It is not easy to have empathy. To walk a mile in another’s shoes. I like to think, that despite being cantankerous, I can have empathy and sympathy for the pain of others, for suffering that is not my own. Although lately I have been exhausted by empathy-fatigue. As it has become clear to me, while I might feel for the problems of others, they seem to lack the ability to feel the least bit of understanding with me. Its one thing to disagree with me or give me advice on how to overcome my obstacles. To say that these Eurasian issues don’t have to define my life.
But for some, it seems that the easiest thing to do, is to close their eyes, and just shout that I’m a dangerous racist. That I’m just a KKK who hates myself because my parents mixed, and once to preserve racial purity. If you’ve read any of my posts, you know thats not what I’m about. I honestly don’t know how anyone could read my blog and come to these caricatures of me. Yes, I do talk a lot about race, and that not all race-mixing is happy and shiny. That yes, you can be a racist White Man and still be married to a colored women. Yes, an Asian woman can work to uphold white supremacy. Maybe these ideas seem, bizarre and strange to you. But WMAF has articulated it in its own words, and I think I’ve done my share in explaining the logic of it.
If you think I’m wrong, don’t just demonize me, caricature me, and twist my words to mean something they don’t. If you disagree, with a proposition of mine, tell me why. Don’t just turn me into the bad news, because I’m the bearer of bad news. If my message is unpleasant, its because the real lived reality is unpleasant. This is a classic case of blaming the victim for being a victim.
Here is a collection of links, related to the problems of Hapas.
I want my critics and skeptics, to read through those links. They are from sites and forums and magazines of different types across the internet. Some written as early as 2001, by people of all different types. You have Hapa sons and daughters, expressing their frustration. Some in ways similar to me, others very different. You have the ways in which WMAF views Asian men, white women and their Eurasian sons. I don’t say that every last WMAF feels this way. OR that even my own parents do. But it is a large enough current, that it has come to define what wmaf is all about. And the manner in which WMAF is taking place, is totally consistent with these ugly views.
Don’t just listen to me. Read what other Hapas say, what wmaf themselves say. Read all that and tell me, I’m being irrational for feeling despair at being the son of WMAF.
I want my critics to google White men and Asian women relationships, and see what they themselves say about Asian men, White women, Eurasian children. And tell me honestly, if thats not going to take a psychological toll on their kids.
My response to this has not been, any radical extremism. For one thing, I just want to use words to tell the truth. To have an honest discussion of how I feel about these issues. I have never once called for any type of extremism. All I want to do is raise awareness about being Eurasian, to an America that covers its ears and shuts its eyes. If this can inspire non-violent militant confrontation between Eurasian children and the parents that emotionally abuse them, this is justice. Its true I have talked about nonexistence, as a means of raising awareness. But nonexistence is a non-violent action that harms no one. As I said in an earlier post, I believe that one has a right to ones own life. I don’t believe that one should act rashly in a moment of despair. But if one has rationally contemplated the circumstances of ones life over the course of years, and decides its not worth living. That is his choice. This is a course of non-violent
demonstration, that does not harm anyone. Perhaps I shouldn’t have brought up these personal issues, as they distract from my general arguments and personalize it too much. They make it easier for my opponents to attack my supposed psychological depression and mental illness, rather than coming to grips with my legitimate grievances. But I feel that people should know, just how painful it is to live a Eurasian life, in a world defined by WMAF. That your own life, becomes something hateful to you, which you wish to dispose of. While it has been the greatest source of controversy since re-starting my blog, I feel I do have a right to share it. To let you know, just what a Eurasian life is.
So stop the demonization and the personal attacks upon me. Stop accusing me of things, I have never said and never even implied. Stop ignoring my genuine grievances, by turning me into a monster I’m not. Stop slandering a strawman.
I guess those who don’t want to hear will just never hear. It is so much easier to hear the rantings of a mad Klansman, than to grapple with the complex racial-sexual dynamics of 2014. Where its not so simple as Black vs White.
Some so-called Asian Feminists use the concept of “intersectionality” to argue that you can’t have the simplistic structure of White Male Patriarchy oppressing colored people. That sometimes Asian men can be the villains, despite being men of color. Well, I’m re-appropriating their concept of intersectionality to show that sometimes its not as simple as colored men ruling over colored women. You can have a WMAF situation. In which the Asian woman vicariously inherits the White Privilege of her White husband. And you have a situation within a family household, of a white husband and asian wife, exhibiting racial domination over their Eurasian children. It is not an oxymoron to suggest that an Asian woman can enforce White Supremacy over her half-Asian children.
Maybe I’m just wasting my time. Maybe I’m always going to be the bad guy here, because I’m talking about race and sex. Because I’m not happy having mixed-race parents. Because I despise the gift of life I’ve been given. It just seems that no matter how calmly and deliberatively I make my case, I’m just always going to be twisted into a ranting, raving, racist lunatic.
All I ask is that you 1st read the writings of WMAF themselves. Then come back here, and tell me its just about me being against
race-mixing. If you can’t come to understand why that is so hurtful and morally destructive to a Eurasian son. Then maybe everything I’ve written has been in vain. Maybe I’ve just been wasting my time. Maybe some experiences just have to be lived, and can never be explained in words.