will be hard if you have an asian son (all eurasians look asian) because your not an asian man and asian men in general do not like white men.
All i can say is good luck because your in for quite the suprise.
If you look at the census you will also see that the divorce rate between asian female and white male is high, that is because alot realize the relationship is more complicated than the media plays it out to be. You have to really love the person inorder for it to work.
Im black and i dated a white guy and i think the thing is with interracial dating is you either are in it because you like the person or your in it beccause it seems so new and exciting (like a new car you went to test drive).. than you realize how different you are and it really puts a test on your love for that person. In my case, we did not love eachother enough to make it work, none of us wanted to try so the relationship fell apart. I think we saw eachother more as a “test drive, new car” rather than, ” i love him/her, s/he is the one.
Im just letting you know from my personal experience that it takes alot more than fascination and “i want to drive the new car” to make the relationship work. What you think may be “love” is most likely lust and wanting to try something “new”, seeing what all the hype is about. Than you realize that its nothing like what it seems in the movies.
A great majority of people still date those from their own race and many will be against your relationship. It really puts a test on your love. The media for some reason plays out interracial relationships as if its more common than same race relationships, again when you walk out with her you will realize its not and that people are still very ignorant towards interracial couples.
Growing up Asian in a white culture, there was a time when I thought that the color of a person’s skin didn’t matter. But as I grew up and learned about my own culture, I just knew that life with a non-Asian would never work for me. I believe you’re right that marriage is more than just physical attraction and maybe even beyond love, respect, and communication. There are practices in my culture that require the husband to play a specific role. No other man can do this except for an Asian man from my own ethnic group. I don’t want to observe my cultural traditions and have a spouse who can only stand on the sideline. I want a spouse who can perform these traditions with me without me having to give him a quick education about it. Not only do I want a husband who can do these things with me, but a husband who will also find them meaningful. A non-Asian can be instructed how to perform these rituals but I’m not quite sure he’ll find them as meaningful. He may be doing them as a compromise. I don’t want that when it comes to traditions. We have to both find them meaningful or don’t waste our time doing them at all.
Also, since a sizable number of commenters here are considering marrying Asian women, I’d recommend using a white egg donor to produce children in order to pass on white cognitive and physical appearances to your kids.
Eurasian guys tend to not do well in the dating market because they’re too introverted to approach women much and Eurasian girls aren’t as attractive as fully white girls because of lack of breast size.
Using white egg donors in WM-AF pairings reduces concerns about putting your children at a social/dating disadvantage while adding more white people to the American population and in the least morally objectionable way possible (It’s no morally different than a WM-AF couple adopting a fully white kid) because doing so retains freedom of mating choice without worrying about the social downsides of your descendents inheriting Asian traits.
So you are saying Asian traits are inferior. Clearly you haven’t looked around at most white Americans. 85% of the women I see are butt fucking ugly or fat lazy whales who could only lose the fat through liposuction. That shows a lack of willpower and bad personality, which is also genetic.
It is fucking disgusting when I see a white American whale trying to flirt with me, being a very muscular Asian guy at 163 lbs, 5’6″ and able to deadlift 420 lbs, bench 90 lb dumbbells for 8 reps, etc. and talented in martial arts and pretty damn good looking according to many European-European women. Bitches are way below my league but the American disenfranchisement of Asian American males has somehow made them think they have a chance with me. Hahahahahah they can dream the fuck on and go home and fuck themselves with a dildo.
60% of white guys also look pretty damn ugly or can’t put on weight or are extremely overweight or obese. 90% of white guys are jackass, douchebag bullies. White people aren’t any more superior than Asian people.
In fact, I think most white people tend to have genetically inherited mental issues or are psychopaths/bullies. So the white race is the most dangerous and most unstable race on the planet. No wonder even blacks and hispanics often dislike white people. People like you who want to erase Asian genes are the kind of people I wouldn’t mind seeing thrown into an oven and burned alive like the Jews were in WWII. It is about time white people experienced some kind of genocide and had a taste of their own medicine. After all, they committed genocide all across the world starting from the 1500s and spanning all the way until present day.
I’m fine with WMAFs using egg donors or adopting fully white kids if it means that self-hating Asian female scum stop spreading their genes.
I’m another half-white half-asian guy like OP. And like OP, I love my parents and don’t think my white dad or Asian mom fit into the stereotype of Asiaphiles. I have a good relationship with my parents. And yet everytime I see a WM/AF couple on the street I feel fucking sick. Its a kick in the stomach. And yes it does hurt me as a hapa to know that I came from a WM/AF relationship. So it really pisses me off when I see all these Asian bitches ripping on OP saying that hes just taking out his personal hate of his evil mom on innocent Asian girls. OP says many times that his mom ain’t that bad its YOU “innocent” Asian girls he hates. I can relate to all the shit my Asian brothers have been saying on the comments. And its a kick in the stomach to be the walking product of WM/AF, even when you have good parents.
To all Asian girls dating white guys out there, I still fucking hate you.
I notice that there have been a few Asian female visitors to this blog and I DEMAND an answer from them. How do you justify having Half-Asian sons like me and OP, when you and your ilk have done so much to make life hell for us?
Every Asian girl in America should be required to read through all the Hapa male comments on this blog. What are you going to do when your cute hapa babies grow up? Flush them down the toilet?
Debate about WM/AF is so censored, When you consider all the crazy Nazi websites on the internet, its crazy that this blog’s comments section is the only place on the web for honest dialogue. God forbid an Asian male bitch about WM/AF. With the thousands of comments here, I haven’t found one Asian female coherently defend her actions.
The author mentions that Asians in the USA are at the mercy of geopolitics. If theres a war with China, North Korea or Japan we all go into the gas chambers. Well he wasn’t exaggerating, check out the reponses to the Goebblesesque “Red Dawn” from everyday young white Americans. http://i.imgur.com/vcYuy.png just search #RedDawn
These are the same white dudes that Asian whores are so desperate to fuck. How does it feel Asian women to be the women of choice of losers? Whenever I browse loser discussion forums, the suggestion to white nerds is always the same go teach English in South Korea, China, Thailand. Your social awkwardness is actually attractive to Asian women. Is it fun Asian girls? To be so desired as the women of choice for the biggest loser nerds around? And of course what does it say about Asian dudes, that Asian girls are so desperate to get away from them, they’ll fuck the geekiest white guy? I’ve noticed a lot of shows like Big Bang Theory and Numbers that are geared towards white nerds, have tried to start a trend of white nerds with Indian chicks. So the evil white media wants nerds to fuck Indian chicks. But yet you don’t see it in the Real World. So don’t give me that shit that its the media or poverty.
Latinas, Africans and Indians are MUCH MUCH poorer than Japan or South Korea which are fucking 1st world NATIONS!!!! I don’t know how any self-respecting Asian girl could EVER date a white guy, if she so much as googles “asian girls”. Does it feel good to know that you have a REPUTATION among white guys as prostitutes? That he can go to Thailand or the Korean massage parlor down the block and buy himself some hot Asian sex? You Asian girls actually LIKE being “desirable” and “exotic”? You think your prostitution marks high social status?
Asians are PROUD that omega males LOVE them. The white guys who go for Asian girls are the WORST. Worst both in being socially ranked the lowest. And worst as human beings, since they are all conservative, social darwinist, libertarian, racialist, anti-feminists. These are guys who hate women and hate colored people. And yet LUV Asian colored women. Asian women are so proud to whore themselves out to whiteys who hate women and hate immigrants. The radio DJ who harassed Chinese restaurants said he couldn’t be racist since he has a Chink wife, just like the ESPN “chink in the armor” guy. ‘Scientific’ racists like John Derbyshire and Charles Murray also love Michelle Malkin Yellow Gooks longtime. How can Asian-America ever be taken seriously, when our female-half is so horrible?
White men HATE you Asian women. They hate you because you are female and because your colored immigrants. Yet you just can’t wait to spread your whore legs for them. I don’t see mail-order brides from India or Africa. Have some fucking pride. I don’t see war-brides from Iraq and Afghanistan.
How does it feel Asian women, to be a race of WHORES? The PROSTITUTE RACE!!!!
Hey #Reddawn,
I am a 33 year old white guy who is currently dating a 30 year old Asian woman. I’m Canadian, she’s Taiwanese. We are thinking of getting married and having children. I am really shocked by your comment that “we”, ” are all conservative, social darwinist, libertarian, racialist, anti-feminists”.
I am, in some regard, all of these things! That is pretty impressive! I know that the youtube guy “ramzpaul”, who would probably fit into all of those categories, also has “a thing” for Asian women. I am sensing that this is a neat little cultural/psychological phenomenon that I am a part of – and I didn’t even know it.
Can you tell me more, about what you see in this regard. You claim that I “hate women and hate colored people”, but I don’t feel this to be true. I do realize that we, as humans, are sometimes not aware of what is really going on inside of us, so I am fully willing to hear your take on the situation.
But really, this woman, I think I like her (like, a lot), almost in spite of being Asian. Not necessarily because of a lack of respect for the Asians (anyone who doubts their power, as the US gets closer and closer to sinking, is obviously a fool), but because of the perception of the WMAF relationship in our society. She is just the warmest, funniest, most honest, prettiest, smartest woman I have ever met. I actually like it when she comes home, lol.
And as far as “hating colored people” – I can’t speak for others who might be part of the same demographic you are referring to, but for me, I love anybody who loves themselves. Black people? Really who is more of a “conservative, social darwinist, libertarian, racialist, anti-feminist” than Jay Z?
“Can’t believe they got a nigga to vote
Democrat, nope
I sold dope
In trouble water I had to learn how to float”
Anyway. I am a bit of a loser in that I am on the lower side of middle class, and don’t have a brilliant career, as of yet. (It’s not too late though, buddy, it’s not to late, ha ha) I’m shorter, but far from ugly, in half decent shape, and alternate between the strong silent type vibe and the insightful and introspective type vibe (this is turning into a dating profile, ha ha)… but she isn’t much of a whore, just been with two other guys, both Taiwanese. Shrug. She does “joke” about the status symbol I am… applies skin whitener… and talks about how cute our kids will be. ??? That is kind of fucked up, eh?
But lets not pretend to be saints! None of us are perfect. She’s a good woman, in terms of being loyal and honest (perhaps not to her race, ha ha), well educated and yet willing to follow her heart (trying out a new career path), pretty, a few pounds too heavy, dresses too “comfortable” most of the time… I feel like we are both the odd balls of our own societies, because we are more heart than brains, and we just happened to find each other. Shrug.
I don’t think either of us (me or her) have any strong feelings against Asian males. Her father seems to be a womanizing business man who drinks expensive tea and absolutely loves her. Rare in any race. She feels very close to him. And me? Like I said before, I love anyone who loves themselves.
Anyway, this is a bit of a ramble, I apologize for that, I was just hoping that I could get some more of your perspective, on my particular situation. Maybe I am your prime offender? or maybe I am just a “look alike” ??? I don’t know. I appreciate your brutal honesty. If you feel like replying, please do. Let me know how you feel! ha ha.
With kind regards,
Shane.
You need to read my blog if you think his got you thinking:
http://www.longingfordeath.wordpress.com
why would you want your kid to be asian you’re fucking crazy. your son will be one of those taiwanese guys your wife passed on. I think one of the things eurasianmale touched on is why have children who will be second class citizens (asian males) through a relationship that exists because asian males are second class citizens.
as sad and depressing as I find this blog, the way you feel into his joke was pretty funny
what, is, WRONG with you. you of all people should know never to assume a caricature over any group of people. white men with Asian women couldnt handle the feminist mentality of white women so they seek Asian women to fulfill their masoginistic sexual fantasies? you sick bastard. you should really read your own posts, they are so full of anger and hate. us Asian women are people too, and we do not deserve to be dehumanized in this manner.
@Asian girl with a heart
Your username is an oxymoron. Anyway, ugly women have been dehumanized for all of human history. Just learn to deal with it. Deal with the truth, that no one is going to cherish or respect an Asian female when a white female is around. The difference in beauty is just too great.
The white man screwing you is exactly that kind of guy and you are exactly that kind of traitorous Asian woman whom the yellow man is not good enough for. Your denial of stereotype is just a smokescreen to hide your own stereotypical behavior. Everyone denies as you do, so no one has to answer for it. That’s the benefit of political correctness. But, underneath it all, everyone knows the truth. They know that you’re both haters.
You deserve degradation and dehumanization from all Asian males if your preferred sex partners are white. If you prefer children with white features then you deserve the scorn of your father and all your male relatives. Believe me, that’s what they would feel for you. If you don’t care, then yes, you are a hater and a sick bitch.
@Asian girl with a heart
@imnotrascist
They will answer for it soon. There are other Asian men who see as I do now, especially of this generation. We see the truth. That Asian women are far less beautiful than they’ve tricked everyone into thinking, since they only attract the lowliest white males.
We see the truth. That Asian features are more attractive on men. And that if not for their ‘Love you long time’, Asian women would be considered only slightly better looking than black women. Which is what they objectively are.
The Asian girls Asian guys find beautiful look more Caucasian than Asian.
So, know your true worth, Asian woman. The lies you have spun for decades are burning.
Its interesting this blog has attracted sympathethic comments from white, latina, black and eurasian girls. The one group of females, which has had a universally negative reaction is -Asian women. And you would think, they are the ones who should be the MOST concerned. Since they are the ones breeding with white men, who have to mother to the concerns raised by the countless Eurasians here. But every single post by an Asian female here, has been a big fuck you to Asian and Eurasian men.
Obviously this is an important issue to women of all races. Since the type of white men who are “happier abroad” are all misogynist, anti-feminists, who want submissive, servile, masochistic, Asian wives.
Well this isn’t true. I’m an Asian Female that sympathizes with SEML. However, I must tell you that I’m married to an Asian man and have Asian sons. I am also curious to hear a response from an Asian woman married to a White man.
Well this post is basically a giant “fuck you” to Asian females…
(chicken or the egg?)
I usually have no interest in blogs where people let loose their most infantile and unqualified prejudices, because the internet attracts a lot of low-quality comment from people who could never dream of actually getting published. But somehow this blog, with all its racist generalisations and moaning, is a screaming success! It confronts non-eurasians, (or non-eurasian-males) with a POV they’ve probably overlooked, it provokes honest reflection on the consequences of mixed marriage, shines a light on ongoing racism in multicultural societies, and attracts a really broad range of comments.
As a “WM” who was in a relationship with a Japanese woman for six years, and came close to raising a family of eurasian kids, I have to admit that I could anticipate in advance that raising daughters would be easier than sons, but I couldn’t have articulated why so well as SEML so fheartwrenchingly puts it. As for the common stereotype that white guys who date asian girls are all epsilon males (or ‘omegas’) who can’t get white women, I have to say I saw a lot of supporting evidence while I was in Japan and China, but it wasn’t always the case. As another commenter pointed out, WM/AF couples are under external pressure because their relationship is looked down as unbalanced. We all like to think in matters of love society’s opinions are irrelevant, but actually very hard not to care what other’s might be thinking. The white male in a WM/AF relationship typically feels embarrassed about it in front of white women, and the Asian female is likely to feel apolagetic to her asian male friends. Neither of them wants to feel this way. There are already enough pressures in a relationship, especially a cross-cultural one, without having to feel that to others your relationship is just a contemptible stereotype.
As an alternative to the omega theory, the reason I think a lot of white men are attracted to Asian women in Western countries is that to have reached that destination she or her family have gone through a tough selection process, and have made the grade in terms of social capital and economic prospects. In Australia, for example, if east Asian immigrants are not already wealthy when they arrive here, they are usually talented enough to become so quickly. They’ve beaten millions of other Asians to get into this country, so they are the cream of the crop. Wealth and intelligence are usually accompanied by beauty, and that’s why Asian females in Western countries are hotter than white women on average. If a western country suddenly became really poor, and only the most able citizens could manage to abandon ship, the white females who emigres would also be comparitively hotter. In Australia, marrying an Australian-born Asian female guarantees not only a bonus decade of physical attraction, but also means you’ll be financially secure. No wonder its appealing. By contrast, marrying an Asian female from an Asian country means you’ll be poorer, you’ll be quietly dissed by everyone, you’ll suffer from communication deficiency, and you’ll experience the steady disintegration of the good-will, attraction, and sense of adventure that originally pushed you to commit to the relationship. Oh yeah, and if you have a son he will be a spineless emasculated toad who will hate you and negate you and himself with every awkward move and sound he makes. The best you can hope is that he’ll be like SEML, i.e. that at least in his arch self-loathing you’ll see something of yourself, and maybe be able to share a chuckle. Keep it up SEML!
Here’s a low-quality comment for you. If you want to avoid having a son, please be sure not to ejaculate deep into your Asian whore’s vagina. Supposedly, the female sperm have better endurance but not the quickness of the male sperm. But,of course, it’s difficult to avoid thrusting deep since the Asian whore is so much tighter than any other woman. A perfect compliment to the Asian penis and small white ones.
Woah that’s nasty but I guess I asked for it. My comment about having a spineless son though was just intended to press SEML’s buttons. There’s obviously nothing wrong with eurasian sons per se and hopefully SEML can learn to accept himself soon. Also I just remembered a eurasian university student I tutored once with WM/AF parents who was the strongest and best looking guy in his year, a top sportsman and scholar-gentleman. I highly doubt he had resolved his identity issues by hating out on all WM/AF couples. Last ever comment on this interesting blog.
I’m sorry but the father of the family in the picture was a total D-bag in all those interviews. How any Asian woman can find that man attractive must be purely based on her white fetish. If some of these Asian women claim white men are better than Asian men then they better darn marry a white man that actually has class.
Hi im a Mixed male.dutch(my papa),Irish and native american(my momma).
I grew up in the netherlands,as a kid i was strawberry blond/blue eyed ,straight hair.as a kid i became darker skin,darker hazel eye,curly hair.
aaah the difference how I am treated !
and Whoever said if youre goodlooking it compensates,thats BS.My mother was a Model,and Women always call me goodlooking and offer me sex.I look like the male model Chad white.
at MOST white nordic MEN,will consider you a threat if youre a model Tier guy,and you look like an Arab or a turk or what blond feminist men like to call”Wogs”.you know caucasian but darker caucasian(think french,basque,spanish,serbian,ukranian,greek).Oh man will they get isnecure like the bitches they are.
White women prefer Woggy men above all men and even travel to southern europe and the ME(jordan,palestine)to fuck Woggy men.
when these sons of bitches do find out Im just as White as they are,and they see my dutch name,they do nothing but whine like bitches how black men and Arab men are taking our women and in the case of Arab men,they pimp out the dutch women.
I in my heart, symapthize with arab machoness so I dont give two shits about the white Race or white women acting out their sexual fantasies.
Wogs,Black dudes and East asian men ARE objectively more dominant and masculine then blond white nordics and if i Were a white woman id spread my legs too for the more dominant male.
Now before you get mad at what i will say,hear me out.
I want to marry a Asian woman.not because i find them attractive,I dont.but because in some asian cultures virginity is still the norm and thats a basic perequisite for a LTR in my opinion.I dont want to be cuckolded nor have some dudes seconds,or pay for something she gave some high school jock for free(that oh so sweet teen Hymen).to me a woman that has ”dated”is worse then a prostitute.atleast the prostitute got money for her services,the average western women gave those services for free.
yet these beta weak ass white men would wife a asian woman or white woman in an instant as long as her sexual experience was in a ”LTR”or some shit.
I think the appeal in these white men is that they dont mind seconds.a asian,arab,turkish,afghan male would NEVER knowingly commit to a non-virgin or a woman over a certain age and these rotten apples know their only chance is with white men.
the only other alternatives are abrahamic religious cults like the Amish,orthodox Jewry or muslims.I hate abrahamic religions so that would be a no to me.
I prefer White women.my own women.on a pure physichal level and also as people i actually like them.White women here atleast are good women ,kind and much more sexy then any asian female (they usally are Arrogant due to the white boy attention they get)
If I could find a White virgin or even Black who wasnt part of some Abrahamic religion,i wouldnt even consider Asian women.
Even east african women are more pretty than asian women.
Alas!the only place i could find a Virgin with my similar beliefs is in Asia!
I do however hate WM/AF couples,and i do sympathize with Asian males,and hope Asian man becomes the new White man soon,as Hypocritcal that may sound from a Wog Caucasian who plans on settling with a Asian virgin after hes done having his fun with all the white women.
thats all I have to say
There are a lot of black women who are raised extremely religiously in the church and who are virgins. Lots of them. The whole Baptist thing and girls singing in the choir is real, if that’s what’s important to you. Seems like that shouldn’t be the only thing you evaluate on a woman, but to each their own.
Honestly, I find your anti-Asian-female outlook quite demeaning. It’s cool and all if you hold that view (after all, this is your blog), but I just wanted to say that my mom was a first generation immgrant from China who was caring and loving and didn’t push me at all, while still motivating me to be a better person. She was extremely smart, rising to the top of the biochemistry company she worked at, and worked to send me to college. I realize that the whole “Tiger Mom” thing has cast such a horrible shadow on Asian women, but I hope my girls and I will be much better mothers.
What the hell is wrong with you? There are plenty of Asian women who are with a white man because they love them, not just their race, but for who they are. Not all Asians are poor, living in poverty, scraping for food. My family holds enough estate to impress anyone, and I do not choose my boyfriend on his race, but on his personality and characteristics. I’m proud of my heritage, my roots, and if my future children were to marry, like my mom, I would encourage them to marry whomever they love. You are incredibly demeaning! What made you so cruel, blind sighted, ignorant, and stupid?
I wish the commenters would stop attacking races and genders as a whole. As I am not in your specific situations, I cannot assess it or give any true input. I am, however, saddened and offended when you go calling entire races of women whore this and slut that. You can make your point known without doing that. For every bad mother or so, there are many good ones.
Many of you raise valid points. These concerns should not be overlooked. I can see how the current situation is very unfair to Asian men – but that gives you no reason to outright attack an entire group of women or men.
Some commenters need to relax and stop being so angry at everyone. Many Asian women do marry and prefer Asian men. What do you make of that? Why do you just go on attacking ALL women? You hate on Asian women for marrying white men by calling all Asian women whores (regardless of why she married) and refuse to acknowledge the ones that don’t fit your stereotype.
You make your entire race look bad when you sprout things like “All Asian women are whores” this and “All white women are hos” that. Please do not represent Asian men in this light. You are angry and you should be. This does not make it okay to destroy the good name of your heritage by making gross assumptions and generalizations.
Before I came to this blog, I never knew thought about the issues that many eurasian and asian men faced. I was blindly ignorant of it all. I am glad to learn and would like to learn more, but am scared and saddened by the hate, racism, sexism, etc.
Admittedly, some things are about race – but sometimes they are not. If you want change, do something about it. Join a movement, educate others. Spreading hate is not the answer.
Your vicious attack and general attitude towards Asian women perhaps explains why many of them end up with non-Asian males. It represents the stereotypical Asian male hatred toward Asian females. Why would an Asian female date someone who thinks she’s an ugly, heartless, money-grubbing whore who has no business raising kids as opposed to the Caucasian female? Of course your perception of the warm-hearted Caucasian female is skewed because the ones you’ve known to date Asian males are extremely open-minded. The hard reality is that most of them won’t even consider it, and that’s why you see so few WF/AM couples.
Although I’ve only experienced dysfunctional Asian males in my lifetime (abusive father towards mother, shithead brothers, Asian boyfriends who were gambling degenerates and stole money from me and cheated on me), even I know that there must be decent, laid-back, sincere, loyal Asian males that respect Asian women too. Unfortunately, I haven’t come across any in my limited experience and ended up marrying a non-Asian, but if I did, I would’ve probably given him priority over a non-Asian male. Finding a nice man to marry regardless of race hardly makes me a sellout. You do realize that Asians make up only like 3% of the US population and finding an Asian mate without the help of antiquated methods (i.e., matchmakers, arranged marriages, etc.) is highly improbable?
What right do you think WM/AF Asian moms have to raise Asian-looking males?
well he did mention in an earlier post that most white women are “extremely racist”
If you’ve ever visited Asia, you’ve likely seen the pale, rail-thin, greasy-haired white boy walking hand-in hand with a perfectly made-up, mini-skirt wearing Asian chick. This would never happen anywhere else in the world. Because everywhere else, Barbie ends up with Ken, not his underemployed, socially-awkward, samurai-sword-collecting neighbor, Kevin. But in Asia, dating rules defy all logic or evolutionary law. In Asia, the nerd is king.
Not that I wished it otherwise. For the most part, I was happy for them. These men wouldn’t have been able to score a date at home if they’d been a calender but in Asia they’d nabbed the prom queen. They were true success stories. Who could blame them for taking advantage of a magical loophole that allowed them to date women out of their league?
my dorky expat brothers expertly flirted for phone numbers and first dates. They were like kids in a candy store
I’m 35. I have a young hapa son. So far he seems to love me. I am asian.
I hope that he always knows I love him as he grows up.
I had a crappy childhood too. And I’ve becoming increasingly aware of the disgust people have for wm/af. I did choose my husband, but it was not because I wanted white.
It doesn’t bother me you not liking asian women. When I was younger hapas I met I didn’t think really liked asian girls. Now I know I was right good thing I didn’t pursue.
I am a WM engaged to an AF. I have had plenty of WF girlfriends/lovers and don’t find it difficult. I am neither for nor against them as you are stereotyping the whole white race?! I have dated east European gold diggers, as well as western (Irish) strong charactered and good natured women. My fiancée now happens to be Korean. She is from a wealthier background than me, is beautiful and although some cultural differences she is definitely not “subservient” and very strong in character. Reason for marriage – we love each other. Whoever wrote this article is living in such a bubble it’s (almost) fucking laughable. It’s ALMOST insulting to hear you say a WM would prefer the worst white women over the best Asian. I’ll introduce you to a few crack whores and see if you’d date them over “the best” Asia has to offer. Jeez!
Most Asian guys don’t believe the blogger is living in a bubble. We see the world in the same way. So, if you laugh at him then you’re laughing at us, which btw now includes your future in-laws. They are going to hate your ass. They might be polite, cordial and all that. But, your fiance went from daughter or sister #1 to # last place. Good luck to you.
One more thought for you – black male / white female couples are way more common than WM/BF ones. Can you say that even the worst of black women are more desirable than the best of white women then, following you WM-AF/AM-WF ratio “logic” too? I’d love to see a photo of the blogger. I’m sure he has everything going for him. Why else would he dwell on such issues?!
I’m 17 and live in London. My racial background is quite diverse but mainly jewish/ oriental and indeed people nickname me the “Asian Jew” because of my stereotypical nose. At my school there are quite a lot of east asian girls and I have tried to ask some of them out but have categorically failed on all occasions to get a date.The reasons they give are so insulting ranging from ” You’re a big nose who’s too too asian to be white.” to “Sorry, slit eye I date white boys only.” Why are they so mean? And it’s true white guys who ask them out are always successful even if they’re ugly, stupid and obnoxious. Such setbacks have taken my confidence away from me. Personality wise I’m kinda extrovert but not to insane levels but they just don’t see it.Truth to told I am more closer to my european side and so prefer european women over asians but they have still inflicted a lot of emotional damage upon me . And I suppose part of the reason that I asked them out in the first place is because apparently they like mixed guys. I know this really charming european( french+ german) girl at my school who is in my class. We get on really well and I speak a bit of German since my dad’s half so we can converse more easily. Over time we’ve become really close and we chat quite a lot. In her case she actually likes my nose saying “It’s beautifully sculpted” but I’m really nervous to ask her out. I’m scared that she’ll take suit and reject me with so much humiliation Besides, the asian girls at school resent her because she gets higher grades than them so maybe they’ll take it out on her if she goes out with me. Or should I just take heed from her past experiences and acknowledge that I am simply hopeless at dating women?
This entire post is ridiculous, and the intelligence level of this post is shameful. That is all.
I am a WF (with am A/M for 5+ years) and kind of want to mention the huge blanket generalizations that are going on here. There are plenty of people who do not fit these sterotyped descriptions of Asians and white people… People are just people. The things that white women are being accused of here, just as many many Asians are guilty of, and vice versa. Although it’s okay to recognize socially rare circumstances of love and relationships, it’s not okay for any kind of person to generalize others and tear at entire groups of people based on anecdotal or even made up criteria. An intelligent woman with a good heart can make a great wife and mother, regardless of racial or cultural heritage. A superficial person who focuses on socially constructed concepts like race and uses it to justify their position, whatever that may be, has lost their way in anger. Try to mitigate the petty stuff and see the bigger picture. We are all people. We have cultural differences, but that it beautiful and we ought not set out to degrade one another.
This is sort of related. I don’t hate my own race. But my white boyfriend came to the realization that it is possible we could have a son together instead of a daughter. I’m Chinese, by the way. He became upset that the son would look Asian and he hates Asian men. I became alarmed, asked him about what he means. He actually has a few really good friends who are Asian men, but his perception was being colored by this ONE guy whom he hates…and happens to be Korean American. I’m upset that one person seems to have ruined his perception of an entire race, but hopefully he’s not actually going to hate our potential future son.
we had just talked about it and I was not confident with whether it was resolved only for that occasion or it was really resolved. And in a way, I can only 100% say that it’s a non-issue once I not only have a son but have seen them interact with each other over a few years. But it’s been a while since then and I do feel confident in saying he’s not racist and wouldn’t be like that if we had a son. I’ve since seen him with kids as well (one of those best Asian male friends of his had a kid) and he’s great with them, which also really settled my worries. I guess you’ll just have to take my word on this, because I know him better than you would.
I can’t speak for the other guys who hate Asian men and love Asian women. I do think there really are guys out there who may be taken aback by it…and perhaps this is the optimist in me, but I think most parents…both the man and the woman….don’t hate their kids based on race. At least it seems that way from the mixed children I see around here. They have other problems with their kids, like them being unruly or messy or looking at porn at school, haha. Then again the guys and self-hating women who look down on Asian men are not people I respect so…maybe it’s good they get an Asian-looking son? Maybe it’ll change their perception? I’m just streaming thoughts here at this point. Was just thinking, I know this guy who was a huge, shady womanizer (ex-coworker of mine). Once he had a daughter by accident, it seemed like karma; his attitude changed and he takes a different stance on womens’ issues now. That was interesting to see.
But in reality maybe they should just not have kids 😡
I’ve met a lot of well adjusted half Asians….they seem to do well, especially when they are immersed in Asian culture. I grew up in a big family (90 people at our family reunions), and my future-son would be part of that. I traveled to Asia a lot since childhood and it’s greatly affected me, despite not being fluent in my family’s native language. What I mean to say is this: although I am Chinese by blood, I know there are things that separate me from foreign Chinese, and things that separate me from (for example) 6th gen Americans. But there is nothing wrong with that, and that’s something my mom had told me since I was little. To take the best of both worlds and be someone strong. That’s something I want to encourage in my future kids as well, not just in a future son but my future daughter too. Regardless of whether she is half or full blooded (if I break up with my boyfriend).
This “blog” is full of bigoted generalizations and race-obsessed people. Get off the internet and go outside. Women don’t like whiny ass men who complain about them on their “blog”, that’s your problem. You’re acting like the world owes you a relationship or something, like women should just lay down with you simply for being you. If you want a relationship, you have to go out and find it, and you can’t be some sad fuck with bad style who stares at the pavement while he’s walking down the street, you have to walk confidently, and talk confidently, and women will pick up on that. That’s not all of course, but that’s a small part that you’re probably missing.
I am a half Chinese /English person born in England. My parents split when I was young as my father was a violent drunk. After this he developed Asian fetish. My father used to go to Korean festivals and other events where he would try and hit on Asian women. He had a string of Asian girlfriends who I remember him hitting. He used to tell me how Asian men were inferior to white men and put down Asian men all the time while he chased after the women. Telling his own half Chinese son that Asian men were inferior. At school there were no other Asian people and I hated being half Chinese. I acted as white as possible and would even lie and tell people I was 1/4 Chinese if they asked. I hoped that my children would not look Chinese as I just wanted to date western girls. Now at University I have made many friends who are from all over the world and many are Chinese. I now embrace my Chinese side however I am saddened that my children are unlikely to be the same ethnicity as me. It is just as well that I embrace my Chinese side as most people from face values think I look Asian. I am happy being my own ethnicity now. I visited China during the summer and nearly everyone assumed I was full Chinese, so they were shocked when they heard me speaking British English. The guy at the Vietnamese passport control during the stopover was so amused I had a western name that he waved my passport around and showed it to all of his co workers. People should be free to date who they want but I am unhappy that Asian girls are being fetishized as some type of sex object. There is one club in town that the same Asian fetishist white guy always goes to. Every time I go there with a group of people which includes Asia girls he hones in on them like a heat seeking missile and just will not go away and leave them alone, one of the guys with us told him to leave our friends alone, Asian fetishist gives some bullshit reply and I stuck up for my friend, after which the Asian fetishist grabs me and tells me he is talking to that girl who is now walking away from him, he then releases me and starts following the Asian girls before being thrown out by the bouncers. I have lost track of the amount of times that guys have asked me if I have any sisters, telling me they are looking to pull some Asian girls. Yellow fever is a two way road, I have met girls who are obsessed with Asian guys, both black and white girls. However I still see about 99 white man Asian women relationships for every 1 Asian man white women relationships. Yellow fever does seem more prevalent in men than in women. sadly I see too many white man Asian women relationships that seem to consist of an ugly or fat man twice the age of his pretty young girlfriend, though there are many exceptions. In Asian man white women relationships the people are usually of similar age and attractiveness. I am not against interracial dating. I just think it should be for the right reasons.
Interesting article on biracial kids:
http://www.angelfire.com/space/cropcircles/
I am a Eurasian woman who has grown up in a Eurasian environment of many white male-asian female pairings, both among family and friends.
These are the reasons that the offspring of white male-asian female pairings quite often do not live in the best of both worlds:
1. You face social stigma growing up. There is now so much social stigma around white male – Asian female pairings, that it is decreasing in its value as having social status. Especially with the rising wealth of Asian nations.
2. Eurasians often face pressure from one or both sides of the family to follow their traditions. This creates an identity crisis, because you cannot be two people in one body, and you cannot be at two social gatherings at once.
3. Your father’s family might be a different religion than your mother’s. Even if both your parents are not religious, they both grew up in different religious environments, maybe speak different languages, and have some irreconcilable world views that never get resolved. You constantly have to explain one parent’s behavior to the other parent, until the day they die, because they just don’t “get it.” Try doing this for a couple decades, and you will be burned out.
4. Your parents don’t share the same taste in food, and argue over it.
5. Your mother and other Asian ladies constantly tell you that you have superior or better facial features. But they only complement your white features. Sometimes they flat out tell you, that because you are part European, you have better features. This makes you feel that your Asian half is inferior. When you look in the mirror, if you are honest with yourself, you realize that you are no better or worse looking than anyone of any other race. The racism involved makes you bitter.
6. My mother told me, that when she married my father, she thought, “white people have less problems.” Don’t believe that. Everyone has problems. Even if you are poor, and come from an Asian country, marrying somebody white will not necessarily give you a better life.
7. Sometimes the Asian mother gets upset, insecure, or feels guilty that her children may not turn out Asian due to the father’s influence. This leads to trying to dominate the children with Asian culture. My own mother tried to isolate me from my father’s family, so that I would be close to her. This is not right, because she chose to marry someone of a different culture.
8. Eurasians do not always make it back to their mother’s home country to be pop-stars, singers, or actors. Some of us actually can’t stand the thought of that. I constantly hear from my mother and other Asian ladies, that I could have gone back to my mother’s country and would have been such a “success” there. Honestly, I have no interest in going back there to try to “sell” my mostly European face to Asians.
9. When you eventually date, and choose to marry, one parent or at least a few family members inevitably feel rejected and angry if you do not “choose” their side. You EXPECT your parent not to feel rejected if you don’t marry into their culture, because after all, THEY chose not to marry into their culture. However, people in mixed marriages don’t often realize how they will actually feel a couple decades down the line when THEIR OWN children choose not to marry their ethnicity.
10. People who date outside their culture often do not ask themselves why someone chooses to marry outside of their culture in the first place. People who are running away from something, whether it is an abusive, dysfunctional household, or aspects of their own culture that they do not like, bring heavy baggage into a relationship. White men and other men who fetishize Asian women, think that the fantasy of an Asian women will solve their insecurities. Likewise, if an Asian woman feels insecure, and has low self-esteem, marrying a white man who fetishes her will not make her feel better. Feeling good about yourself has to come from within, NOT from another person. Insecure people in relationships magnify their problems and take their insecurities out on their children.
11. Any man can compliment a woman on her exotic beauty and tell her that she is beautiful both inside and out. But if this man secretly or not-so-secretly has an Asian fetish, the chances are HIGH that he lives in a fantasy world, has many insecurities, and possibly comes from an abusive background. Ladies, watch out: down the line he will take his problems out on you and your children. So ask yourself 1000 times before you marry him, what he could possibly be running away from, if he wants so badly to escape and marry into your culture. Likewise, if you are an Asian lady trying to run away from something in your history or culture, you have to be aware not only what you are running from, but what you are running to. Marrying someone white will not solve your insecurities.
12. Even in the best of white male – asian female outwardly successful pairings among my friends and family, most of the children still have some issues, such as who to date, who to marry, resentment of social stigma and prejudice.
13. Eurasians that I have met say things to other Eurasians that we normally do not say to our parents or the outside world. So, if you have kids, as teenagers and adults, they might be resentful against you, and you may or may not know it! Eurasians are normally brought up to represent the “best of both worlds” and to be “perfect”. The complaints and the resentment we often feel regarding the social stigma around our parents’ choice, and prejudices we face usually never get voiced except amongst ourselves, or online. We don’t want to hurt our parents, as dysfunctional as they might be. And, due to our partly Asian upbringing, we are still supposed to protect the “family honor”, even though it may be shrouded in social stigma.
14. Many times Asian women are in unhappy marriages, but will not get divorced to save face and to protect “family honor”. This is wrong. If you are in a bad relationship that cannot be helped, you should get out.
Hi! Just reposting this, because I added to the list:
I am a Eurasian woman who has grown up in a Eurasian environment of many white male-asian female pairings, both among family and friends.
These are the reasons that the offspring of white male-Asian female pairings quite often do not live in the best of both worlds:
1. You face social stigma growing up. There is now so much social stigma around white male – Asian female pairings, that it is decreasing in its value as having social status. Especially with the rising wealth of Asian nations.
2. Eurasians often face pressure from one or both sides of the family to follow their traditions. This creates an identity crisis, because you cannot be two people in one body, and you cannot be at two social gatherings at once.
3. Your father’s family might be a different religion than your mother’s. Even if both your parents are not religious, they both grew up in different religious environments, maybe speak different languages, and have some irreconcilable world views that never get resolved. You constantly have to explain one parent’s behavior to the other parent, until the day they die, because they just don’t “get it.” Try doing this for a couple decades, and you will be burned out.
4. Your parents don’t share the same taste in food, and argue over it.
5. Your mother and other Asian ladies constantly tell you that you have superior or better facial features. But they only complement your white features. Sometimes they flat out tell you, that because you are part European, you have better features. This makes you feel that your Asian half is inferior. When you look in the mirror, if you are honest with yourself, you realize that you are no better or worse looking than anyone of any other race. The racism involved makes you bitter.
6. My mother told me, that when she married my father, she thought, “white people have less problems.” Don’t believe that. Everyone has problems. Even if you are poor, and come from an Asian country, marrying somebody white will not necessarily give you a better life.
7. Sometimes the Asian mother gets upset, insecure, or feels guilty that her children may not turn out Asian due to the father’s influence. This leads to trying to dominate the children with Asian culture. My own mother tried to isolate me from my father’s family, so that I would be close to her. This is not right, because she chose to marry someone of a different culture.
8. Eurasians do not always make it back to their mother’s home country to be pop-stars, singers, or actors. Some of us actually can’t stand the thought of that. I constantly hear from my mother and other Asian ladies, that I could have gone back to my mother’s country and would have been such a “success” there. Honestly, I have no interest in going back there to try to “sell” my mostly European face to Asians.
9. When you eventually date, and choose to marry, one parent or at least a few family members inevitably feel rejected and angry if you do not “choose” their side. You EXPECT your parent not to feel rejected if you don’t marry into their culture, because after all, THEY chose not to marry into their culture. However, people in mixed marriages don’t often realize how they will actually feel a couple decades down the road when THEIR OWN children choose not to marry their ethnicity.
10. People who date outside their culture often do not ask themselves why someone chooses to marry outside of their culture in the first place. People who are running away from something, whether it is an abusive, dysfunctional household, or aspects of their own culture that they do not like, bring heavy baggage into a relationship. White men and other men who fetishize Asian women, think that the fantasy of Asian women will solve their insecurities. Likewise, if an Asian woman feels insecure, and has low self-esteem, marrying a white man who fetishes her will not make her feel better. Feeling good about yourself has to come from within, NOT from another person. Insecure people in relationships magnify their problems and take their insecurities out on their children.
11. Any man can compliment a woman on her exotic beauty and tell her that she is beautiful both inside and out. But if this man secretly or not-so-secretly has an Asian fetish, the chances are HIGH that he lives in a fantasy world, has many insecurities, and possibly comes from an abusive background. The Asian fetish comes from negative media portrayal and the rampant, vicious sex industry in Asian countries. Ladies, watch out: down the road a man with an Asian fetish is likely to take his problems out on you and your children. So ask yourself 1000 times before you marry him, what he could possibly be running away from, if he wants so badly to escape and marry into your culture. Likewise, if you are an Asian lady trying to run away from something in your history or culture, you have to be aware not only what you are running from, but what you are running to. Marrying someone white will not solve your insecurities.
12. Even in the best of white male – Asian female outwardly successful pairings among my friends and family, most of the children still have some issues, such as who to date, who to marry, resentment of social stigma and prejudice.
13. Eurasians that I have met say things to other Eurasians that we normally do not say to our parents or the outside world. Eurasian teenagers and adults might be resentful against their parents, and the parents may or may not know it. We are normally brought up to represent the “best of both worlds” and to be “perfect”. The complaints and the resentment we often feel regarding the social stigma around our parents’ choice, and prejudices we face usually never get voiced except amongst ourselves, or online. We don’t want to hurt our parents, as dysfunctional as they might be. And, due to our partly Asian upbringing, we are still supposed to protect the “family honor”, even though it may be shrouded in social stigma.
14. Many times Asian women are in unhappy marriages, but will not get divorced to save face and to protect “family honor”. This is wrong. If you are in a bad relationship that cannot be helped, you should get out.
15. From time to time, you may hear your father make comments such as, “the native women are beautiful and make a good wife,” followed by another comment, such as how another white male family member should “find himself a good wife from your mother’s native country.” You think back to #14 above, and know that you have watched your mother put up with unacceptable behavior for a couple decades. You then realize, if a man wants a doormat, then maybe your father is right. Although you have not yet vomited all over your parents, it is a DAILY sensation.
16. After another white male family member gets divorced, and your father makes comments to him from #15 above. This family member’s white ex-wife then comes to you, asking why your father told that to him. You are so pissed off at your dad, and you don’t feel like explaining the whole white male – Asian female racist scenario, because it has consumed too much of your life already. So all you say to your white female family is: “My father is crazy. Don’t listen to him.”
17. Your parents are highly educated and have multiple degrees. They use their academic pedigree to justify the superiority of mixed marriages, and the genetic superiority of mixed children, but you know deep down, based on their comments and behavior, they predominantly mean white male – Asian female mixed marriage. This makes you feel like you are the product of non-institutionalized eugenics. Again, you want to vomit, and it is a DAILY sensation.
18. You come to the conclusion that you are predominantly the end-product of racism and sexism, and “love” between your parents was a show-off by-product, covering up a system of misguided and shallow beliefs. You have to come to terms with yourself, and are on an incredibly long journey towards gaining self-love.
Hey, thanks for posting this stuff. I didn’t know about a lot of the issues that biracial people faced. This is definitely food for thought and opened my mind to this side of the struggle.
You’re going to hate me for this but I am one of those first gen Chinese women currently with a different sort of guy (my boyfriend is black) although my previous BFs have been Chinese or Filipino. So reading your blog brought up some concerns I may have if I have kids in the future.
BTW, some top rock musicians even are biracial Asian guys. For example Kirk Hammett, Eddie Van Halen and Roy Khan (Short for Khantatat, his dad is Thai). White girls think these guys are hot too. And some of my father’s Chinese friends are married to white or Hispanic women, I’ve never viewed their kids as different from regular Chinese kids. They lived the same lives we did, eating the same food and speaking the same language. I don’t see how my mom was a tiger mom either.
However these issues are definitely prevalent in society. I see a lot of good looking Asian women with these kinds of…odd white guys and can’t help but think that my nationality makes me automatically beta. Anti-AM stereotypes in the media make me uncomfortable because I see their effects on my younger brothers and guy friends. My black and white female friends who are with Asian guys, though, have good relationships. Not sure what to think. Thanks for speaking your mind, though.
the way you talk just like some white guy in 70’s – 80’s about BM-WF relationship… Your comparative between WF-AF just childish. Do some research about the hardship and sacrifice of AF mother for there child then. And one again, your example just bad as homo sapiens vs neanderthal, sorry we all homo sapiens not lion vs tiger , what make us different are culture diversity and geographic or life standard not about race. Your historical and biology just bad as my English . To prove my point : replace all your just wrote form Asian mom/tiger mom to black mom and WF vs AF to WF vs BF (or African F if your prefer) and see how silly it is.Please take science class, do comparison with WF vs AF (who are born and rise in US-EU) or WF (US-EU) vs immigrant WF and tell me that your right. In my opinion your just stupid or raciest (worst kind who even refuse his origin). TAKE ME AS a troll if you like but yours ignorance was unbearable . Hope yours end all this “dream mom” nonsense.
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You mentioned on your blog that you plan to go public soon before killing yourself and donating your money to charity. It seems a shame to waste a public Eurasian in a single blow.
Living in China, might be a 2nd World hell hole, for someone of your status, but you can use it to your advantage and that of the Eurasian Cause. I assume you speak Mandarin well. And you have the supposed so-called Eurasian celebrity advantage. Why not use your ‘celebrity’ status to spread the Eurasian message in China? Its true there is a strong culture of white-worship in China as though this were still the age of Victorian imperialism. But there is also a growing anti-imperialist nationalist backlash in China, which is constantly played up in the West, to fan fears of the Yellow Peril. Perhaps you could speak to that audience. Chinese are only 1.2% of America, but there are 1.3 billion more of them. And they obviously have more reason to be interested in the injustices of WMAF to its children, than the average American does.
I’m not going to tell you not to suicide, I believe every man has the right to his life. It is your choice to make. All I’m saying is that if you want to send a message, by going public with your suicide, you can start while you’re still alive. And you probably wont even have to be embarrassed about your family back in the states hearing about it, unless you become internationally famous anyway.
I don’t know specifically how you would begin to get attention for Eurasians in China. If you are in China, you know the local situation better than me. You probably could find some patriotic forums to post in to get started, and then maybe give some local talks. Even just posting your essays on Chinese-language forums using Google translate would help contribute. If the Chinese people could become aware of the content of your thoughts, it would be a great accomplishment. Perhaps China, not America is where the national dialogue on Hapas needs to take place.
You look at being stuck in China as a defeat. But you might be in the best location on Earth for spreading Eurasian ideals.
Holy shit man… that was some craziness. You need to chill the fuck out. White men really do like Asian women. But guess what? So does everyone else! Could you stop hating on white people? We’re an extreme minority on this planet. Talk about blacks, Indians, Arabs, Latinos, and other Asians! All those people are most attracted to Asian women, too! Just leave us out of it. Let us be. We’re dying out. We’re going to disappear soon. We will just be a memory in a couple hundred years. Children will look at pictures of us and ask, “Mommy, did people really look like that once?” Just stop the with all the anger.
It takes a lot of White male arrogance, to see a post praising white women as much better mothers than Asian women as “hating” on white people.
If white men are disappearing because of their love of Asian women… they are becoming me, the Eurasian man. According to your analysis, I the Eurasian man am the future of white people. And it is indeed an ugly hateful future.
You are absolutely, 100%, emphatically wrong and incorrect. My mixed AFM/WM daughter is incredibly loved by her Chinese, raised in Canada, mother and by me her father. I regard to femininity, Asian some have it hands down over white women far and away.
Something must have happened to you as a child for you to have such a mean spirited attitude towards Asian women. Poor you