Reading this blog, you are only seeing me as I am now. Your not seeing my whole life journey. And thats why its easy to form misconceptions about me and my parents and turn me into a caricature. In fact what brought me here is a rich and quintessentially American story. While the Hapa-American experience for me has been one of profound and involuntary, alienation and foreignness from the American experience, a right I once thought I was entitled to by way of my dad’s DNA, it is also something right out of Moby Dick, Huck Finn, Catcher in the Rye, the Great Gatsby. Always longing for the unobtainable Great White Whale on the other side. The hopeless doomed quest. And of course race is itself at the heart of America. Only in America do we really have this sense of “whiteness” outside of ethnicity. And lets face it, however much we love America, we built it the same way Hitler wanted to build his New Order in Europe. Only difference is we killed Indians instead of Jews to make room for living space, and we used Black slaves instead of Slavs. Whatever good may come out of America, that is our Original Sin that haunts this nation of Pilgrims to this day.
So yes the first half of my story, is just the attempt to be American. And in that way I actually understand where the sell-out Asian females are coming from. I showed off my white dad, the same way they show off their white boyfriends. The fact that my DNA was 50% white, seemed proof to me that I was just as American as I was Asian. How could I be considered foreign, when I was born here, had no contact with the Orient, and had a dad who’s ancestors probably went back further than many white people’s? Of course this should not privilege the Hapa position over the pure Asian. While I have the biological factor for what its worth, Wesley Yang’s article showed me that many full Asians have the same feeling of being a white dude in an Asian guy’s body. I got called a Banana by one Asian dude in high school. I remember during my 1st day of college. This Asian guy approached me and said you don’t look full asian. Let me guess its your mom who’s asian, you never see it the other way around.
I guess what made it tragic for me. Was that it in my younger days, I had brown hair and rounder eyes. And so random people would approach and ask what I was. Not looking full Asian was a sort of security. Even now there are some people who are surprised that I’m Asian. On the other hand there have been plenty of full Asians who have assumed I’m just another American Asian. If a full Asian thinks your Asian, then your Asian. And so I tried to out-white whitey and out-America America by being a superpatriot.
I guess what really brought home for me who I was, was seeing It all started with April Wilkner from America’s Next Top Model. Now you might think that April would be the kind of sell out whore I hate. Indeed there is a lot of hate about her on forums, about her being ashamed of her Asian identity. Janice Dickinson called her out to her face about her shame. That probably is how I would look at it now actually. But at the time, it was my Eurasian identity that defined me. And I really could relate to Apri. She would show off her curly haired nerdy white dad and brag he looked like Art Garfunkel. Janice tried to push April to be the Asian one. And April felt she shouldn’t have to be typecast. Like me at the time, she felt that her white dad, made her just as white, just as AMERICAN and unforeign as she was Japanese. And so at the time I didn’t see it as self-hate. I saw it as reality. Me and April are both just as white as we are Asian, so why are we less American? Why do we get told to go back to Asia, when our blood runs to Europe equally? Why the 1-drop rule? Of course there is a measure of egalitarianism to the 1-drop rule, in the sense that here in America we don’t have the rigid racial feudal pyramid of Latin America, where every last drop of precious rare white blood counts. Here its all or nothing.
And so April was a turning point. While initally I tried to embrace my Hapa identity. I realized I had nothing in common with Hapas. That the world was always going to treat me as Asian and thats just what I was. And as much as I hated to admit it, Janice Dickinson was right. And so I became a big Asian nationalist. I took out my anger on the white man, while seeing Asian women as innocent victims. I said my dad was like a white slave owner raping his slaves. It is only fairly recently, when armed with sociobiology and evolutionary psychology, that I realize that women do the sexual selection, and women are to blame. This actually has a personal impact to. I’ve never done detailed interviews about my parent’s past dating history. But as far as I can tell, my dad dated plenty of white and latina girls before mom. And I’m not sure if he even dated ANY Asian girls before her. Mom on the other hand, I know less about, but I have the sneaking suspicion she dated only white men in America. And an abnormally high percentage of her friends and family seem to end up with white men
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Now some commentors here in order to make themselves feel better, tell me that my WM/AF is uniquely bad, and that their one of the “good” ones. I tried to comfort myself about my parents in the same way. After all, they met right here in America, through a mutual white friend. And my dad is less than 5 years older than her. So so much for assuming that my parents are a special case. The fact is, as much as I bash my parents, I have far more respect for their relationship than the majority of 2011 WM/AF couples. If you ask me the trend through the 1990s and 2000s and into the 2010s is for WM/AFs to get more and more disreputable. Only the war brides/rapes of Japan, Korea, Nam compare.
So yeah it may seem like I identify totally as an Asian male. And I often refer to myself simply as an Asian male, cuz thats what society sees me as. But I spent much of my life, desperately trying to be considered full white, and failing that at least trumpeted and advertised my Hapaness. Its possible that all biracial kids living in a racist society are going to have identity problems. But I think the huge influx of WM/AFs, the scarcicty of AM/WFs, and perhaps most importantly the reasons justifying WM/AF, make life incredibly difficult for the Hapa sons of WM/AF.
The problem with asian women is that they are incredibly brainwashed. The white man (and it is just the white man) has marketed their lands and by extension, their race, as the fabled one, to the extent that they are the “default” – anything non white is weird, any culture that isn’t American foreign, and any language that isn’t English gibberish.
Asian women, unlike other non white women, are the only type in the world who are prepared to indulge in self racial genocide – to eliminate their genetic code, stemming since the dawn of humanity – to become completely white. The irony is that, along with her fellow asian women, the more they do this, the more “asian” they make their new found dream land of whites.
I understand the OP has some personal issues. I feel very bad for him for having a mother like that. But I think people should not generalize. To imply that Asian women are all whitewashed and desperately trying to become white irritates me a bit.
I am an Asian girl and I don’t see AF/WM a huge problem. There are simply 15 times more White guys than Asian guys in the US. If love is truly color blind, any girl is 15 times more likely to date a White dude than an Asian dude. An Asian girl is a girl. See the syllogism? The same applies to any other group of non-Asian guys. Geesh Asian guys are so rare and precious. Smartie pants should really do the math before blaming the Asian girls for hating their own race.
In fact, I have seen far more AF/AM than AF/WM couples. (Could it be that I lived in the Midwest?) I have always found a decent portion of Asian guys attractive, and the most attractive Asian guys I met always had a girlfriend (mostly Asian). Personally, I have dated only non-Asian guys so far, but it doesn’t mean I don’t like Asian guys – It’s simply that few of them have asked me out so far. (I’m tall, well-balanced, and fairly pretty. I think the answer to the puzzle doesn’t lie with me.)
I honestly think the worst racial problems I’ve encountered so far are from mean White girls in school and old white women in malls :).
@ Gill Galaxia
Love is not blind AT ALL, you fucking bitch.
You are a total idiot because if love is blind, then Asian men should be 15 times more likely to date and marry white women or non-Asian women.
However, because of Hollywood hating Asian American men and Asian men, society disliking Asian/Asian AMerican men -> emasculating or villainizing us, Asian women being complete whores/sluts and self-haters, and white women also disliking Asian guys,…… Asian men have a MUCH more difficult time getting a date or relationship.
Even above-average looking guys like me (face-wise -> 6 or 7/10) and who are muscular (deadlift 420 lbs, bench two 95 lb dumbbells, etc.), talented (14 years in martial art/MMAs, have KOed some whiteboys, fight at a decently high level -> been to Kyokushin national tournaments before and 12 years of piano), and intelligent (went to Duke University) have trouble finding girls because of just how much society and our “own” women are against us.
Yes, I hate most Asian women because you are all sluts, whores, and sellouts and butt fucking ugly. You can go suck as many white dicks as you want for all I care.
I’m only mad that American society doesn’t see the value of Asian males and therefore, we have trouble dating outside of our race even though objectively, we have better qualities than many other men (I’m talking about the strong, non-nerdy guys like me… I also hate Asian guys who are pussies and afraid to standup for themselves and standup to other races, especially white guys who like to try and bully us but are only man enough to fight us in groups).
We already have a very limited dating pool because most Asian girls are butt fucking ugly and to find a girl as good looking as me is already hard, and THEN America DEVALUES me to the point that I am “below average” JUST BECAUSE I’M ASIAN and not very tall. What a load of bullshit. I’m only 5’6″ but I have beat the shit out of tall, big/decently muscular white guys because #1 they don’t know that martial arts and fighting is not all about brute force and #2 I have just as much strength as them, and I am more flexible/fast #3 in a gunfight they are also fucking dead because they are a bigger target.
And then, on the other side, white girls also don’t like us even though we try to treat them as nice as possible. So we Asian men really don’t have any women in the world who want us (other than substandard, fat fucking whales and lazy girls or the butt ugly ones because we have been ARTIFICIALLY DEVALUED TO THAT LEVEL).
Fuck all yall Asian whores and FUCK YOU AMERIKKKAN SOCIETY.
@ Gill Galaxia
Also, Asian girls outmarry at 3 times the rate that Asian guys do. Almost 50% of Asian girls outmarry while only something like 13 or some shit % of Asian guys outmarry.
That’s because Asian girls are self-hating racists against Asian men and all other women are plain racist against Asian men.
I truly hope that you fucking bitches have terrible lives in the future. Enjoy being a subservient slave sucking the white dick.
I also hope that China becomes powerful and shakes Japan to its senses to stop being the white man’s bitch and eventually Asian nations are able to dominate and take back what is rightfully ours. Asian nations need to stop being complete fucking idiot white man’s pussies and unite and form a pan-Asian Empire so that we can never again be bullied by the west.
Before European Imperialism, Asian Empires were relatively peaceful, though there was much idiotic hatred between Japan/Korea/China/SE Asia. Only the Mongolians went as far as to try to conquer Europe. But nothing on the scale or brutality of European Imperialism ever happened where they basically commit genocide on non-whites or try to use divide and conquer strategies. If you ask me, white people, specifically white men are MOST barbaric. Ok not white men. Just fucking Anglos Saxon fuckers. I sympathize with the Irish and Celts and Italians and Eastern Europeans often fucked over by certain other white ethnicities.
I used to want to try and be American/white because, well I was born in America and this is my “homeland.” I would even serve in the military/was going to but was not accepted because of climate/medical issues. I was going to serve in the US armed forces even though they are all fucking racists and most Americans are fucking racists. So I have honor. Even though I hate most of the fuckers in this country, I’m still willing to die for the idea of freedom and democracy whatever the fuck that means anymore.
Oh yeah, once again, fuck you Asian slut fugly girls, and fuck you malicious bully-ass motherfucking white male pieces of shit with no fucking honor.
And fuck all you fucking white/latina/black/mixed race girls who don’t give Asian guys a chance because you are brainwashed by media to only like certain white or black guys even though they are way out of your league objectively, fucking bitches. Probably look like shit without makeup as well. I bet I am better looking than probably 70% of you girls who only look good because you wear makeup to cover up flaws or use colors to shape your face in a deceptive manner. Fucking deceptive dishonourable bitches. All of you.
Heres a tip, why don’t you ask those fucking girls instead of moping around?! No?! Ok let’s move on.
How about we East Asians destroy you westerners and give you a taste of your own medicine.
Have you considered your personality might be the problem?
@Gill Galaxia
I think the answer to the puzzle does lie with you. You’re ‘well-balanced, and fairly pretty’ according to who? The loser non-Asian guys you’ve dated? Guys like that will call any woman who pays them attention beautiful. So unless you look like Nakama Yukie, who only 0.001% of the Asian female population looks like, don’t bother talking about how you look.
I can already picture your immense jaw, flat nose and tiny eyes.
And forget about telling me that guys of all races go for Asian girls. It’s ‘loser guys of all races go for Asian girls’ that’s more accurate. Just look up Brad Pitt’s dating history. Not a single Asian.
So have fun with your Mark Zuckerbergs.
Are you kidding me. There are billions of Asians. It is the white race that will be extinct one day.
Your total identification as an Asian male is the problem. Although you say you’re past it, your writing in many ways still reflects a militant Asian nationalism that is opposed to your very existence. But why should you fight for and claim allegiance to this Asian American community that seeks self-advancement above group advancement? You’re not in the position of full-blooded Asian males. Through their families, they have many comforts you don’t have, such as strong male role models, non-European language and culture competency, and an escape hatchet to Asia. Indeed, you’ve said before that Asian males look down on you; so why are you still identifying as one of them and futilely begging for their acceptance as you did the whites?
As a Hapa male, you have a certain leverage that full-blooded Asians do not. By asserting that you are not fully Asian, you can credibly distance yourself from the baggage of Asian male stereotypes in the eyes of many. This doesn’t mean asking to be accepted as white: it means asking to be accepted as an individual, an individual with a background (Eurasian) for which there aren’t yet widespread negative stereotypes. There is the one-drop rule, but that rule is increasingly outmoded, especially among young people. Seek out biracial and multiracial support groups: although not everyone there might be your exact mix, they can help you forge a healthy identity that doesn’t force you to deny parts of your heritage, to all of which you are entitled.
Certainly more ambiguous looking Hapas can try to carve out a unique niche for themselves, below whites but above full-blood Asians. As a boy I had brown hair and rounder eyes, so it was easier then. And occasionally I will still be mistaken for Hispanic, or occasionally people will be supirsed that I’m Asian. But what did it for me was passing the racial turing test. When we went into Asian hair salons with my mom, the stylists assumed I was just an American born Asian. Once even Asians can assume I’m full Asian, then I’m full-Asian. As a kid I found it racist and kinda resented being assumed full-Asian. But now I won’t even call it societal racism. Its just my physical features. I look Asian, so people assume I’m Asian, and its not even the 1-drop rule. Its just looks.
IDK a Hapa guy who tries to sharply differentiate himself from full Asians, reminds me of the WM/AF girls I hate so much, desperately begging to take the crumbs of whitness. I wont make it some kind of moral stand though. Maybe I would do it in my self-interest if I had the opportunity. But I just look Asian. And sure I could always advertise myself as Hapa, but why bother? I’m just advertising WM/AF when I do that.
Anyway as I wrote in my last post, I’ve moved beyond claiming full Asianess. I’ve instead decided to use my ambiguous Hapa looks to my advantage by claiming to have a macho Asian dad and sexy white mom.
Well would an Asian guy want people around him to have WM/AF on their minds or AM/WF? Its in his self-interest to have AM/WF. As a Hapa male who looks basically Asian, but with just enough hint of mix to spark curiosity. I have the unique opportunity to choose to put WM/AF or AM/WF in their mind at my will. And all my life I’ve been shooting myself in the foot by putting WM/AF in their mind. One Asian guy once approached me and said you don’t look full Asian, let me guess your dad is white, you never see it the other way around. How easily I could have just said. No. Actually my mom is sexy white. Some honesty. Shooting myself in the foot is what it was. Every white person I dealt with was reminded by me of the superiority of white males. I was a walking banner for that. And all by my own words. How easily I could have changed all that. Now lately I’ve taken pride in denying my hapaness and just taking pride in being full Asian. But this Am/wf asserts my hapaness and is a step beyond that. Does it guarentee my masculinity in and of itself? No. Put its a good 1st step. Or at least neutral, as opposed to self-neutering myself.
See that is your problem Hapa, and of many other mixed children (usually with the white father and submissive asian mother, allowing their character to be ashamed of their asian heritage whilst trying to hang on to their whiteness). As a 100% asian who is proud of their heritage, despite living in a white majority country that does everything to ridicule asians (thus the need for asian women to go begging to the white man – they can’t face up to racism, so they “eliminate” it by pairing up with any white and having mixed kids, so her children won’t have to “face racism”. It is because of this that the asian races are dying out, slowly eliminated by the white man’s denigration of asians.
I ask you – why should you distance yourself from the “baggage” of asians? You said yourself, you have a chance to be individual, you can be an individual of however you please. It is OTHERS who make stereotypes. But you are the one who actually decides who you want to be. The way you talk is music to the white man’s ears – that a mongrel can take great pride in being white, but utter disgust of being asian. You’re a coward to move away from your genetic heritage, especially considering the history we have gone through, the countless lives lost in white invasions in asian countries of the past.
Hi! I just came across your blog today…very fiery, I like it! I’m WM/AF also, but I’m a girl. I find a lot of what you have to say to be surprising, and I attribute that to location. I’m not sure where you live, but I live in Los Angeles, and mixed people like us are treated so unbelievably well. Girls here (of all races) find WM/AF guys attractive–even more so than full whites. And as for WM/AF girls like me…well, lets just say I always have phone numbers to call. Maybe it’s also because of age. From your posts, I’ve collected that you are of high school age? I’m in college, so things will change for you later on. Seriously, you seem like a cool guy. Clearly intelligent. You’ve got chutzpah. Don’t deprecate yourself by calling yourself a “monster” or a “freak”. If you focus less on your genetic makeup and more on your personality quirks, it’s a much better life. Your race doesn’t have to shape your character if you don’t let it. You can email me if you want to talk.
Well the different Hapa male and female experiences are if anything even vaster than the Asian male and female experiences. Eurasian girls are considered exotic trophies for white men.
What surprised me in fact was that many of the Eurasian girls who posted here, faced the same issues i as a WM/AF male face. So there are plenty of Eurasian girls who also resent WM/AF even though they don’t have the same gender/racial interest in it. So I assume that Eurasian girls have it pretty good, but the comments here have shocked me in showing thats not really the case. And WM/AF can be as harmful to Hapa girls as to guys.
So I have no doubt that Eurasian girls have an easy time with guys. For that matter so do Asian girls. I’m generally not one to claim that girls have it easier than guys. For most races that is clearly not true. But for Asians and especially for Eurasians, I think it is overwhelmingly undeniably true.
Its true I would like to think of myself as a retarded freak as an individual and not as an Asian. BUT I can’t just let this WM/AF stuff eat away at me. I need to take i head on before I can move on.
erm Nancy, asian women “always have phone numbers to call” because they are seen as easy, especially for white men… after all, they will disproportionately put out for their idolised white men, compared to others.
I find it incredible that asian women still cannot realise that they are seen by the white man as sluts, easy fucks inbetween serious white women to have long term, meaningful relationships with. Asian women tend not to demand anything but a smidgen of attention from the white man in return for giving away themselves.
You are missing the point, the blogger doesn’t look hapa. He looks 100% asian.
There’s one thing you can do for us full-blooded Asian guys. If you are well endowed, please don’t let on to the girl that you are only half-Asian. Maybe, that would help counteract the image of AM with small penis. An image, true or not, spread by AF wanting to excite their WM. But, if you’re not well endowed, then please stick to the truth about having a white father. Lying about having as Asian dad, but then revealing your small penis would undermine what you’re trying to accomplish. Thanks.
Or how about, as an asian, YOU do your duty and actually prove to women of all races (maybe not asian women though, they are all but lost causes) that you don’t have a small dick? If someone calls you up on it, then challenge them. I don’t think any man, even porn stars, are prepared to get their dick out in a nightclub full of people.
Remember that blacks had the stereotypes of being the losers of society not too long ago, but they persevered with having white woman relationships,all the while having negative stereotypes created by white men foisted upon them and the public….but eventually the white media and general society succumbed to it, and now you see black man-white woman relationships everywhere – real life, media – it is widely accepted by all but extremists.
Asian men are nowhere near this stage because they are not asserting their “I deserve this” mindset. They themselves believe they are not worthy of white women, hell of even their own women, and that every stereotype (like with black men) they come across puts them back even further. Asian men are allowing the white man to win. Maybe if you, and other asian men, were a bit more assertive, and didn’t rely on others to do your dirty work or have sympathy for you, you would actually being to turn the tide of asian male stereotyping, like I have in my local area. Every little helps.
Well, I don’t think I would take out my penis for other men to see for any reason. But, I am of average size so I think I might be helping out the next Asian guy who follows in my footsteps. Also, I was being sarcastic in my previous comments. In fact, there is truth in the stereotype in question. I’ve traveled quite a bit in Asia, and the girls I’ve encountered there considered me quite large despite my own opinion that I am only average. I’ve watched my share of western porn so I am pretty sure of my opinion.
Blacks are still stereotyped as society’s biggest losers. But, what’s changed is that white people have figured out that if they disrespect blacks, they will get their ass kicked. And black people back it up, they stand up for each other. They hear the “N” word, and they are ready to throw down. Black men with hot blondes are a big “fuck you” to the white man.
On this point, Asian men are way behind blacks. WM with AF walk with impunity in Asian neighborhoods. And, you’re right, it is partly our own fault. We are small and we are weak. But, we shouldn’t have to rise up like the Planet of the Apes to get empathy from our own women. To get hot blondes, yes, but not our own.
I am a Hapa female from a WM/AF relationship.
I have to say I emphasis with your blog. Mostly with your views about society. However, I really love my parents and believe their marriage is an exception to the typical WM/AF relationship.
I cringe to say this because it stereotypes my parents.. but my dad is in the military. However, unlike most military WM who marry AF, he didn’t meet her in her home country. They met in the United States and my mother already had lived here for several years and had her green card.
However, my mother is a very strange AF. She is more independent and is a feminist. I asked her why she moved to the United States and she said that she didn’t want to be a slave to her family or to any man. (Which she said was expected of her in her home country)
My dad had never dated a AF before my mom. He didn’t even seek her out (they got left talking to each other because both their BF were dating each other) But they started dating and than got married. Oh, and my dad is 5 years younger than my mother.
And my parents are still married (after 30 years) an are very happy. Both of my parents are super loving and have given me a wonderful life.
But, I do see your point of view. I have felt the same as you. Where I see myself as half white and half Asian. But the world see me as full-Asian.
Also, as a interesting note as being seen as full Asian.. I have met many WM who see me as a trophy or have Asian-fever. This makes me feel insecure in our relationships because I don’t know if they really like me or not.
I also have had many WM that I have liked tell me they don’t like Asian girls. Actually, one of these guys ended up dating my sister. Who, unlike me looks more white except for a little in her eyes.
But I also have dated WM, who have dated all races and I have felt.. really love me for who I was.
I have dated many races of guy but I ended up marrying a AM. I am actually have many difficulties with his family because they are very traditional Asian versus my American family. It actually makes me understand why AM/WF doesn’t happen very often.. it is because of all the BS with dating a AM.
My mother in law expects me to be this housewife and can’t believe I work instead of staying home with my daughter. She is also very disappointed with the fact that we had a daughter and blamed me. She told me to take special medicine to ensure our next child is a boy. (And I don’t even know if I want another child) Also, because my husband is the eldest son.. she is angry that he supports me/our child in the midwest instead of living in California to also help support her/his sister.
While.. when I dated WM, their moms were always so nice and loving comparable to my own Mother. I love my husband, but I wish his family was more American.
It is interesting that every WM/AF claims to be the exception to the rule, and yet the sum total of all these exceptions is the rule. So that is why, as much as I’d like to believe my own parents are an exception, and perhaps there is some evidence they are, I’m not above attacking them personally. And so while your story echoed my own in many ways, I do wonder how unique any WM/AF really is, when they both claim it. I believe that the current generation of WM/AFs is even worse than my parent’s generation even though they keep trumpeting that their progressive, multicultural, and post-racial color blind. The WM/AF to AM/WF ratio has grown from 1.5:1 in 1980 to 2:1 currently. So I give 0 leeway to the current generation of WM/Afs. As for my own mom. She made her free choice to leave Asia and marry a white man, and maybe she furthered her personal self-interest by doing so. But she gravely harmed my self-interest as an Asian man. I would have lived a better life just being a regular Asian guy in Asia. So if my mom acted to fufill her personal happiness, I deeply resent her for gravely injuring my personal happiness.
As for the mean Asian mom thing, I count that as a strike against Asian females. On this blog I’ve repeatedly posted on the vast differences on how just the white and asian female commentors have been on the prospect of future sons. The Asian women strike me as cruel sociopaths, while the white woman actually love their sons. And there was the other Hapa girl who wrote about envying her friends with white moms in Southeast Asian mind you. I always assumed that the Eurasian female experience was fundamentally different, so it is good to hear from hapa girls.
The claim that WM/AF represents some kind of yellow feminism is often heard. Despite white men ironically praising Asian women as the perfect anti-feminist fantasy. Many Asian males who oppose WM/AF put it in anti-feminist terms. Not me though. I see WM/AF as the anti-feminist attack on women that it is. So GENUINE feminism that white, black, brown, women possess is deeply opposed to the hegemony of white male domination. That is why white males despise feminism. Its funny that many of the attacks on Asian men as misogynist, focus not on Asian men but on their female Asian moms. I don’t think Asian, especially Asian-AMERICAN men are any more misogynist than any other men. And often the exact opposite is used to justify WM/AF. That Asian men are shy, quiet, polite, beta, hardworking “nice guys” while white males are exciting asshole jerk bad boy alpha males. So it is also said that Asian men are too NICE too women, and women being masochists find that boring. The Asian man is the perfect feminist compared to white pick up artists, jocks and frat boys, Black pimps, Indian widow burning, Latino machismo, and Muslim sharia. Yet none of those groups have the same problem. And when white women go for black men, it is supposedly because black men are more macho and alpha and actually treat white women worse. I would say one of the causes of WM/AF is that the Asian community is TOO open-minded and forgiving compared to other peoples about interracial relationships. And only for the females mind you. Idiot Asian moms actually don’t like Asian men going with white girls.
The African-American community had the same sort of issues during the Civil Rights movement. Black men treated their women far worse than Asian men ever have. But Black women stood by them, and the last thing any of them would dream of doing was flying into their ex-slavemaster’s arms. (With all the talk today of black women being the undesired female version of Asian men IE ultra-masculine. It is interesting to note that during the 20th century a lot of Black men hated whites for their “jungle fever”. That white men were unsatisfied with their cold, stiff white wives and needed something only black women could give. This lead to the whole pimp movement and its strange connection to Black nationalism) But some of the progressive civil rights activists did try to build a feminist movement WITHIN the Black community. And that was a good thing. It seems like most of the patriarchy in your marriage is coming not from your husband but from your Asian mother in law. And certainly both you and your husband are right to defy her will, where you see fit.
Maybe reality is the way all these commenters have described it, and not what you’ve been reading on Stormfront and “Game” blogs.
See Occam’s Razor.
Quite lolsome.
The average person in America has far greater wealth and access to education and career resources than the average person in Asia, so you could probably leave today for your mom’s country of origin and live like a king.
More generally, as all these “identity” issues don’t manifest themselves as harmful discrimination, they seem so trite.
Billions of people lack food security, access to clean water, and political stability, and you’re worked up because you’re not getting as many girls as you think you should?
May I recommend Reddit’s Firstworldproblems section: http://www.reddit.com/r/firstworldproblems/
Well my only frame of reference is the life most of my mother’s relatives live in Asia. I think that is the only fair measuring stick, since it wouldn’t be right to simply refer to all Asians as a homologous blob, and then say any Asian who is not stuck in the rice paddies has it good and should just shut up. So what is the life of my relatives? Their standard of living for the most part is less than mine. They would generally be considered lower middle class by USA standards. And SOME of my mom’s relatives actually live much more successful lives in Asia than we have in the USA. So on pure economics its a mixed bag. I might be doing slightly better or slightly worse. I think the bigger difference is in culture. And there Asia wins hands down. My parents think I’m a total omega male loser anyway. So at least in Asia so-called “beta” characteristics are more tolerated. I would have been Tiger mommed as a child into the Confucian educational system. Lived the life as a bee in the hive. None of the excitement or drama of the west. Just a man in a gray fannel suit. There would have been less of the sexually aggressive competition and I could have just stayed meek. What was my fate in the USA? Well I was Tiger Mommed till Middle school, when I just stood up to mom and said “hell no, all I care about now is being a macho freak and getting attention”. And from then on I TRIED to reject anything that stunk of Confucian beta values and live up to the stereotypes of western masculinity. It seems from my parent’s judgement that I failed miserably at that goal. But I’d rather fail at that goal, than succeed as a Tiger Cub. But thats America. In Asia, I would have been content as Tiger Cub and just lived a boring uneventful life. Without the dreams or the tragedy. Since none of my dreams came true, and theres been plenty of exciting tragedy. Boringness and bureaucracy sounds much more preferable. The white woman symbolzies it all. In Asia, I never would have known the beauty of a white woman. But a lot of good it did me in America anyway. Instead its just white guys- like dad- getting asian girls. So I would have been better off only knowing only boring Asian girls, than being teased by wonderful white girls.
If my mom had married an Asian-American? Well that would have been a different story. Certainly if statistics are to be believed, I could very well be doing better economically. I would most likely be less masculine by the standards of the west, just because my hapaness brings me closer to whiteness. But I have known plenty of Asian dudes more muscular, built. and yes even taller than me. So its a mixed bag. I’m below the best Asians. But if we say I’m a below-average Hapa, in looks I’m probably above the average Asian man. By western standards of beauty. But I think having an Asian dad would have made a HUGE difference psychologically. Having a model of masculinity. All boys try to grow up to be their dads. Including me, the tragedy was that race prevented it. Theres this blog written by an Asian Hapa mom, that actually pisses me off less than most WM/AFs. Altho she does buy into the myth that we’re already living in the multicultural utopia. Anyway there was a revealing passage, where in response to the Wesley Yang article she wrote: “My husband is white, so he can’t exactly model how to be an Asian man, and my boys are only part-Asian, anyway. I wonder how their experiences as Hapas will differ from their 100% Asian peers. I hope their lives will be easier, yet I feel guilty for even admitting this.”
I think that sentence was more revealing than she realized. She was just pointing to the physical fact that her husband was white and couldn’t model as an Asian man. But I think it goes way deeper. Into the heart of what it means to be a Hapa WM/AF. I don’t want to be too harsh on my father. And call him absentee. He wasn’t. But in some sense he was. ITs the way of the world. As an Asian man, I think I needed an Asian man as a father. An example of an Asian man with a woman. As a man like me making his way in this world. And I never got that. No one ever taught me how to be an ASIAN MAN. My dad couldn’t give that to me. And so I never learned that a man could succeed in this world. My dad was in fact proof of the exact opposite. He was proof of the failure of Asian men like me. Sure my parents showed me plenty of love, and put up with my tantrums. But its hard for me to really feel grateful for anything biologically-driven, for anything that benefits the selfish gene. Family love just doesn’t turn my heart on. Its just biology. Just selfish genes. Biology is amoral, from my perspective mostly immoral.
And yeah if my dad had just married a white girl. Even a fat ugly one. I wouldn’t have minded life even as a loser white guy. Hell if worse came to worse I could always just settle for the hottest asian girl. Wink, wink. Or if he had taken the social hit and “married down” with a Hispanic or Black woman, he would have been repaid in the next generation when I emerged as ultra-alpha and macho, but a tad safer for the white girls than a pure-bred colored.
So my parent’s love for me aside (and thats just selfish biology anyway right?) they really screwed me with their marriage. Objectively. I’m sure they didn’t do a rational analysis or anything (biological drives never do), but if we look at the alternatives my mom marrying either an Asian or Asian-American, my dad marrying a white, black or brown. Well it looks likes it comes out better for their future sons.
If we compare East Asian to South Asian men. South Asian women are usually pretty clannish about sticking to their men. Despite the fact that the media seems pretty intent on trying to start a white male/ indian woman trend. It seems like South Asian men don’t have to deal with anything approaching WM/AF, although they do have the same trouble getting white females. Still even if you have 0% attraction to Asian women, like myself. Its still pretty off-putting to white woman, when they see that Asian men can’t even get their own woman. When white woman see tons of WM/AFs, they wonder why should I (the highest caste of woman) settle for the lowest caste of man. So whatever nice things I can say about mom, and however much I might try to excuse her unique WM/AF, all I can say is you really fucked things up for me as an Asian man.
IDK it just seems really sleezy to me what Asian woman are doing. they see Asian-American men are in a tough rut in the USA, and they try to jump ship, and improve their own station at the expense of their brothers. It really seems like pathological sociopathic selfishness. And why do they do it? For the money? Well, that makes them literally prostitutes. Sucky sucky two dollas. I could see why Asian woman would do it for the money. But Asian-American women actually choose white men who make less. So is it for the sexy white genes? Well, I’m the result of those sexy white genes. Face it yellow ladies, the genes you carry in your ovaries are made of some pretty strong stuff. No crime goes unpunished. You might escape the wrath of your fathers, brothers, and friends. But you ain’t gonna write off your hapa sons as easily.
I am happy with my husband because he is American. Even though his ethnic race is 100% Asian, he doesn’t act like a FOB.
I have dated FOBs and I couldn’t deal with the sexiest treatment or the fact they had expectations of me that I didn’t want to meet. (stay at home wife)
However, I personally have not seen Asian American males have issues of dating women of any ethnic race. All the Asian American males I know are very popular with women regardless of their color.
I also know many white women who seeks out Asians.
I think the real reason that so many Asian women are marrying out compare to Asian males is because of cultural reasons.
Mainly, Asian males hold their last names and are more valued than Asian females.
Asian males are expected to date and marry an Asian woman. Many of them would be badly scolded/shunned by their families if they dated outside their race. This is because they are consider valuable.
While Asian women are not and are seen as “extra baggage”. This is because they expect Asian males to take care of the family and to gain employment. Because of this, Asian mothers and fathers values sons in comparison to daughters.
Because they value their sons, they want the best for them. Which is why they send them to college, treat them well and expect them to marry an Asian woman and have Asian grandchildren.
Daughters on the other hand are considered another mouth to feed until they are married off. That is why they have no problem with White men taking the extra mouth of their hands.
I think this is the real reason so many Asian women marry out. But this kind of thinking leaves a lot of Asian males without mates.
It is like China birthrates. Because families favor males so much.. males outnumbered females. So many males started to marry other out (with other Asian races) or to farmers.
So I don’t think it is fair to blame White Males, when I think it is really the sexist attitudes of Asian cultures that is to blame.
Well I can respect how an Asian-American woman might prefer an Asian-American man over FOB Asians. They both have shared the unique Asian-American experience together, and are choosing to face their future challenges together as a team. I have 0 respect for WM/AFs of any sort.
But on the topic of Asian patriarchy, I would refer you back to my original reply. What about white pick up artists, jocks and frat boys, Black pimps, Indian widow burning, Latino machismo, and Muslim sharia? Blacks and Muslims probably have the worst reputation in the West about misogyny, and yet Black men in America and Muslim men in Europe and Australia get so many blond women that they form the entire basis for the white supremacist movement. The entire modern American and European rightwing political movement is based on that fear in fact. And Latino men with their aggressively machismo culture also are perceived as good catches. So those minorities are actually “stealing” white women. South Asian culture is at least as sexist as East Asian culture. While they are not as good at getting white woman as Muslims, Latinos and Blacks, at the very least they are not losing any women to white men. Despite their traditions of widow burning and arranged marriages and more recently sex-selective abortions. If theres anything holding Asian men back it is the perception the are too nice, quiet, smart, nerdy, and gentlemanly. And if you ask me Asian men are waaay to gentlemanly about WM/Af like NO OTHER RACE IS. Am I saying Asian-American men should be more racist? I’m just sick of us being expected to be the only race who is not racist. Why do we have to be the ones to take one for the team all the time? When it comes to interracial dating no one is more race conscious and race loyal than white woman. So since whites are so modern, enlightened and race blind, all I ask is that Asian women be as race “blind” and race loyal as white women are. 90% of white women won’t consider other races ESPECIALLY Asian men.
Also I think there is a misconception about Asia that it is still in the middle ages. They pretend the Asian 20th century never happened. The fact is much of Asia has broken with the Confucian feudal past. China is often used as the worst example of Confucian patriarchy. Especially with the 1-child policy and sex-selective abortions. But in fact under Maoist China, the People’s Republic has one of the most radically feminist regimes in the world that brutally obliterated traditional sex roles. The Cultural Revolution’s gender ideology could have been written by Catherine Mackinnon and Andrea Dworkin, in fact many conservatives call them “Maoists”. While Deng’s market reforms have reversed some of that, at worst they have only brought the status of women more in line with the rest of the capitalist west. A white woman who was friends with some Chinese FOBs wrote a magazine article about how she expected the FOBs to be shocked about all the freedom and equality white women in the west had. Instead she was shocked by how many housewives their were in America, when the housewife is an endangered rare species in China. While Taiwan, Japan and Korea never experienced a radical feminist period like the PRC, capitalist modernization has basically brought them in line with the 1st world West. So while I might concede that the status of women in East Asia is somewhat lower than the best places in the West, it is vastly ahead of the rest of the 3rd world, and I would even dare say it is ahead of many places in the West as well. So I think its a false dichotomy to compare the best of modern Sweden to the worst of medieval Asia. Women in modernized urban Asia don’t have it worse than Mediterranean Europe or the American South.
Even though I agree with you on many points about society/Asian culture and Americanization, I still can’t justify your anger towards WM/AF.
After thinking about the reason why, I think it is because I believe the American experience is mating with whites males/white females/any ethnic race. I guess you could live like the Amish and seclude your culture and only mate within your ethnic race but I think it is closed minded.
I agree that their is many issues that Asian males face that Asian females do not.. I also agree that Asian males have issues with their masculinity and it doesn’t help that other ethnic males make it clear about this (not just the small penis jokes.. but how Asian males are “traps” because they look like women)
But I don’t think the Asian males are doomed to be forever alone. I think if they are open minded, they can easily “stick it to the white men” and marry their white women or marry any other race.
But I don’t think many Asian males are that interested. I know many Asian males that will date white women but would never marry one because it isn’t a woman he can take home.
And even though you make the point the Asian Women should support their Asian Men by marrying them.. I feel this is sexist. The reason being is that Asian Men think they deserve Asian Women. So in the end.. both the WM and AM see the AF as trophies. This is the exact thinking that bothers me.
I have heard many Asian males complain about WM/AF but I always kept quiet, mostly because I emphasis with their frustrations. But the more I think about, I don’t know why any Asian woman would put up with this kind of argument.
It is a sexist argument. It is complaining that AF should realized the horrors of their ways and that they hate AM and glorified the WM. When in reality, relationships are more complex than ethnic background.
I am not going to be one of those people who believe “love is blind” because I don’t believe that. I believe people do base each others on appearance. ( I have to say my AM husband is quiet good looking.)
I believe you are probably correct that Asian women are highly sought after. But I don’t think it is wrong for AF to mate with other races. I believe woman have the right to pick whoever they want to marry. In the end, all females are going to mate with the best possible mate that is able to provide for them or give the best genes to their offspring.
The best mate is going to be either successful or masculine. AM that are successful are seen as more masculine. They won’t have any problems with possible AF to mate with. The only ones with problems are the beta AM.
But this is true with any beta males in society. How about all the beta WM that complain about women? Every high school movie about the geek not getting the cheerleader is a perfect example of your feeling. But instead of using your ethnic race to blame the cheerleader about not loving the geek/ and hating the Jock (which is understandable because he beats you everyday).. you should instead be like the geeks in those movies and become the kind of man who gets the girl. Successful.
Instead of hating your parents and thinking you are better off in an Asian country where your odds of getting the “trophy” is higher, I think you should better yourself for the AF.
Because if you are a highly successful guy with ambition, you are not going to have any problems finding a AF to marry.
On the beta thing. I guess I’d like to turn the individuality thing against you. If I was told I was a geek or a nerd as an individual. Like white betas are. I could live with that. What goes much deeper is being told I’m a beta because of the race I belong to. Its a whole new level of suck, to be told you belong to a beta race. Also its revealing that you put it in terms of the white man’s alpha-beta dichotomy in which all traits of dominance are assigned to alpha and all traits of niceness “slave morality” and weakness are assigned to beta males. So you are saying it is domination that is attractive to women, and white men hold power and domination. And it is sexist to stop Asian women from abandoning weak beta nice Asian men for strong powerful dominating cruel white men. I don’t think there is anything more sexist than in viewing female psychology through that lens.
Also lets say that Asian men have no right to judge WM/AF. Do Hapa men have the right? Asian women are trying to get the best genes for their offspring eh? Well I’m the genes she got. And now I have to live as son of WM/AF. I guess thats a big angle for this blog. Fine. Its sexist for Asian dads, brothers, uncles, strangers to complain about WM/AF. But what about Hapa sons? Is it sexist for us to complain about our own moms? Can I say to my mom, because of WM/AF, I as an Asian-looking man am valued less in this society. Thanks mom.
I guess with the whole trophy thing. I’ve repeatedly said I have no problem with race-mixing in the abstract. The problem is when every single race of women favors their own race EXCEPT Asian women, and Asian men are rated as least desirable by all other races of women. Whatever the morality of it, as a matter of fact, Asian women are destroying Asian men. Except they aren’t. Since 50% of their offspring are males. The next generation of Asian men becomes- me. And we’re put in a real pickle. As a Hapa man what do you want me to say? All women have the freedom to date outside their race. But Asian women make by far the widest use of that right. And it totally emasculates me as a Hapa male. So what the hell am I supposed to feel about it? Its what created me. I exist because of it. So I think I have a VERY personal stake in it. If its not my business, I have no business in the world.
And is it sexist? To say to Asian-American women, look we as an Asian-American community have suffered intense racism from the white man both at home and abroad. And it is not over. The lack of AM/WF is proof that he doesn’t really accept us as Americans. your forefathers were brutally lynched and forbidden to date white women. Is your personal happiness really everything? Would you forget all that, simply to advance your personal interest? Would you let yourself be used as a conquest of the white man? Was it sexist to ask black slave women to resist their masters, or French women not to slut it up for Nazi invaders? It was in their self-interest too. And if as you yourself put it, the ultimate goal of relationships are genes and offspring. Then what about your genes that must endure the misery of hapa male existence? And if it is racist and sexist. All I ask is why do we Asian males have to be the only race to take one for the team, statistics show that we’re the only race who is not sexist and racist. And look how dearly we have paid for it. If Asian women are just “open-minded” they are the only race of women to be open. And look how cruelly they have hurt Asian and Hapa men by being the only open race. Yet again, interacial mixing is not bad in principle. The problem is when Asian women are the ONLY ones doing it. And there is no easy answer for that. But as a WM/AF hapa I have to live without answers.
If the ultimate point of love is children then WM/AF is breeding a ton of hate. A lot of WM/AF Hapa males feel the same way I do. And what has surprised me is that it seems a good few WM/AF hapa girls do as well. The children are the ones who have to live with the consequences of romance. Once you bring kids into the occasion you ARE hurting someone- deeply. I guess I have to ask, what is the point of WM/AF? If the ultimate goal is kids. Whats the point of having kids who will hate you and all WM/AF represents to the very fiber of their being? And I’m far from unique on this point. So if its not about the race, let it at least be about the kids. I think any Asian woman with a conscience, who knows history, who knows America, who knows the current state of WM/AF, would if she had a heart sacrifice WM/AF for the love of her future children.
Just a personal anecdote from earlier today. I was walking and saw behind me this dorky looking white guy with a young attractive bruntette with sun glasses. Not seeing her slanty eyes, I was praying it wouldn’t be yet another WM/AF to ruin my day. But I snuck a look, and sure enough it was an attractive young Asian girl with another curly haired loser looking white guy. But you know what cheered me up? Theres this white friend I meet up with at this place my mom also goes. And theres a good chance my mom will eventually meet this guy. So I felt really stupid for telling him I had an Asian dad and white mom. But he started raving to me about eating at this restaurant that serves my FATHER’s food. My father who is married to a beautiful white woman. He kept saying your FATHER. My father married to a white woman. For once in my life I was proud to be Eurasian. It was worth the lie. I didn’t care if my Asian mom walked in right then and there, and I had to shoo her off saying “sorry lady my Asian dad is taken, married to a white gal, you’ll just have to find another Asian man!”. I felt like a real man, for the first time in my life. I had my balls reclaimed. You can’t imagine how it felt right after having to see yet another WM/AF when I prayed I was just paranoid. To understand what I felt is to understand what WM/AF means to Hapa males.
To just hear a white gentleman repeatedly refer to my father, and know that he was referring to an Asian man, married to my white mother, almost wanted to make me fall to my knees sobbing. The beauty of the moment was sublime. It was as though the hell of my life was undone with a single word. Your FATHER.
I hear contradictions all the time too from the women in my Asian ethnic group. They claim our culture is completely male chauvinistic but the majority of their complaints are made against their mother-in-laws. It seems to me that men may do the dirty work but only because they are carrying out the orders of some disgruntled granny (female matriarch). If ours is such a male chauvinistic culture then how did this old granny rise to such great powers?
Randy,
Billions of people lack food security, access to clean water, and political stability, and you’re so worked up by the blogger’s complaint that he’s not getting as many girls as he would like, that you would take precious moments out of your time helping the billions of people you mentioned in order to comment about his “trite” identity issues?
The person wasting his time is you. And, don’t even waste your time responding to me. Thousands are dying as you read this.
Hello Asian man,
I suppose it’s somewhat interesting to consider what my own WM/AF Eurasian kids might possibly one day complain about if they become self-absorbed and ungrateful, forgetting how historically blessed they are to be raised by loving parents in a wealthy, politically stable environment where they’re free from war, pestilence, and starvation.
It seems like “identity issues” are basically problems for people whose real problem is that they don’t have any real problems.
Oh please Randy, don’t be thinking that you’re a white knight, saving us asians from 3rd world poverty.
Western economic superiority is history now. China owns you all now.
Yes, Randy, you can tell your kids that when they are in their late teens and early adulthood and complain about the difficulties of being mixed. I’m sure that is exactly what they want to hear.
Anonymous,
You’re probably right.
However, a parent’s job isn’t to tell children what they want to hear but what they need to hear.
Regular trips to see their mother’s family will no doubt expose them to people with much greater problems than “rich-country affluenza”.
Hey, Randy White Condescending (most likely and Anglo-Saxon) phaggot piece of shit,
As an Asian American male, you sound just like those other white guys who deny that Asian guys get the worst form of racism in the USA. And you deny it because it benefits you and you want it to continue. The media spreads lies about us being either subservient weakling nerds or villains/emotionless men who never get the girl. Basically you used media to artificially devalue us so you could steal Asian women and make it hard for Asian men to find any other women.
And then like bitches/women with the worst traits of women, you like to gossip and spread other bullshit lies about Asian guys having small penises or being weak or whatever and eventually some weak Asian guys internalize this, thus making it worse. Clearly this is a government-funded societal project to disenfranchise Asian men. You white men are just like women. Dishonourable, backstabbing, gossiping pieces of shit.
I say fuck you. If I met you in real life, I would not hesitate to fuck you up and send your arrogant ass to the hospital. And I bet I could with my years of experience in martial arts and fighting full contact bare kncukle.
By beating the shit out of a white piece of shit like you, I would be taking revenge for all the Asian guys who used to be bullied an lost years of youth because of it (and some even went as far as to kill themselves -> one half white half Asian guy like the StuffEureasianMalesLike and another full Asian guy). THey were driven to suicide because of the prevalent bullying that lots of Asian guys get in America, especially in high school. I would also be taking revenge for all the Asian men oppressed by your imperialist regimes during the 19th, 20th, aadn 21st centuries and also all the other ethnicities you committed genocide against.
So fuck you motherfucker. I would take great joy in crippling you for life.
Randy,
I notice it’s always white men with lower mate value who marry Asian women. Never even heard of sexual strong males like Brad Pitt or Johnny Depp taking interest in Asian women. Always the creepy Murdoch types or the kind of man you can envision as Jon Gosselin’s white father, weak-chinned and cowardly. By the way, I don’t understand why people refer to him as Asian, he’s clearly white on his paternal side. White men like you are far from the cream of the crop, and mixing your inferior genetics with that 40% of scum who hate others of their own race befits you.
“It seems like “identity issues” are basically problems for people whose real problem is that they don’t have any real problems.” I’m not surprised you chose to hide behind a strawman instead of engaging his argument. It’s a coward’s way of shutting down debate.
Typical dumbass cracker. What kind of comment is that, Randy?
lol you’re a homo
Sounds like Randy has a case of white privilege.
Sounds like Randy is a ESL teacher backpacking in China.
Two big thumbs up to Jeff.
I’ve always felt it must be awkward to be a Eurasian male.
1. They won’t get much love from Asian females, because they’re not white enough
2. They stand on tenuous ground with Asian males, who know what their likely background is
3. They don’t really have enough macho in them to be fully accepted among white males
4. For the same reason as 3, they’re not going to be taken seriously by most white women
It’s another testament to the trainwreck that these relationships are.
BTW, StuffEurasianMaleLIke
I really sympathize with you. I really do. You are a lot like many of us Asian American guys who are not wimps and are not stupid and would actually be a great catch for many girls because we are handsome, muscular/strong, talented/fighters/martialartists/athletes, and intelligent. But the media does its best to disenfranchise us.
Although you may be a half white product of a privileged white male and asian whore, and you think that Asian guys won’t accept you, I can tell that your heart, bitterness, and sadness are those of a real Asian American guy who has faced all the cruel, psychological warfare western society has waged against us.
Therefore, I name you a true Asian male brother and I am sure that many other Asian guys would agree. Don’t give a shit that your dad is white. Your heart is clearly noble and that of an Asian male as opposed to some of those vicious, bitch-like, dishonourable white guys.
I have half-white cousins, a product of my Asian uncle and his white wife. The kids are fine. They don’t have a lot of issues other than being slightly sheltered. Though they look more white/hispanic than they do Asian, so that is probably also why they don’t face a lot of issues. That is also proof, as stated in the science daily article that children tend to resemble the woman.
Hey, fellow asian guy here. It really isn’t about height and muscles, not as much as you think, anyway. There are tons of short, ugly guys with beautiful (sometimes tall) white girls. Girls want to be admired, it just can’t be done in a very obvious way.
It’s about being classy and social skills. One example would be Jamie Cullum and Sophie Dahl. He’s below 5’6″ and she’s 5’11”, he looks like a hobbit, and she’s looks like a million bucks and owns far more.
I agree the psychological warfare is shit, but asian females are most likely insecure anyway. I’ve noticed how their eyes and body language betray their fear when I mention how beautiful non-asian women are. I’ve never done this out of malice, but I have noticed it because I genuinely am not interested in asian looks at all.
And the truth is, most white girls are really neutral to dating asian guys. In fact, they really think we’re only attracted to asian women. That’s the number one stereotype of asian men.
As to pan-Asian unity, I absolutely agree. I don’t understand why Japan still won’t kick off the U.S. bases on their soil, Ecuador has done it.
Cephascjy,
I don’t know about that. Being short is definitely detrimental if you want good-looking girls. I am a fairly good looking guy and have many talents and am muscular, etc. so I am not weak nor would people think I am really effeminate. However, girls will pass you over just because of height or just because of race.
I understand that JTTran likes to say that this is just self-internalized racism and self-defeating thought, but more often than not, the girls I meet around here are openly racist, as are the guys. And generally they only dislike/shun Asian males. It feels almost like a conspiracy although I don’t think it is, but is simply the product of media/hollywood brainwashing where Asian men being the ultimate enemy/foreign villain, emasculated effeminate nerd, or asexual martial artist has been drilled so deep into their brains that even when somebody who is not like that is in front of them, they choose to see the negative traits that have been drilled into their brain. I despise this kind of psychological warfare, but I think it is very effective. Perhaps Asia needs to begin employing this in their films and showcase white males as complete redneck, lowlife, thuggish, barbaric, dirty, hairy, disgusting, unintelligent pieces of shit with imperialist, rapist, serial-klilling, in-breeding tendencies. Perhaps then, after the Asian female and other female populations have been brainwahsed into hating white males will we be even.
But for now, as even JTTran admits, we are operating with a gigantic handicap. That doesn’t mean we should give up. Of course not, but it is extremely hard and for some without the willpower, they will definitely simply give up and lose all hope. The situation certainly does look hopeless sometimes.
I also disagree that white girls are neutral. JTTran who says that white girls think Asian men only date Asian girls as the #1 stereotype is anecdotal and complete bullshit in my opinion. Just browsing the internet (which often reveals the truest thoughts because of the anonymity), forums, talking with people in real life and their experiences and their friends, and overhearing conversations, I believe that many white girls are just as racist if not more racist than many white guys. And they definitely think Asian guys have small penises, and many dismiss Asian guys over height or simply because he has chinky eyes or simply dislikes Asians. It is a combination of naturally disliking the natural looks of Asians with media brainwashing.
Put simply, most American females are racist as fuck and dislike Asian males, except those Asian males that are tall or exceptionally good looking (generally look western). And it is also unfortunate reality that a flat nose combined with a very round/fat head, tiny eyes, pronounced cheekbones, and flat profile is simply generally seen as unappealing and unsymmetric. And symmetry is what defines “aesthetic” in most cases. There have been scientific studies to confirm this. Even look at Asian stars who generally have taller/thinner noses, oval shaped faces, etc. And taller/thinner/pointier noses also looks better with slanted/small eyes in my opinion.
Luckily, I have that “look” in that my nose is pretty tall/pointed/thin, and my face is oval. I have had many Russian/western girls say they think I look attractive. However, they generally take that comment back once they find out I am 5’5″ without shoes and 5’6″ with shoes, even though I am muscular and have many other traits. Perhaps they are shallow, perhaps not. And they are still judging based on western standards of beauty, which have now become universal standards or beauty (que link to South Korean and other Asian country’s rising plastic-surgery rates).
But women do the choosing in mating and women are becoming even more picky nowadays. So I know many white guys who also have trouble finding girls and dates. But it is not as bad as the situation of Asian men, because at least white guys have hordes of Asian women who drool over them and are essentially socio-economically at the very top of the worldwide pyramid/social ladder. Asian men, while doing decently economically, are at the very bottom when it comes to the social ladder, particularly in the USA.
But perhaps it is the area I live in. I am in eastern Washington at the moment, so tons of redneck fuckers and the like. Perhaps if I moved to more cultured areas, I would not have issues finding a girl.
I think the Northeast Asian look might be getting more popular (high nose, longer face, smaller eyes), what you described, round face and flat nose are the traits of Southeast Asians. I agree we still have some ways to go, but I’ve seen some really good looking white women with ho-hum Asian guys too.
I’m your height and I’m with a Persian/Indian girl, I guess I could say I’ve benefited from the Northeast Asian image since people usually mistake me for Japanese or Korean (I’m Singaporean Chinese). My girlfriend hates having to tell her friends that I’m actually Chinese and Singaporean. But I know a Chinese guy from Harvard who dates a Russian ballroom dancer who also goes to Harvard and he’s gangly and really average looking. Kind of looks like a refugee from the Vietnam war. And I’ve encountered one too many fan reaction videos to Big Bang by hysterical white/european girls to believe most of them are racist towards Asian guys, and it’s an open secret that Big Bang are pretty short guys. Maybe you should try your luck in Boston.
I think we’re definitely picking up speed. We’re burgeoning on Youtube, Freddiew’s web series cast an AMWF. So did CorridorDigital. And I think they’ll continue to do so. There are some high profile Asian men with white women like Brian Tee and William Tong, Jessica Rudd’s husband. Actress Felicia Day cast an East Asian male as a brief love interest in The Guild while she failed the South Asian male outright.
I’m in Singapore, so I don’t know much about how bad it is in the West. Everything I know, I’ve read online. But I hate Singapore the most. There’s a lot of self-hatred here. The Singaporean media especially have a way of playing up Asian “exoticism” when they’re around white people, but when they’re around other Asians, they want to be the ones that are “so Westernized”. The men and the women. It makes me want to break something. So don’t fall for the lie that Singapore is an Asian global city, nothing has changed since colonial times.
But I still believe things are changing faster in the West. Singapore has never been up to date with reality. At least there are Asian men with balls championing change over there.
Kristoff,
It’s good to finally meet a fellow Asian brother who feels the same anger as I do, even if it’s just online.
Feeling is mutual. I am tired of talking to Asian guys who think this is not an issue at all. And conveniently they are something like 6’4″ and have GFs who have fetishes for Asian guys. Most normal white girls around here don’t go for Asian guys and neither to hispanic or black girls. I guess in my case, it is a problem is being in the wrong location, girls disliking my height, and girls disliking my race. I think I am beyond the point of even wanting to date Asian girls. Most of them are goddamned traitors and readily put down Asian men. I never see white, black, or hispanic girls put down their men. Ok maybe sometimes black women because black men often don’t want to date black women. And having grown up in the North, being Northern, having uncles who married white women, I do like certain white girls a lot more than other girls. I can’t help it. Even if I do not want to be attracted to them because they are so goddamned racist. It’s a curse I tell you. The girls I like are either not interested or are viciously prejudiced against Asian guys. And then there are girls that drool over me, but unfortuanately were exchange students from Europe or girls I met online from Norway and there is no way financially they can move to the states. So I can’t get them as GFs even if I wanted to.
Also, I know what STuffEurasianMales is talking about concerning the one drop rule or in my case, the other way around. I am actually 1/16th Dutch, and people often ask me about my ethnicity because I am a strange looking Asian with my somewhat protruding/pointy nose, oval/thin face, yet very small, Asian eyes. And then when I mention the 1/16th Dutch thing, they are like HA so you are part white! Bullshit. 1/16th is barely anything and if you look pretty much Asian, then you are Asian. And they treat you like an Asian anyways. I’m more Japanese and Manchurian than anything else, so 1/16th hardly counts as anything and they try to make it seem as if just because I have western ancestry, somehow they can treat me however they want and not be called racist. I bet StuffEurasianMaleslike has faced this before, as a half Asian half-white guy who looks Asian. Again, it is what ‘race’ you resemble the most that determines how you treated, even though race is socially constructed and pretty much bullshit. But since it has become so important, think Asian guys might as well accept these categories and band together. We have to band together to have strength in numbers. The reason Asian guys often lose out is because a lot of us have trouble banding together… probably because of how many of us Asian American guys were raised.
I think it’s definitely something to do with how we were raised, and our culture. I’ve read that black men were once prevented from playing sports that white men used to do like boxing. Black men have been able to get together and promote their image much better than us, I think the ghetto culture definitely helps in that. Putting sexual prowess before anything and using “Muh dick, muh dick” as the sole measure of individual worth. Asian culture is primarily about assimilation. Fitting in at all costs and not rocking the boat no matter what.
I see any Asian male who doesn’t think the WMAF thing is a problem is an idiot. And I’m amazed at how much so many Asian males worship Asian women. Maybe because I’ve never been attracted to them, but whenever I hear an Asian guy say he’ll pick an Asian over a white/Middle Eastern/South Asian girl, all things equal, I wonder what the fuck is wrong with his taste. Or if he’s too weak to say what he really wants.
I will say, however, that the 60% that stick with us in spite of all the crap we get are gold.
Sorry, it’s “muh dikk”.
I think more Asian males are waking up to this, so all is not lost.
And I agree on Pan-Asian unity. I mean, the Anglo-Saxons are made up of Angles and Saxons, and these are two different groups. So why can’t we have Altaic-Sinids or something similar. The hatred the Korean, Japanese and Mongolian nationalists have for the Chinese blinds them to a real enemy. According to Noam Chomsky, the American presence in the Middle-East is partly aimed at preventing China from gaining an independent source of oil.
Statistics show that a female US soldier is more likely to be raped than be killed by enemy fire in Iraq and Afghanistan. I am not going to believe for one second that those Iraqi and Afghan women are any safer than their own American girls there. And I certainly won’t believe that the US wouldn’t do the same in Northeast Asia if they could.
The war America has waged on Asians is a cultural one, a psychological one, as you say. The good news is that our generation is finally waking up to it. The one lesson Asian Americans can give Asian Asians is that white people don’t play favorites, they don’t have a favorite Asian race, everyone is discriminated against equally. That lesson could end the enmity between the Northeast Asian countries and the West’s divide and conquer style of warfare.
Send me a personal message on Youtube. My username is the same as it is here. We must talk more.
@Kristoff,
I think the Northeast Asian look might be getting more popular (high nose, longer face, smaller eyes), what you described, round face and flat nose are the traits of Southeast Asians. I agree we still have some ways to go, but I’ve seen some really good looking white women with ho-hum Asian guys too.
I’m your height and I’m with a Persian/Indian girl, I guess I could say I’ve benefited from the Northeast Asian image since people usually mistake me for Japanese or Korean (I’m Singaporean Chinese). My girlfriend hates having to tell her friends that I’m actually Chinese and Singaporean. But I know a Chinese guy from Harvard who dates a Russian ballroom dancer who also goes to Harvard and he’s gangly and really average looking. Kind of looks like a refugee from the Vietnam war. And I’ve encountered one too many fan reaction videos to Big Bang by hysterical white/european girls to believe most of them are racist towards Asian guys, and it’s an open secret that Big Bang are pretty short guys. Maybe you should try your luck in Boston.
I think we’re definitely picking up speed. We’re burgeoning on Youtube, Freddiew’s web series cast an AMWF. So did CorridorDigital. And I think they’ll continue to do so. There are some high profile Asian men with white women like Brian Tee and William Tong, Jessica Rudd’s husband. Actress Felicia Day cast an East Asian male as a brief love interest in The Guild while she failed the South Asian male outright.
I’m in Singapore, so I don’t know much about how bad it is in the West. Everything I know, I’ve read online. But I hate Singapore the most. There’s a lot of self-hatred here. The Singaporean media especially have a way of playing up Asian “exoticism” when they’re around white people, but when they’re around other Asians, they want to be the ones that are “so Westernized”. The men and the women. It makes me want to break something. So don’t fall for the lie that Singapore is an Asian global city, nothing has changed since colonial times.
But I still believe things are changing faster in the West. Singapore has never been up to date with reality. At least there are Asian men with balls championing change over there.
Sorry, William Tong and Jessica Rudd’s husband are two different people, but both are Chinese.
Somebody else posted this elsewhere
This concerns Asian Female/white male hypocrisy:
Asian American females often assert that Asian males are intolerant of Asian female/white male interracial relationships yet the truth is that any intolerance with Asian interracial relationships exists with white males who support Asian female/White male relationships yet denounce Asian male/white female relationships or any relationship involving white females and nonwhite males in general. Not only do white males have a history of violence and prohibition against these kinds of relationships but they have shown their discontent of these relationships through violence, laws that inhibit these relationships and in modern times divergent depictions of support for white males in interracial relationships and disapproval of Asian males in relationships with white females and any relationships of nonwhite males with white females in general.
Asian females do not have the right to question Asian male tolerance towards Asian female interracial relationships with white males as Asian males have been more than tolerant with these kinds of relationships probably to a fault. The fact that there aren’t news stories about Asian males acting disapprovingly towards Af/WM relationships by spitting, punching, verbally abusing or trying to physically or socially inhibit these relationships prove that Asian males are more decent guys than white guys when it comes to these kinds of relationships. White males have had a history of inhibiting their women from having relationships with nonwhite males even to this day through violence, passing of laws, social and media conditioning and other despicable acts of intolerance.
In modern times, white males are prevented from committing racist and hypocritical actions to prevent nonwhite male unions with white females by law, yet these racist and hypocritical sentiments are shown through social disapproval and media disapproval of nonwhite males with white females and support for white male/nonwhite female relationships. This includes violent and threatening actions shown to relationships between nonwhite males and white women.
If white males were given the power, they would make every effort to inhibit relationships between white women and nonwhite males. In modern times, the only real way the white male can control interracial relationships is to manipulate images in the media hoping that these images would shield white women from interracial relationships with nonwhite males and if possible promote nonwhite female relationships with white males.
It’s difficult for white males to manipulate the black and Hispanic community in this regard because their population sizes are too large and because they have political and social influence that Asians do not have. Blacks in this country have the NAACP, Nation of Islam, Bloods and Crips street gangs to defend against white media denigration and manipulation of their people. If they can’t influence the media to control their image through politics, they can thug their way to make sure that their images are portrayed correctly. Hispanic groups have a huge population base with bordering nations which minimizes them from the negative effects of the American media. A majority of them keep true to their identity which makes it hard for the media to control their social patterns.
Asian people neither have a large population size in this country nor do they have any prominent social or political groups that can defend against the negative manipulation of the white media which allows whites to divide and manipulate Asian Americans. They have made Asian female interracial relationships with white males acceptable yet denounce any unions between Asian males and white females. Though this hasn’t stopped Asian male interracial relationships with white females, they (usually white males and racist white females) are doing their best to make sure that Asian males have a hard time with these relationships.
Asian women are deserving of the “sell out” moniker not because they’re in interracial relationship with white males but because even though they know that white males have a history of racist hypocritical patterns when it comes to Asian interracial relationships, they see no reason to question this hypocrisy yet finds it easy to blame Asian males to bolster their hypocritical behavior.
Asian females do not have the right to question Asian guys for questioning their interracial relationships when white males have had a history of making it illegal and in the present time denouncing Asian male relationships with white females. It is because of the Asian female’s unquestionable acceptance of white male hypocrisy and racist pattern which includes constant deriding of Asian males to support their relationships that they are worthy of the sell out moniker from Asian males and everybody else who’s familiar the meaning of word “decency.”
A little late to the party but what Kristoff, cephascjy and OP say rings so true. As an AM born in north america, I can attest that almost all the anger, although a little harsh at sometimes, is absolutely true.
But you know where it’s the worst? Back in the homeland. I’m currently living in an East Asian country, and do you know what the worst form of WM/AF pairing is? The ones in East Asia. This WM is the worst of the worst, he couldn’t get a WF or even the ugly AF back home. So he has to come to Asia, (the poorer, the better) to try his luck with the peasant masses. It’s absolutely disgusting seeing an out of work, back packing white English teacher with a decent looking, well-educated AF in East Asia.
The paradigm of White Worship has to end, but we can’t wait for them (WM/AF) to change their racist views.
We have to blow past the media bullshit, and make ourselves more desirable.
Hit the gym, get some nice clothes, and a decent hair cut. Get a good hobby, make yourself interesting, turn off the computer, TV and ps3. Be confident, be proud of who you are, and unapologetic to those who think you shouldn’t.
You know what I like to do when I go to clubs and bars and see WM/AF? Flirt with AF in front of their WM bfs, trust me, it pisses them both off, and because you don’t care and seem kind of non-typical, the AF will be curious and excited, and the WM will be shocked and confused. And then in the end, if AF ain’t taking the bait, tell whitey sorry for taking up his time, bc he’s probably paying his Asian hooker by the hour.
And for all those AF/WM who say that approach is racist, I can’t tell you how many times when I was with my White girlfriend, white boys came up to her to ridicule her taste in men right in front of me, telling her to ditch me.
It sucks growing up in a predominately white society as an East Asian male, but as we grow older and mature, I think those hard times have made us stronger, and allowed use to see more clearly through the lies that perpetuate our world, both about our history and who we have the potential to be in the future.
Asian women didn’t get this treatment so they are stuck and comfortable in the white man’s status quo. It’s not their fault. If Asian women weren’t so desirable, they’d be sticking to their men too, like South Asian and Australian aboriginal females do.
But we are in a unique time right now. East Asia is slowing taking back its rightful place as the most dynamic economic and cultural region in the world- the position we enjoyed for many millennia when Europeans were still spearing their food and living in caves. (Remember, after black Africans, the western European Aryan-Nordic “master race”, were one of the last ones to civilize!!)
And as the west grows weaker through their imperial overstretch, massive deficits and changing demographics at home, they will only grow more divided, racist, insecure and insular. We as East Asians must do all we can to exploit this to our benefit and advantage, whether from a boardroom in Beijing or on the front lines in LA.
I say to all my East Asian brothers back in the west, FUCK the west. Come back to the homeland and contribute to re-emergence of the East. OP, you will be accepted as one of us, trust me, just learn the language.
But I think the best approach to reversing this distorted image of us, is use it against them, let’s work with what we got instead of being ashamed by it. Use their own game against, become a skilled spinmaster.
Times are changing. Big muscular macho men, who are dumb as a bricks are slowly losing their appeal. In a hyper, tech heavy economy, where knowledge and money mean everything- height, being white, and all that other trivial stuff, will lose its allure. Evolution now favours the intelligent not the muscular, just ask neanderthals. Don’t be scrawny, but don’t be less confident cause you aren’t the biggest guy in the room.
Brains mean EVERYTHING. And that’s where we don’t fall short. Use your intelligence to make yourself more confident.
I would rather have the stereotype of having a small dick, than a low IQ. (sorry to black people)
Work with what we got, we are great providers, we never dog our kids, we work our asses off so our kids can have a better life than we had. It’s a cultural given that East Asian men will do anything for their kids, never for white males or any other. NEVER
That’s why many women of all races, are highly attracted to AM, because of our strong sense of family and responsibility, but the White media use their propaganda machine to twist that into, we make women stay at home. What bullshit!
hope you got through all of that. The 3 of you keep in touch with me. I will leave my email with OP, but if you can’t get it, reply to this msg, and I will send it to you. We got more to discuss. Trust me…
The future is East Asian, remember that.
Ditch Bruce Lee, Jackie Chan, and PSY as heroes.
My hero is Genghis Khan.
@Doug
Brother, you can send your email address to my youtube account, the username is cephascjy.
The only part where I disagree with you is the bit about Asian women dating out because they’re desirable. I actually find South Asian women far more attractive than East Asian women.
Hey Doug, you can contact me at dmincorporated6@gmail.com or send me a message on youtube (youtube account) to yakuzayojimbo.
I’d say the only disagreement I have with some of the full-blooded Asian men is that there is so much racism even within the Asian groups. How many of your parents would actually approve a marriage with an Asian girl outside of your specific ethnic group? While many Asian females are marrying white men, there are plenty of Southeast Asian women still seeking to marry an Asian man. How would Chinese/Japanese/Korean parents feel about their son bringing home a Thai, Lao, Cambodian, Hmong, Mien, etc.? These are groups that haven’t been in the states as long as the formerly mentioned and since many of them are refugees, they probably don’t come from very wealthy backgrounds either. If your parents can look past status then I can guarantee you’ll have no problem finding a smart, attractive Southeast Asian girl who still believes in Asian values.
Well..being an Asian guy growing up in America is going to be tough, the country overvalues strength at the expense of everything else. The whole interracial combination thing is complicated; as it involves a bunch of other things besides what you can see. Class being a big thing, Asian guys are not going to ‘settle’ for some white girl, just because she’s white, if you really wanted a white girl. That’s not particularly hard, there’s a lot of working class white girls out there who’s not bothered by the idea, that’s why bm/wf is so common, Wm/Af is trickier, because it’s big chunks of people in different circumstances, I don’t particularly care about Af or Wm so It doesn’t matter to me what they do.
I do however, care about mending the rift between Am/Wf, there’s too much cultural distance and mistrust going on and I don’t know why. I do have a good advice for you though. Whatever happens, keep calm, smile and be the best person you can possibly be. In the long term, the cultural landscape of America is going to change, Asian guys are in a tough spot, but succeed economically first, you’ll be able to do a lot of things you didn’t think was possible. And don’t marry an Af lol…
Yeah, WFs. Ah…
I agree with the tone of your message, but I don’t agree that AM should reject AF. I mean, I do cheer when I see the occasional Asian guy with the hot blonde. But, there are plenty of AF that are of like mind with us AM. Besides, white women aren’t all that. It’s all pink on the inside. But, I agree with you on getting rich. Money makes everything possible.
Well … I never saw an Asian guy dating a Latina or black woman … Sometimes white woman … But mostly Asian girls … For some reason they just cant find Other girls attractive … and Idk why but iIt’s sad how media plays an important role here … Cuz all they do is showing Asian guys as weak and super smart. … Most of my white , black and Latina friends can’t think in an Asian guys as attractive or manly … And I didn’t before … Until I started to date a Filipino … And I realized how stupid all this situation is … Now that I opened my eyes I can see Asian guys as an option 🙂 they are just guys … Btw it is true … Asian girls are always trying to date white guys … Some f my Asian friends think of Asian Guys as traditional and weak and they prefer to date white guys cuz that makes then feel better like more American and I didn’t have a problem about it until I read your blog … And I never knew how hard can life be for mixed guys like you … Im latina and In my country we have a lot of asian influence and things there are different, I always liked To watch Korean series … Amines and all that stuff and I couldn’t understand why do Asian guys don’t date any other non Asian girls in America but Asian girls can date white guys . Now I’m starting to get it …
Wow, I stumbled upon this blog somehow and have read several articles now. I wanted to add my two cents, for whatever it’s worth.
I am an WF (American) married for over a year now to a AM (Singaporean), so this is all pretty interesting and relevant for me. While I am aware of the stereotypes perpetuated by the media (and possibly some jealous non-Asian males?) regarding AM I guess I have been largely oblivious. I see AM/WF couples now and then and never thought they were so rare as these entries seem to suggest. We get stares now and then and some people have questioned my choice to be with an AM when I have such a large pool of potentials to draw from (hopefully it doesn’t make me sound too arrogant)….but then they meet him and are charmed by his awesomeness as a human being, Asian being an inconsequential albeit interesting footnote.
Having experience dating quite a variety of ethnicities of men (including WM)I felt I had gathered a pretty decent amount of insight. Clearly I only scratched the surface, but I spent enough time around these individuals and their families to get a sense of their personal and cultural values. There were things I liked and disliked, but something that really stuck with me as I started becoming more interested in marriage and children down the road were a lot of the core values in Asian cultures. These were values that I identify with even though many were not ingrained in my own upbringing. At the risk of sounding flippant with all of this I thought that being with an AM would give us the highest possibility of maintaining a healthy, stable marriage that lasted and set a good example (with regard to family ties and relationships) for our future children. I’ve always found many AMs quite attractive (I remember secretly crushing on a few back in high school) and also think so many Hapas (M & F) are gorgeous, so I thought why not give it a try?
That sounds very calculated, I know. But I assure you the rest was just a God thing. I met several AMs that just didn’t do it for me personality-wise in spite of their bank accounts being well-endowed. I’ve been told that’s one of the main reasons non-Asian females opt to date AM (how insulting is that?!). Then along came the most wonderful man (Asian or not) I could have never dreamed up. He’s not successful doing the job he love but we aren’t super wealthy, nor is he all muscled up or out of touch with his Asian roots. He’s talented, sweet and thoughtful as can be and the most fun partner-in-crime you can imagine.
I am concerned about our future children having a well-rounded sense of identity. The idea of them resenting half of who they are breaks my heart and I can’t understand how anyone would want that for their child. I can’t claim to understand the struggles of mixed race children, but regardless of ones background each side should be valued equally.
The majority of hubby’s female cousins are married to white guys and though he’s in no way self-hating, he always jokes that the family will be jealous when we have kids because they’ll be cuter than all the others. He has also said AM/WF couples tend to produce more “caucasian-looking” offspring. How true this is, we’ll have to wait and see.
Thanks for making this thought-provoking blog. It may not be intended for me but it’s been helpful all the same. Hope this was long enough 😛
@the misses
Hi, do you live in Singapore, by any chance? And is your husband Chiense? I ask because I’m a Singaporean Chinese male, and most Singaporean Chinese women look very insecure and envious when I mention my preference for Indo-European women. Especially the educated ones.
@cephascjy
No, currently we are in the States but we plan to live there for a while once hubby’s finished with school and he is Chinese. While visiting Singapore I did notice a lot of staring, which of course is to be expected.
There were only two somewhat negative interactions – one was an Asian girl (she was dating my husband’s friend). She seemed uncomfortable by my presence and simply ignored me. Also an Australian hapa (a friend of husband’s friend) who wasn’t terribly friendly either and came across as kind of competitive. Neither were outright nasty or anything, but their emotions seemed pretty clear.
Otherwise all of the other Asian women I encountered on a personal level were all rather friendly. I suppose many people’s egos would feel threatened (esp. the ones who are naturally jealous or quite insecure) by hearing someone of their race prefers another race over them, regardless of whether they hold the same opinion or not. Meh, what can you do…
@the misses
Well then, I’m just going to warn you as a Singaporean Chinese male who’s lived in Singapore all his life and grown up liking Caucasian type women (White, Middle Eastern, South Asian).
Singaporean Chinese women in general, and especially the educated ones (I’m talking Ivy League level) tend to be very jealous of white, Middle Eastern or South Asian women. Especially the ones who date white men or who have relatives who date white men. I notice this whenever I mention my preference when asked.
Some will subcommunicate it non-verbally, most won’t. Some (the less educated ones) have called me a racist. Just for saying what I like. And I do not lavish praise on the women I like in front of these women like the deranged white asiaphiles do with their china dolls. Just know that the attitude is there more often than not.
Very interesting blog. I’m also a son of WM/AF. I think of myself as fortunate as I’ve never been bullied for my race as I ( at least think of myself ) am slightly charismatic. But in hindsight being thankful for not being bullied is ridiculous. No white male looks back and thinks “man im so lucky I never got bullied.” It’s sad I have to even think about this but looking around and seeing all the other asian / eurasians being bullied makes me sick. I’ve always stood up for my half asian / asian brothers. I’ll be honest I’ve simply not tried to find women. I’m letting women come to me, I do not care what race they are white, asian, hispanic, black, etc. If they are of good character and they accept me for what I am and not simply label me as a eurasian piece of garbage then I too will accept them. I do understand and sympathize with your hardship seeing so many WM/AF as I did also. Coming from a stereotypical father who joined the military, went over seas, and returned with a wife. Unfortunately, there is little we can do to remove the labels and stereotypes we have on ourselff short of starting a cultural revolution. I hope, in the future things will change for us.
Anyways, great blog I really enjoy it. You write with passion and fury and you can feel that. You care not what others think and yet you respond to the nay sayers. I hope you become a pillar of the community and prove all the stereotypes and labels wrong but do not dedicate your life to it.
I too am a the result of an WM/AF marriage, except I’m a girl. I understand EXACTLY where you’re coming from, I have a father that is almost exactly the white man you describe. My views may not be as extreme as yours but I GET you. I can’t express how interesting, relieving but also distressing it is to find that there is someone who sees the world as I do. I’m just 14 years old, 15 in a few days but I’ve felt and come to the realisation on my own most of the points you make on your blog. However, although my father proves pretty much most of the points you make, there is another man in my life who doesn’t. My step-dad is the rare exception. He’s not like that, he has his own children with a white woman and is now recently married to my mum. He cares and supports me and my two Eurasian brothers and is gradually restoring my faith in the white men. See my issue is, that I don’t feel attracted to any other race but white. And as much as I wish that I could one day find a man who will treat me as an equal, not as a submissive mutt, I can’t bring myself to be physically attracted to an Asian man. I’m young and I know this might change but what sucks is knowing that I have the option have marrying a egotistical, right winged man, not marrying at all or having to spend my life searching for that rare gem, a man like my step-dad who will treat me how I deserve to be treated. But I know there are those rare exceptions and I will build myself up to be a strong, independent person, and along with that hopefully will come the respect that I deserve.
“Blacks in this country have the NAACP, Nation of Islam, Bloods and Crips street gangs to defend against white media denigration and manipulation of their people. If they can’t influence the media to control their image through politics, they can thug their way to make sure that their images are portrayed correctly.”
omygod. I’m crying laughing–what were those stereotypes “foisted” on them? Stereotypes come from observation. They come from a deep desire to survive. Nobody really needs to do much “foisting.” Since all races are comprised of individuals, the stereotypes don’t always fit. But that doesn’t make them all iincorrect. You yourself have “foisted” dozens of stereotypes onto Asian women (not to mention white men.) I can’t say they’re all incorrect, but they are grossly dehumanizing.
You’re young. Since I’m not your racial combo (although I am a combo)\, but since I don’t look it it doesn’t matter, right?) I can’t criticize your racial angst. But your take on history and the current geopolitical situation is so like a 1960s leftist-Marxist sit in that I just can’t stand it anymore. You were born here. If the white man is so evil–then there’s a huge Asia for you. As you say, China owns us. Why do you remain?
“You were born here. If the white man is so evil–then there’s a huge Asia for you. As you say, China owns us. Why do you remain?”
The sense of white entitlement and condescending nature of this statement pretty much sums up what asian and other minority males are up against.
I could point to the fact that my ancestors worked on railroads leading to integration of the pacific coast economy and literally built this country, yet 1st or 2nd generation immigrant whites are deemed more legitimately “american”. I could point to the fact that racism against our “kind” was literally written into law, yet this country made people of our kind recite and believe in liberty and equality for all. I could point to the fact that many immigrant asian schoolchildren I know score and speak better English than many “american” schoolchildren. Or the fact that many immigrant asian families are refugees from repressive regimes and are true believers of american freedom (no matter how imperfect it is).
That the argument to send minorities back to where they came from is essentially what the Jim Crow proponents argued for.
The argument basically is we don’t want to change and have a genuinely progressive society for all. We whites like the way things are. Take it or leave it. How can anyone of any combo take this stance?
Pointing out that things suck is an American right. So how come whites can do this, but minorities who do this get told to go back where they came from?
“If the white man is so evil–then there’s a huge Asia for you. As you say, China owns us. Why do you remain?” – danielel
This kind of nonsense babble only confirms that America will forever be culturally insensitive towards anybody who isn’t white. If the Italians or the Irish or the Germans complained about how much America sucked, would they be told to go back to their country? I highly doubt it. The laws would be amended to suit their tastes, but if an Asian so much as gave an opinion, they’re told to go back to where they belong. Well America is where we belong so it’s high time that the laws and attitude in this country accommodate our demands.
” I said my dad was like a white slave owner raping his slaves. ” Sounds like you need some serious professional help. What a horrible thing to say about your parents, and who the fuck are you to judge them?
As a Black man, I understand what Asian men go through. We’re both oppressed minorities going up against White supremacy.
I am going to be honest with you though I have never been honest in a online conversation. Most of the times I just love to pretend I am an Arabic because I just love the fear and hatred that an Arab man enduce in those Americans. I was adopted from China into a white american subburban family and let’s just say when I was 14 to 18 I had suicidal thoughts. I am now over it and I live in new york working for a investment bank and I will just DIE before I date an asian woman. I rather be alone for the rest of my life than being with an asian woman. your posts are wonderful and I wish you could find a publisher and get published, or at least self publish it. This is really really good.
and dude you need to grow some balls. I once threatened to kill my white father and I have ever since never talked to him again for the last 5 years. I read your entire blog from last night to this morning and I read several posts repeatedly i just couldn’t get enough of it. I think you need to let your dad know how you really feel about him. To be honest with you, when I was in college, Cho Cheung Hui was my hero. I completely agree with everything you wrote especially your immaculate analysis using Master Slave relationship. I suppose you read Nietzsche and Hegel as well. Please write more and publish your stuffs! More people need to know how we really feel and more people need to read it
some of your lines were so painful and so personal you know I cried reading it
I am not certain what you are implying here but I can tell you that the majority of white male/Asian female couples are as I described. It is always like this is the woman is foreign. I have seen this with a neighbor just recently. The Thai wife is a real ball buster that insists on spending the white man into debt and all for the benefit of her family back in Thailand.
This white man left his white wife and daughter because she spent too much time with her elderly mother in Florida. He then buys the Thai wife who insists he buys horses and land in Thailand for her family. She bitches about how much she hates America and tells her husband she plans on going back to Thailand. She drives the nicer car at her insistence, bought the designer purse of course and treats his mother like dirt. I am not even going to discuss the gross looking children they have.
There was a reality television show called Real Housewives of ORange County. Awhite man marries the Thai wife and then he dies. The Thai wife gets all the money and leaves. His two white daughters are left with his near bankrupt company. The daughter was of course upset. These women are just an expensive class of whore and do not even deny it. They insist their country is better and they are only after the white men for money. Again they do not even deny it.
White men who buy the Asian wife are pathetic and despicable men. Their hatred for white women is evident even when it is their OWN daughters that are hurt by their anti-white behaviour. They put up with an incredible sense of materialism from their Asian whores that they would not dare put up with from white women. Above all these men are stupid for falling for the scam. They deserve to lose all the money to the Asian wife.
Thai women are not the worst. The absolute bottom of the barrel of Asian whores are Korean women. I have known more than a few Korean women who have serious gambling issues. Most Korean women are ugly and yet the typical closet pedo will still date them thinking they are getting something special. They are short, thickly built and have abnormally square faces. They are so materialistic and money obsessed that it is hard to believe that any white man would fall for one. They are mean women who treat their white husbands like crap. Of course I do not see the Korean mail order bride to often.
If white men really think that Asian women are docile and sweet than they are just stupid. They do not even deny the racial stereotyping. Many will say white women are too this or too that but then put up with the same crap from Asian women. They always look miserable.
– Bana phrionnsa
White men with Hispanic women really bother me. Most race mixing white men are very effiminate and have low self esteem. Often enough they look to other races because they have impossibly high standards for white women. They usually have a serious issues with money and again they think that foreign and non-white women are somehow cheap and easy to take care of. With white women they will complain about any little thing. This is a mental problem some white men have. Many times gay men will have this mental issue as well. They will complain over and over again and they nitpick. With the non-white partner they usually find an Asian who is completely materialistic, barks orders at them behind closed doors and could care less what her man thinks. Hispanic women must have their white men by the balls most of the time. I actually see few Hispanic women with white men. Even stupid white men can see the trouble, anger and STDs a Hispanic will bring to a relationship. White men who race mix are usually gay or bisexual and simply look for outlets to their desires. Black women and Hispanic women are manly and have male-like bodies. Asian women look like little boys.
– Bana phrionnsa, Stormfront
An odd similarity that mudsharks have to rice burners is their judgment of white men. I do not think they put as much thought into their judgment of whites. With white men they have impossibly high standards but with white women they actually have an image in mind. They are not about thinking into the future. It is more the here and now but the similar thing is that white women who race mix will put up with abusive behavior from black men that they would not put up with from white men. White men are viewed as quiet and not as strong. Blacks are seen as wealthy, generous and the “trendy” thing. This is a carefully cultivated media image but it is obviously not true but here again the mudshark has a media induced image in her head. She does not want to let that go no matter how obvious it is to everyone else.
The two are polar opposites who fear one another in way. White men are trying to avoid the materialistic white women that only cares about image and just wants money. White women are trying to avoid weak willed men that are effeminate and cheap. They are so fearful of these types that they seek out races who are actually their fears quantified. Black men are known for their secret homosexual tendencies and their materialism comes from a very effiminate attitude towards their image. They are less intelligent and their appearance of strength a lie. All image and no substance. They usually treat their mudsharks like crap and never buy them anything. Mudsharks get the very thing they feared. White men are the same. They are convinced women only want money and to boss them around. Nothing is good enough for these white men. They end up with the very thing they are trying to avoid. A bossy and selfish woman who takes all they have and do not care about the white men they are using.
Both are all about image and insane amount of brainwashing and media induced thinking. Black men are this and Asian women are that. They are the answer to the disappointment that whites have with other whites even though a lot of these white people have never even tried to date other whites. It is all in their head. They are fearful of something that is not really there.
While the reality of the world is usually seen by they majority of whites there is a small minority that live and die by the media image that has been beamed into their head. They are usually of a weaker mind and very self centered. Of course the media plays a role. Bigger than what you may think but there is still a certain type that falls for the nonsense.
– Stormfront
I have seen the Oriental prostitutes at work. Any white man involved with one should be ashamed. They are being humiliated by these women. Everyone around them knows it as well. I worked with a woman whose son married a Thai whore. The Thai wife had him so whipped that it was embarassing to watch. She made him buy her the expensive hand bags and clothes of course. He bought her family homes and businesses back in Thailand. This was not a lot of money like it may be here but it was still nothing but an obvious con to her. She mentioned how much she hated the U.S. and how she wanted to go back to Thailand. When? I am betting it will be when her idiot white husband meets a mysterious end. Of course it will not happen until she squeezes the loser for every last dime. In her mind that is the deal even if it is not spoken of. The white husband left a white wife over some trivial issue and has a white daughter he pretty much ignores. It is sad to see happen.
A lot of Jewish men go for the Asian mail order bride business however. Think of the Woody Allen types. Closet pedos with serious mental issues. Nothing of concern for white people.
Making the race mixer see that their choice is not simply wrong but makes them a low class and trashy imbecile can work. Many race mixers have a somewhat twisted view of their relationship. They think it actually gives them some sort of status. A good way to fight race mixing is to make the race mixers know they are laughed at because of their choice. Mudsharks and rice burners have a lower quality of life. If you can show that you can change minds.
– Stormfront
I think it’s good to vent angers, frustrations and share them with each other. However, reading all the comments, I am unsure whether many readers are just venting and generalizing their anger or if they actually feel so much hate and resentment towards ENTIRE groups of people. ENTIRE races, sexes, etc. There are a lot of crappy people out there – but there are great ones too. Please don’t forget that. Sometimes people are a statistic, but not everyone is that way. If young, impressionable readers are reading these comments, please don’t think that everyone agrees with these viewpoints. It is never okay to hate on entire groups of people.
Also, please let me say that many people just don’t KNOW. I previously did not know that hapa children faced so many issues and resentment. You should definitely educate others and let them know that it is an issue. That would definitely enlighten many people and perhaps even let them think through interracial marriages before they go through with it. I know a lot of people don’t even realize these problems. A lot of young people are just “in love” and date and do crazy things and never think about the problems of race, social inadequacy or anything like that. I know I never date a person thinking of those things. Like many people, I just do things because of feelings, love, passion, etc. Now I will have that thought in my mind. I have never even thought that anyone cared who I hate or who I marry. You can say I am socially irresponsible. I never considered my entire race or gender. I just did things because I thought who cares this is just my life. I never thought it could so negatively impact someone. Children are important. Most parents actually do care. If a hapa out there has really good insights, definitely consider writing essays or books to inform parents about your point of view. It will help everyone.
“I wish the commenters would stop attacking races and genders as a whole. As I am not in your specific situations, I cannot assess it or give any true input. I am, however, saddened and offended when you go calling entire races of women whore this and slut that. You can make your point known without doing that. For every bad mother or so, there are many good ones.
Many of you raise valid points. These concerns should not be overlooked. I can see how the current situation is very unfair to Asian men – but that gives you no reason to outright attack an entire group of women or men.
Some commenters need to relax and stop being so angry at everyone. Many Asian women do marry and prefer Asian men. What do you make of that? Why do you just go on attacking ALL women? You hate on Asian women for marrying white men by calling all Asian women whores (regardless of why she married) and refuse to acknowledge the ones that don’t fit your stereotype.
You make your entire race look bad when you sprout things like “All Asian women are whores” this and “All white women are hos” that. Please do not represent Asian men in this light. You are angry and you should be. This does not make it okay to destroy the good name of your heritage by making gross assumptions and generalizations.
Before I came to this blog, I never thought about the issues that many eurasian and asian men faced. I was blindly ignorant of it all. I am glad to learn and would like to learn more, but am scared and saddened by the hate, racism, sexism, etc.
Admittedly, some things are about race – but sometimes they are not. If you want change, do something about it. Join a movement, educate others. Spreading hate is not the answer.”
I hope you have not committed suicide by the time I finished writing this comment. If you are still active or still alive, maybe you should contact me and you can talk to me. I understand what you are going through and I want to help you.
And please do not think that as a woman I would not understand what goes through your mind. I may be a woman, but I am also a human being. I have feelings too and as a woman my feelings are even more sensitive than yours.
I won’t lie to you. You probably hate me already when I say this because I only date white men. But I promise I am not what you think I am. I do not justify my actions like the other asian women. I know I am inferior to my white boyfriend and I enjoy being submissive to him, being subjugated and dominated by him. I revel in my own submission and I enjoy being abused and dominated. This is the way I have worked out my demons, by being physically abused and mentally subjugated. You can find my profile on collarme as “inferiorasian”.
I have carefully perused all your posts and almost all the comments and as a Japanese woman, who had white ancestry on her father’s side, and at same time who had a Chinese mother, I felt, on the one hand, insulted and angered by your fusillade of virulent remarks, slanders and abusive language, but on the other hand I do–I really do–believe or not, sympathize with you and I know what must have been going through your mind growing up. The humiliation, the shame, the self hatred, and the thoughts of suicide. I had all those. At the roots of all these feelings is your subconsciously knowing that you are inferior: your mother’s race is being dominated by your father’s race, and you are the living proof of that domination. And that seem unnatural. Racial domination is wrong; a man of dominant race should not subjugate women of inferior race. Can you imagine what Han Chinese people must feel like, since 98% of all Han Chinese were the descendants of Genghis Khan? Han Chinese are a distinct ethnicity compared to Mongolians, Manchus, and Uighurs. So all the Han Chinese today are the descendants of rapists. That is unnatural, unjust, and evil, that men of the dominant race conquer and enslave the women of the subjugated races.
Do you think you are better off if a White woman loves you. She will still be superior to you even if she loves you. You will be her slave, not the other way around. My grandmother was a white woman, and my grandfather–who was a Japanese general during World War II–was completely obsequious to her and treated her like a royal mistress. Can you imagine a war hero who conquered half of Asia ended up being a slave to a White woman? And even if you eventually “end up” with a white woman, even though physically you look asian, you still carry the Y chromosome from your white father and you are merely just passing on his genes, the genes of a white man, of the most dominant race of the most powerful country on Earth, a people whose men have conquered all corners of the world and enslaved all its women. A white man can get any woman he wants because he has the rights to, not because his own attributes, but because of his race, his shibboleth of power, his whiteness
On the other hand the way my father treated my mother was completely different from the way my grandfather treated my grandmother. My mother is a Chinese woman and my father knew she was inferior to him so he abused her; my mother, on the other hand, knew she is inferior and even enjoyed being dominated by my father. Do you know what it’s like to see your own mother naked leashed and collared like a dog? Have your white father done that to your inferior asian mother? If you haven’t then you don’t have it as worse as I had it. And please do not refer to Japanese as asian. Please. Most Japanese think they are descendants from Germanic people.
Your mother had been a lucky woman to be able to marry a white man, a man of the Master White race. She was blessed, and you should be happy for her. She could have ended up with an inferior Asian man and you would not have been able to be born to the most powerful nation on Earth.
Growing up, I had always felt my Chinese mother was a shameless whore, and it makes me even madder because she was a masochist who enjoyed being beaten.
And please stop the silliness that is pan Asian alliance. Asian people hate each other and would rather be slaves to their white masters.
Your mother was lucky and you should be proud of her. And I know it’s very hard for you to do right now but despite your asian appearance, deep inside you carry the genes of the superior white race and you should be proud of that, the fact that your patriarchal ancestors traced back to a White man who conquered and pillaged all over the world during the 19th and 20th Century just as the Chinese are proud to be descendants of Genghis Khan today even though they are not even Mongolians.
On the other hand if you cannot locate the white dominant master inside you, you can always try to become a submissive gay asian boy for your white masters. Homosexuality are widely accepted now, and you can find a nice white muscular man to marry you and you will live happily with him ever after. I think that might be the best course for you now. I am not being sarcastic at all. I know asian boys are very attractive to gay white males or gay black males. As an asian male, you will find much more acceptance as a homosexual.
I am sorry if I am of no help to you at all.
PHaggot whiteboy troll. You are no half Asian woman and if you are, then you are truly inferior not because you are half Asian but because you are half vampire-monkey-cracker as well as MENTALLY WEAK. White pieces of shit such as yourself with nothing substantial to say should just shut the fuck up. Besides, the white race will soon be the slave of East Asians, because once China drops US debt and begins only trading with non-western countries, who are not becoming more and more powerful and develops superior drone and cyberwarfare, and causes economic destruction in the US, cutting supplies and especially oil, the US military and most of the west will be starving and without enough fuel for most of its armies, as well as nukes. Other methods to disable the US nuclear arsenal are also completely possible. At that point conventional warfare is possible. And at that point, the East Asians, NE Asians, SE Asians, Pacific Islanders, Africans, South AMericans, Muslims, Middle Easterners, and Russians who all want to see the western imperialist white supremacists die, will all finally have our revenge.
Also you should not have a Japanese name if your mother is Chinese.
I am a proud Japanese descendant of samurai from Hokkaido, and I am NOT white anglo-saxon AT ALL, and if any male member of your family or any whiteboy wanted to challenge me IRL, they would be dead within 5 seconds.
So go kindly shoot yourself in the face, whether you are a whiteboy troll with a limp microdick or if you are really a half Asian sucky sucky long time whore.
PHaggot whiteboy troll. You are no half Asian woman and if you are, then you are truly inferior not because you are half Asian but because you are half vampire-monkey-cracker as well as MENTALLY WEAK. White pieces of shit such as yourself with nothing substantial to say should just shut the fuck up. Besides, the white race will soon be the slave of East Asians, because once China drops US debt and begins only trading with non-western countries, who are now becoming more and more powerful and develops superior drone and cyberwarfare, and causes economic destruction in the US, cutting supplies and especially oil, the US military and most of the west will be starving and without enough fuel for most of its armies, as well as nukes. Other methods to disable the US nuclear arsenal are also completely possible. At that point conventional warfare is possible. And at that point, the East Asians, NE Asians, SE Asians, Pacific Islanders, Africans, South AMericans, Muslims, Middle Easterners, and Russians who all want to see the western imperialist white supremacists die, will all finally have our revenge.
Also you should not have a Japanese name if your mother is Chinese.
I am a proud Japanese descendant of samurai from Hokkaido, and I am NOT white anglo-saxon AT ALL, and if any male member of your family or any whiteboy wanted to challenge me IRL, they would be dead within 5 seconds.
So go kindly shoot yourself in the face, whether you are a whiteboy troll with a limp microdick or if you are really a half Asian sucky sucky long time whore.
Ok, troll. Your comment is chock full of inaccuracies. You white guys who love Asian girls really are deranged, aren’t you?
98% of Han Chinese are not Genghis Khan’s or the Mongols’ descendants. Not even close. C3, the Y chromosome of Genghis Khan and the main Y chromosome of present day Mongolians exists in the Han Chinese and Koreans but not nearly as much as it exists in the Hazara of Afghanistan or the Kazakhs or the Crimean Tatars all of whom have a ton more Caucasian mtDNA than the Han Chinese.
I guess what this means is that even the most powerful Asian man/men to ever exist preferred Caucasian chicks to Asian chicks.
And where did you hear that Chinese were proud to be Genghis Khan’s descendants anyway?
1st time you’ve shot yourself in the balls.
Next thing, are you aware that gay men prefer masculine faces?
http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2009/10/091030125044.htm
So what are you trying to insinuate by saying that gay men prefer Asian boys? That Asians are more masculine? Or that Asian features are more masculine?
Congratulations, you’ve just shot yourself in the balls the 2nd time.
Oh, btw, I thought that girl in your profile picture was really hot, but when I clicked on it to get a better look, she seems to have an exceptionally wide nose.
I was expecting some angry remarks, but I was still a little bit overwhelmed by the amount of vitriol directed at me. Do you realize that by attacking me you have shown to the whole world how bigoted, sexist, racist, narrow minded, and jingoist all you asian males really are? That’s just a rhetorical question and readers will judge for themselves. And I was not even being unsympathetic to the plight of asian male, but just by having a slightly different view, and just for proclaiming that I simply found white men to be physically, morally, and intellectually superior, and that in the process I found myself inferior as an asian woman, all of a sudden now I am the enemy. I must be attacked from all planks. Should I even dignify a response to you? Do you really dare to say these kind of things or do the kinds of things you threaten to do to me if you see me walking down the street with my white boyfriend? I highly doubt it. I live in New York City and I see the pathetic looks on all those asian men’s faces everyday and to be honest they make me laugh because they are so jealous and yet they are too scared to say something. They are pathetic losers and they understand why even their own women despise them. My White boyfriend would have easily manhandled any asian man but he is too exalted to deal with those disgusting low lives just as a heavy weight champion wouldn’t pick a fight with a feather weight amateur. And that’s just the physical aspect. And don’t even get me started on being samurai warriors. About the only thing a samurai warrior can do is to rape other asian women and scurry away when an white American man shows up to protect her.
So since we have opened this can of worms, and your rude comments have erased my last thread of sympathy for you, let me make it clear once and for all why I only date white men:
1. White men are morally superior: when I was travelling with my boyfriend in Kentucky, he saw a middle aged black woman passed out in front of her house, and he stopped the car, got out and helped her up. Now be honest with yourself, would a Japanese man ever help a Non-Japanese person in the middle of the street? Would a Chinese person ever help another human being without standing around and just gawking at the victim? And that black woman was once merely a slave, and yet my White boyfriend stooped so low to help her. Asian morality is inferior. Confucianism is inferior. Face the facts or don’t and stool in your own smug sense of racial purity.
2. White men treat women better than any Asian man ever would. My boyfriend respect my limit and no matter what I do, he will never threaten me with non-consensual physical violence. The reason why I am so open in expressing myself is exactly because I know no matter what my opinions or orientations are, my boyfriend will always love me, support me and never judge me. I have written, said, and even asked for, many politically incorrect, outrageous things, including sometimes appearing to be self-hating, but my boyfriend have always supported me and never judged me. I am even critical of him sometimes and he always listens.
3. sorry guys, but size does matter. Most asian men simply have smaller dicks, and sorry to break it to you guys, it really does matter. Girls like bigger packages, and asian men, well, happen to have the smallest dicks in the world.
4. white men are physically strong. Did you know white men actually like to become strong and physically intimidating? Geez, what kind of woman doesn’t like it when a short skinny Japanese man who never play sport and act like a girl walks into a bar? Don’t get me even started on all you East Asian men who want to look more feminine and womanly. Don’t act like you don’t know what I am talking about, OK?
5. Asian men, in all essence and forms, are wimps, and to be honest, no women like wimps. We all want to feel protected, and secure with a strong, masculine man, and asian men, well, are just too feminine and when they are not beating themselves up, they are beating their women. Sorry, that’s just disgusting.
6. Oh, and don’t pretend like all Asians love each other. All of a sudden a Japanese person is happy to see a rising China. Please. Even overseas Chinese and Taiwanese hates mainland Chinese. Just about every other Asian hates China and wish with all their might that they can lick the boots of America just a little longer. The last time I checked, PM Shinzo Abe of Japan was just about to kneel down and kiss Obama’s half black ass. Some Asian countries such as the Philippines are so scared of China they even started to support the re-militarization of Japan. Two words: Asians, pathetic.
On the other hand, do you see the same level of vitriol between, say, a British and a German? It seems to me that White people seem to get along with just about everyone. Is it perhaps because of their shared Christian morality? I don’t know, but it certainly seems the case that Confucian morality seems to breed very hateful people, And please, can someone scrap that racial purity concept the Japanese borrowed from the Nazis 60 years ago? Has someone told Koreans that they are still using the Nazi racial purity concept their Japanese masters gave to them? Nazism is widely condemned in the West, but if anything, Nazism is still quite alive in East Asia. Without America, all the East Asians would have killed each other until nothing left, and maybe that would have been a good thing.
7. As for the Asian Americans that I see in the States, they disgust me. They try to tan their skin, act all ghetto, and and do everything possible to imitate being white, even all the while pretending to be creating their own identity. The mere sight of them make me want to vomit, and any woman with any self respect would not want to mate with those disgusting low life forms. I for one can’t imagine myself being impregnated with those pathetic asian genes.
8. white men have bigger balls. What does that mean? Well it means they are overall more manly, more masculine, takes initiative, physically strong, and mentally tough. They are more adapt at socializing and knows more about courting females. As compared to all the asian men pathetic wimps and cry babies.
9. White men are intellectually superior. This you might find shocking. Surely the East Asians boast of being smartest people. Asians are so good at math! So let me ask you to name just one great mathematician of Japanese or Chinese or Korean descent that can rival Einstein, Gauss, Euler, Newton, Fermat, Wiles, Poincare, Perelman, Cauchy, Lagrange, Borel, Hilbert, Riemann? Can you name one please? Oh, and can we name one that’s not an American citizen. Sorry, Terence Tao never even had a Chinese citizenship. He was Australian before he defected to America. Even if you can name a few, maybe the trite and ancient Chinese remainder theorem, how you compare yourself to the west?
Asians are only good at routine memorizations while all the creative geniuses just happen to be European. I wish this was not true, but look at the list of names, and you want to convince yourself that that is not the case?
10. and this will be my last reason. I have to agree even if I don’t really want to. White men are simply the most dominant people on earth today and they have right to have any woman they want. And I feel lucky as an asian woman that I am so adored by them. It’s a good thing for me, and I do not really feel ashamed to say that I am actually very flattered by their lavishing attention on me. Which one of you dare say that you never dreamed of being with a white woman? Do you not find white women superior to asian women? May I ask why? Because all of standard of beauty is white, and asian women simply are better at adapting or lucky I guess, being more white looking than asian men. Japan certainly had its chance to be the most dominating country in Asia at least, and I guess all the other Asians really enjoyed that am I right? Finally an Asian country can lead all Asia to glory!
I am not coming back to this blog again, and you guys can curse, vent your anger, and hate me all you want. At the end of the day, you will just be embarrassing yourselves, and you asian men will still be the biggest losers on this planet. All my Japanese girlfriends are either married to white or married to blacks and I actually know one Japanese girl who’s engaged to a mexican man I guess just about any other man is better than a Japanese man. You guys are pathetic and just talking to you guys disgust me. Don’t bother to reply and even if you reply I won’t read it. Good bye.
Oops, the Y chromosome is C-M217, but still.
1. White men are not morally superior. Go study history about how they COMMITTED GENOCIDE ON THE NATIVE AMERICAN AMERINDIANS, DESTROYED EAST ASIAN CULTURE, DESTROYED THE MIDDLE EAST, DESTROYED AND DIVIDED AFRICA.
White men also used the most UNDERHANDED, DISHONORABLE, LOWLIFE tactics to SPLIT UP THE MIDDLE EAST, SPLIT UP AFRICA, SPLIT UP CHINA AND EAST ASIA and COLONIZE AND OPPRESS ALL COLORED PEOPLES AROUND THE WORLD.
2. WHITE MEN ARE ADDICTED TO POWER DYNAMICS AND WANT TO ONLY DOMINATE WOMEN, they do NOT TREAT WOMEN RIGHT. In fact, MOST WHITE MEN ARE NOTHING MORE THAN RAPISTS WITH HOMOSEXUAL TENDENCIES.
Look at what they did in Vietnam and Japan and Korea and China in the past. All of it was through UNDERHANDED TACTICS and then invading and raping and pillaging.
Whites were only ever able to develop more advanced technology by
#1 STEALING AND RAPING AND PILLAGING ALL THE LANDS AROUND THE WORLD FOR RESOURCES AND COLONIZING AND OPPRESSING, ALSO UTILIZING DRUGS like OPIUM WITH UNDERHANDED TACTICS to DESTROY OTHER SOCIETIES AND DESTABALIZE AND USE BIOLOGICAL WARFARE (Such as the case of the AMERINDIANS), and that was the ONLY WAY THEY WERE ABLE TO COLONIZE AND OPPRESS THOSE PEOPLES. THROUGH UNDERHANDED, DISHONORABLE, LOWLIFE, CHEATING methods.
#2 Stealing,.lying, and cheating was the ONLY WAY they were able to get more resources thus creating stable domestic societies that allowed for more innovation.
#3 STEALING CHINESE AND EAST ASIAN TECHNOLOGIES SUCH AS GUNPOWDER AND PASSING IT OFF AS IF THEY DISCOVERED ALL OF THESE TECHNOLOGIES when CHINA INVENTED 75% of all of that HUNDREDS OF YEARS BEFORE WHITES AND WHILE WHITES WERE STILL BEING FUCKED BY HORSES AND DOGS LIKE THE DEGENERATES THEY ARE.
3. Most Asian men such as myself have 6 INCH PENISES OR BIGGER. 5-6 inches is average, and the men with the SMALLEST and MOST FREQUENT MICROPENI ARE WHITE MEN.
4. LOOOOOOL TROLLING PHAGGOT ASS WHTIEBOY. DO YOU EVEN LIFT? I BENCH PRESS TWO 100 LB DUMBBELLS, DEADLIFT 420 LBs, BENCH PRESS 250 lbs barbell bench press, barbell bicep curl 130 lbs
I know TONS of ASIAN GUYS who LIFT MORE THAN WHITE GUYS DESPITE being SHORTER or LIGHTER.
Also, another little secret you stupid dumbfuck bitch. MOST WHITE GUYS NEED TO USE STEROIDS TO ACHIEVE MUSCULAR PHYSIQUES WHEREAS ASIANS CAN PUT ON MORE MUSCLE NATURALLY AS LONG AS ASIANS CHANGE DIET. I know this because MANY OF THE WHITE GUYS IN MY GYM USE STEROIDS AND MANY OF THEM ARE STILL WEAKER THAN I AM.
I fight in FULL CONTACT NO PROTECTIVE GEAR, BARE KNUCKLE KNOCKDOWN KARATE. Most whitephags are PUSSIES.
5. WIMPS MY ASS. BRUCE LEE, MAS OYAMA, LYOTO MACHIDA, KENJI MIDORI, MANNY PACQUIAO all of these world class fighters…. EAST ASIAN MEN HAHHAHAAHAHAAHA
6. ASIANS turned on each other because of WHITE SUPREMACIST WESTERN IMPERIALISM.
Also because westerners use DIVIDE AND CONQUER PSYCHOLOGICAL WARFARE THROUGH HOLLYWOOD MEDIA BRAINWASHING.
AKA WHITE MALES ARE WOMEN IN EVERY WAY RIGHT DOWN TO THEIR CONNIVING, DISHONORABLE, SNEAKY, PUSSY, LOWBLOW WAYS
7. Most Asian Americans are disgusting yes, because they worship whites who are nothing more than the SCUM OF THE EARTH.
8. ACtually that just makes white men lecherous perverts who can ONLY think with their penises. Their LIMP PENISES at that because most of them have to rely on VIAGRA HAAHAHAHAHAAHAHA even at age 20 HAAHHAAHAHAAHAHAAHAHAH
9. As I said before they are not intellectually superior. Stealing other technologies and resources to have stable societies to allow those inventions as well as perpetual war which necessitates those inventions DOES NOT MAKE THEM INTELLECTUALLY SUPERIOR. IT MAKES THEM THIEVES, LIARS, AND MURDERERS
10. And bitch I would behead you in real life with my ancestral samurai sword because you are one of the stupidest most brainwashed white dick sucking retard Asian females I have ever met.
Also, I bet you are just another LOSER LIMP DICKED WHITEBOY TROLL
@jenny suzuki
This reply is not for your benefit, since you have claimed you will not bother to read any further replies to your original post. This is for other readers so they will not go away believing your sick insults and lies.
First of all, you claim you understand how the OP felt and then you turn around and tell him to find a muscular gay White man to sodomize him if he cannot “locate the dominant white master inside you”. You expect any Asian looking man, regardless of his Y chromosome to take that lying down. I hope you have the consistency to tell your part Asian son that when he has identity issues like SEML.
In your second post, you claim that Asian women are more accepted in White society because “asian women simply are better at adapting or lucky I guess, being more white looking than asian men”. This is not true. Asian women are no more white looking than Asian men, whatever that statement meant. And as for the boast that Asian women are more feminine than White women and are therefore more admired, that is a lie. Studies have shown that White men prefer the average White female face to the average Asian female face. And they found attractive White female faces more attractive than attractive Asian female faces and attractive Eurasian female faces. Other studies have shown that White woman have lower Waist-to-Hip ratios than all other races, including Asian women. Every anthropologist agrees that White people have more sexual dimorphism than Asian people. This means that while Asian men may not be more masculine looking than White men, Asian women are in fact less feminine looking than White women.
If Asian women truly were accepted in White society, they would not have a reputation among Whites as easy whores for White males with low mate value. In Hollywood, no “alpha” White male celebrity has been linked to an Asian woman. Rupert Murdoch, Mark Zuckerberg and Woody Allen are stuck with Asian women. This is reflected in the dating trends all over America. This is how much “acceptance” Asian women have.
You said that Asian men “are just too feminine and when they are not beating themselves up, they are beating their women”. The truth is that domestic violence prevails in households where the woman is a mail order bride and the husband is a White American man because of the power he holds over her, most of the time the woman is threatened with deportation and separation from her children.
You and other Asian women like you show yourselves to be liars and hypocrites when you say Asians are inferior and pathetic. Are all Asians are inferior and pathetic but yourselves? You are Asian and if you truly believe that Asian genes are pathetic and should go extinct you should lead by example and end your own life before you ever reproduce.
The existence of Asian women like you is a stain upon the reputations of good Asian women with dignity. At least you are honest and come out in the open. Most “Asian female” psychopaths veil their hypocrisy. But everyone can still tell they wish they were not Asian, no matter how much they claim to love being Asian.
I will not dignify a response to your slights on Asian masculinity because you are no more feminine than Asian men are masculine. This is fact. You are on the same level, regardless of how well you lie to simpletons.
Hi, I am reiterating a response to another reader because I thought I should write my comment where it might be seen. Perhaps it is my insecurity showing, but I thought I should defend the Asian female as everyone seems to hate us so much. I know this blog has a different purpose and perhaps I don’t belong here, but I will leave after these comments.
As an Asian female who dates Asian guys, I’m still offended by all the mean comments against Asian women who date white guys. Of all the Asian girls in my friend group, only one is dating a white guy and I would never consider her self hating or anything. We just happen to fall in love with who we fall in love with sometimes. It sadden me to think that because the guy she happens to date now is white, people are judging her and calling her a race traitor. I ask that you guys don’t hate on asian women in general.
I know the trend of asian women dating white men may have racist and self hate undertones, but for some people it may not. I mean, when an asian guy dates a white girl – he might just like her. The same can be said for asian women dating white men. You should direct your anger towards those who exclusively date one race, not all of us. I know an Asian guy who is super attractive and dates white girls only because he says they are fairer. So yea, its not like it is only Asian women that do that. When you lash out at asian women in general, it alienates us all. It makes me sad to think that even amongst our own people, there is so much hate. I know what you are thinking, “hey, you asian women started it first.” No, someone started the hate but it wasnt me. And I refuse to contribute to te hate between Asian men and women. i can only ask that you try to do the same. Many readers seem to be saying that Asian women are the worst or are ugly animals or that we are not as good as white women. That is unfair and makes those readers the same as the asian women who only praise white men. Some Asian women are pretty awful, but so are some white women, white men and Asian men. I know a lot of you are just angry and perhaps just venting, but I think it makes us all look bad when we diss on each other.
I also hope OP finds a loving woman of any race who will listen understand and help calm his mind. Then his pain will subside at least because who cares what racist haters think when you have a loving family. Those Asian girls who only date white men are not worth your time. Date someone who loves you for you. An Asian or white is easy to find. A good person with good morals and a good heart is difficult. Find one and hold on.
Also, I hope you guys can acknowledge that not everything is about race. Good people exist in every race.
Sorry for the long comment. I just don’t see any sane comments that try to unite us rather than separate.
By the way, bullies suck. If people are bullying you because of your nationality, skin color, disability, or sexual preference, fuck them. Don’t ever let bullies hold you back. They are not worth anyone’s time.
Allow me to firstly give you some insight into my parentage. My mother is pretty mixed to begin with; Chinese, Japanese, French and Indian whilst my father is Jewish Italian. As far as I’m aware neither of them had “fetishes” with people of the opposite race. My mum used to date Japanese and Chinese men and in fact my dad was the first white guy she date. My dad had one or two Asian girlfriends but he mainly dated Jewish women. However, such instances are pretty rare I gather. Asian women both immigrants and 1st generation seem to avoid me. Physically one can discern the fact that I look mixed; I have slanted eyes perhaps more so than Asians themselves but that’s about it as well as low cheekbones. I’m 6″2″ with extremely white skin, a roman nose. Most of the time people tend to think I’m like central Asian or even Russian. All the Asian girls I have asked out have rejected me over white guys! To make it even worse they sometimes make hurtful comments along the lines “You’re too white to be Asian and too Asian to be white!” What chance do I have? The white guys I see tend to be creepy, unattractive, socially awkward but with hot girls. So unfair! And mainly they use them as trophy girlfriends whereas for me I actually care for someone’s feelings and I know I have faults! But alas they don’t see that. I fucking hate being mixed its a crappy existence. Other HAPA friends usually girls can get men real easy because they look Asian and thus white men lust over them. HAPA males also share my sentiments. Therefore, I have decided to take matters into my own hands by essentially “whitening” myself through pupil dilution to make my eyes look bigger and minor skin bleaching to remove pink blemished. But I don’t think that’ll do any good. Christ I hate my stupid mixture! Is there any hope for me at all?
I have no doubt that JennySuzuki is for real. As an Asian man, I can recognize that disgust that emanates from Asian women who prefer white men. Even though I only care about full Asian women, JennySuzuki articulates very well all the reasons for their disgust. All of you treacherous Asian women should be as honest and forthright as she is. You’re all just like her. Women like JennySuzuki make me appreciate Asian women who are loyal to their Asian brothers so much more. Sometimes, I wonder why all Asian women haven’t gone over to the white man. But, then I think about my mother’s unconditional love. A love that JennySuzuki has probably never experienced.
Could you perhaps comment?
Allow me to firstly give you some insight into my parentage. My mother is pretty mixed to begin with; Chinese, Japanese, French and Indian whilst my father is Jewish Italian. As far as I’m aware neither of them had “fetishes” with people of the opposite race. My mum used to date Japanese and Chinese men and in fact my dad was the first white guy she date. My dad had one or two Asian girlfriends but he mainly dated Jewish women. However, such instances are pretty rare I gather. Asian women both immigrants and 1st generation seem to avoid me. Physically one can discern the fact that I look mixed; I have slanted eyes perhaps more so than Asians themselves but that’s about it as well as low cheekbones. I’m 6″2″ with extremely white skin, a roman nose. Most of the time people tend to think I’m like central Asian or even Russian. All the Asian girls I have asked out have rejected me over white guys! To make it even worse they sometimes make hurtful comments along the lines “You’re too white to be Asian and too Asian to be white!” What chance do I have? The white guys I see tend to be creepy, unattractive, socially awkward but with hot girls. So unfair! And mainly they use them as trophy girlfriends whereas for me I actually care for someone’s feelings and I know I have faults! But alas they don’t see that. I fucking hate being mixed its a crappy existence. Other HAPA friends usually girls can get men real easy because they look Asian and thus white men lust over them. HAPA males also share my sentiments. Therefore, I have decided to take matters into my own hands by essentially “whitening” myself through pupil dilution to make my eyes look bigger and minor skin bleaching to remove pink blemished. But I don’t think that’ll do any good. Christ I hate my stupid mixture! Is there any hope for me at all?
Plastic surgery is not a good idea. It might not turn out the way you expect and you’ll become crazy like Michael Jackson. You’re tall, which is a plus, and if you have money then that’s an even bigger plus. If you’re not rich then get motivated to earn some money. Women like a man with a plan. Also, you might try a different approach to women. Why look for a girlfriend every time you go out. Think of yourself as a tall, rich(soon to be rich) guy any woman would be lucky to spend the night with. A woman who wouldn’t want you as a boyfriend might not mind spending a few nights with you. I don’t know what it’s like to be a mixture of so many things, and it probably confuses women too. So, use that to your advantage. Be mysterious, but keep up with current events and have an opinion. Don’t wear your heart on your sleeve. Embrace your odd looks and don’t be a sad sack about it. I’ve seen far too many ugly dudes with pretty ladies to think that you won’t be a success.
Why do people here take issue with fetishes? Like it’s hugely shameful if your WM/AF or AM/WF parents aren’t completely race-neutral. What the hell? You should be glad they aren’t, and are enjoying each other’s looks. If your father had a strinking set of blue eyes, would you suddenly feel ashamed to learn that your mother, like a ton of women out there, happens to have a weakness in her heart for blue eyes? No you wouldn’t. So just shed the racial bias already and chill out, there’s no shame to be had here.
The most awful actually was one of the earlier comments, where a girl with WM/AF parents still very much in love with each other after 30 years together, was basically told that her parents probably weren’t an “exception” and just as guilty as any WM/AF couple out there. What the hell? They’re obviously together because they love each other, and noone ever needs a better reason than that. Really shows how some angry people won’t stop at anything to find someone, anyone, to blame for their issues. Hope the girl in question didn’t fall for this bullshit.
I never really thought about this but I’m not sure I’d love my husband as much if he weren’t White.
http://www.thecircumstancesofmydeath.wordpress.com
hey circumstances, theres no need to kill yourself. You at least have a wife. How many WMAF Eurasian Males do you think have wives? There have been millions of WMAF sons born since the 1960s, as it is the most frequent racial pairing, and yet have any of us amounted to anything? Race-mixies with far less numbers have produced far more success stories.
As you have pointed out on your blog, the unique nature of WMAF dooms its offspring to failure. I’m sure all Eurasian sons have thought of suicide. But the vast majority of us don’t have wives or anyone else in the world who will ever love us. You write in your blog, that your wife is the only thing that keeps you alive, and thats good enough a reason. Why do you even need to care about the dating game, when you already have a wife and have plans for kids? I believe people have a right to commit suicide, there is nothing magical about life. If I wanted to die, I could kill myself tomorrow. But that is because I have no social relations, I’m totally alone and free to do with my life as I wish. You voluntarily choose to find a wife, and now you owe her life.
I just wish the world could know the pain of being Eurasian. Reading all these blogs and comments, I know we are not alone. This is the worst crime of our times. It is scary to read my exact thoughts duplicated in so many places. It only re-enforces my belief, that my problems are not unique to me as an individual, but inherent to Eurasian sons of WMAF.
If you really are finished with your life, there is something you can do with what remains of your time on earth, before you escape to Nirvana. There are tons of us Eurasian guys out there, in the exact same situation. And yet as long as we limit our rants to the written word, it’ll be easier to dismiss us. It would be more powerful if we had Eurasians on youtube and in flesh and blood, saying these same things. Prove to the world, that this IS what Eurasian guys actually endure. Make a public movement based on the pains of Eurasians. For we are the most oppressed racial minority in the world today. And yet our problems are totally ignored. Create a Eurasianist Political Movement. If you’ve given up on life anyway, then you don’t have to fear shaming. You can proudly tell the world to its face, the tragedy that we Eurasians face.
Maybe you’ll make a difference, improve life for Asians and Eurasians, and make life worth living. Or you’ll fail and kill yourself anyway. But at least you will have unveiled the Eurasian Secret. Better than quietly leaving the stage in the hands of tyranny.
I would say don’t kill yourself, you have a wife, which most of us Eurasian guys never will, and you owe it to her. But if you are eventually going to kill yourself, and your life is already lost, then you have nothing to lose, by going public and letting the world see the pain that being an Eurasian Male has caused you. You can expose WMAF from the inside. Otherwise the myth that WMAF is the perfect, happy, traditional couple, with beautiful smart hybrid children will continue to be perpetrated. Only Eurasian Males have the power to stand up to this tyranny. But it can’t just be hidden online anymore, it needs to invade the real world. We Eurasians are too cowardly to stand up for our Rights and Dignity and so we have lost all. But if your ready to die, then you have nothing to lose. Speak truth to power. Spread our message.
This was a very powerful passage here-
“My mother, when either I or my brother was born, was forced to get a C-Section because our heads were too big for her body, as my father is a big man, weighing 250 pounds and standing at 6’2″, so it wasn’t a surprise that her body couldn’t handle it. During the blood transfusion in either 1986 or 1983, she received bad blood infected with Hepatitis C or B, which was essentially terminal. For the last ten years of her life, we watched her deteriorate, become skinny, hostile, and angry. At some point along the way, she became extremely disappointed with my father for not making enough money, and found that he was incredibly pliable, without spine, overly religious, antisemitic, racist, vitriolic and prone to conspiracy theories. I’ve found that men who strongly believe in white supremacy often find themselves disillusioned with white women when they find that they are not being worshiped as white men believe they should be, and turn to Asian women as a proxy for what they believe as their divine right on top of the world.”
http://thecircumstancesofmydeath.wordpress.com/2014/05/14/my-life-story-so-far/
You are quite right to point out the perverse link between White Nationalism and marrying Asian women. In a strange way they think they can preserve the White race by having Half-Asian women. Thats why you get all this bullshit about East Aryans. White women, the female half of the White Race, have failed to live up to Whiteness. Instead because of Feminism, the female half, is perceived as the greatest enemy of the white race. Whiteness is thus redefined to mean solely white males. And the natural partner to the White Racist is the Asian Female. Suddenly he finds all his conservative Western values preserved in the Confucianism of the East. You would think Confucius was the 1st White Nationalist. Why is the East praised? Because they produce loser women who are willing to shack up with loser white men. It is so sad that so many colored boys are being born to racist White dads. It is an unknown genocide. It is a dark secret that Half-Asian children have become a linchpin of White Supremacy. They have given up on white women for being too fat and feminist. They no longer dream of having pure white sons. All the hopes of White Conservatism now lay in having Eurasian sons. Eurasians are a Nazi experiment gone wrong.
It is not at all unique for White-Asian couples to have C-Sections. A study found that White Male Asian Female pregnancies result in the HIGHEST level of caesarians of any other coupling. It is RISKY for an Asian woman to have a half-white baby. It is a crime against nature, and not meant to happen. This is powerful proof of the unnaturalness of WMAF.
http://med.stanford.edu/news_releases/2008/october/asian-birth.html
This post is not racist. It’s an interesting article which makes sense.
I’ve actually noticed that many very small east asian women do like very tall white guys. Many of them try to have white babies, but then you see that they need to get C sections.
If science wern’t around today, and if nature were to take it’s course, many of these women would die at the time of birth, along with the baby, simply because as the article states, their body frames tend to be smaller(pelvises.) They are built to have smaller babies like themselves(generally)
I’ll give you an example of a couple I recently saw. The East asian mother was very small, even for an East asian woman. She looked possibly Japanese, and no offense but from far off she actually resembled a little asian boy. No hips, no shape, curves, or waistline, with little boy shaped, sized legs. I am a woman of similar height and weight, however I’m not Asian and but I’m very thin. I even have a flat butt, but shape wise I’m all legs and I have curvy hips, wheras this woman although very close in height and weight, was built the complete opposite of me.
Our body types and pelivises were shaped entirely different, at least physically speaking, to the naked eye. So this pelvic thing does have a bit to do with how certain cultures are built.
So, this womans partner, and father of the newborn baby was white, very tall and large framed, looking like a blonde hockey player.At least 6″3 wheras she was about 4″11 and very ethnically oriental looking. They couldn’t have looked more different.
In my opinion, physically they did not look good together for a variety of reasons I won’t get into(Pedofilia and that being a bad influence on children rings a bell for me, but maybe they were really in love, maybe not I don’t know. she also just may have looked much younger than she really was, although he didn’t look very old either. so again hopefully they wern’t that young because again, bad influence on children.), and if it wern’t for technology, she would NEVER have been able to give birth to the baby.This woman was so small, she couldn’t even push along the baby carriage, it was far too large for her to push.I have no idea how old the baby was but I saw it’s arm and you’d wonder how she could even give birth to a baby of that size. The baby was also interestingly darker skinned than both of the parents. The asian mother may have been bleaching her skin, and she did look very ethnically oriental, but the baby’s skin was brown when the fathers was the palest of pale, so I dunno, another stumper there lol:P
Her partner pushed the carriage along. You could tell she had the C sectuion because she was walking as if she had a very large bowel movement up her bum lol or something up in her bum lol. when I told my mother about the couple she said it’s likely that the woman was walking that way because she probably had a very large incision made due to the C Section birth.
So, this article in my opinion, is not at all racist, because to sum it up, in the natural “wild” minus all of our new healthcare technology, this mother and baby would not have survived the birth. It’s sort of like if you were to impregnate a Pug with a Great Danes sperm, the mother Pug may very well get pregnant, but without a lot of medical attention, this mix would not naturally occur because the two breeds are just not built for each other. It’s really quite simple, it has nothing to do with racism.
Wow, I try not to keep coming back to this site. But the stories always give me new insight. I’m glad I’m not alone, as I am a Eurasian female. The issue of c-sections amongst asian women with white male partners is super eye-opening. I’m not being racist either, but there are very big implications when people marry someone of a different ethnicity, and don’t think through the consequences. Ethnic tribes have adapted over thousands of years for specific reasons, and to try to undo all that in one generation, definitely has severe consequences. It just seems that the AF/WM pairing is so irrational, racist, and psychotic, except to the AF/WM’s themselves. And it amuses me that they will always flip off the handling and defend themselves to the death, even if their own children confront them. This means that the eurasian children are abused in the outside world by society, and also at home by self-hating parents who try to present themselves as perfect to the outside world. It just makes me so sick that all these AF/WM parents try to present themselves as perfect to the world, especially if they are highly “educated”, when in reality the families are so jacked up. I don’t even hide it anymore when people ask me about my upbringing. I just tell them the truth. Because it’s too hard to live a lie, and I don’t care if they judge me for it.
So, it is clear to me the if you are Eurasian or mixed, or just someone going through problems in general, you have to learn two things to say to yourself very often, if you find yourself being mistreated by your parents or society or your job on a daily basis. Every time you have a negative thought, or every time somebody acts badly towards you, say to yourself in a very firm and kind way, “I value myself and respect myself.” Let the words “value and respect” echo in your mind with firmness and kindness. Start there, and it will lead to a feeling of empowerment and kindness towards yourself, as well as treating yourself well. Value and respect is easily understood, and they are concepts connected to love, but the word love has so many meanings and can be convoluted. So start with Value and Respect…. 🙂
I always knew WMAF were a hateful, racist pairing but I didn’t think it would create a serial killer in Elliot Roger. Finding out his mother was asian was a duh moment for me and it’s no surprise his father is hideously ugly. He probably taught him his loser womanizing ways. Seeing her pathetic mother groveling to his white father every day gave him a sense of entitlement.
I’m half asian and I’m going to kill myself, my own fucking mother hated Asian guys but I’m an Asian guy, I was the product of white worship and self hatred, my own brother is mentally ill, my whole life is in shambles, I’m 26 and have no career, I can’t fucking work because I’m too depressed, I’m going to fucking die by sleeping pills or put mylsef in the garage and go to sleep.
Asian women destroyed me, tey hate Asian men, they submit to white men, yet their sons like me are nothing more than the product of this, self-hatred, somehow better than an asian men and worse than a white man, I can’t wait to fucking die, be thankful I don’t become violent like Elliot Rodgers, you want to see my diary of how I’m going to kill myself?
These aRE YOUR FUTURE ASIAN SONS YOU ASIAN BITCHES, YOU ARE TRYING TO EXTERMINATE ASIAN MEN BUT YOUR SONS LOOK JUST LIKE ASIAN MEN, YOU TELL US WE ARE WORTHLESS BY YOUR CHOICES, THIS IS A EURASIAN REVOLUTION YOU STUPID CUNT, I AM NOT ALONE IN THIS
THIS IS MY DIARY
longingfordeath.wordpress.com
I AM NOT ALONE IN THIS FEELING, I HAVE SO MUCH FUCKING ANGER INSIDE ME, SO MUCH, YOU HAVE NO IDEA, I AM FULL OF RAGE AND ANGER LIKE YOU CAN’T IMAGINE, I AM BORN A SLAVE, A PRODUCT OF IMPERIALISM
Elliot Rodgers was a wake up call to me
I deleted my old blog after Elliot Rodgers, but here is the new link
longingfordeath.wordpress.com
I am fucking angry, I sympathize with Elliot Rodgers, there will be more and more of him because of this type of relationship, we are angry, violent and full of hatred, I go between suicide and wanting to just scream at the world, I am so fucking angry I don’t know what to do
I want to kill myself, my whole life is a joke, I tried to pass as white for so long but people can still se it and say it is something that makes me inferior, I am so fucking angry
Asian women should burn in hell just like my own mother
Hello, East Asian male here. I immigrated to the U.S. since I was 12, and have been living in the U.S. for over 15 years now, so I am actually halfway between a fop and a 2nd generation Chinese-American. Being fluent in Chinese, Cantonese, Japanese, and English, I can read from both the Asian world and the White world, and my experiences here in the U.S. allows me to relate to your anger and frustration.
To tell you the truth: I suffered from depression ever since I stepped foot in the U.S., largely because I was a nerd. In one single night, my social status went from being on top of the roof (in Asia) to the bottom (in the U.S.). I was angry and depressed, and my Asian relatives cannot understand; they all pat themselves on the back for bringing me more opportunities to “make money”.
My pleas fell on deaf ears until I dropped out of college. For years I struggled. I am still a virgin. But apparently, being an Asian men means that (in my case at least) I look a lot younger to white women. Even though I’m now 28, many really hot white women thinks I’m still 20~ish. And now I’m going back to college, so that gives me a lot of hope that I’m gonna date some really cute girls!
But before I get to this point, I had to do a lot of soul-searching. Fortunately, I came across Eckhart Tolle. Although he is white, he has learned the essence of Zen Buddhism, one of Asia’s most powerful spiritual traditions. It is a tradition that allows tough, macho samurai men to face perilous conditions and came out victorious. Since picking up Zen Buddhism, I have found my mind sharper, and I have went from being a couch potato that cannot do one pushup to growing over 15 pounds of muscles. The transformation is amazing–I can tell girls look at me a different way now!
I totally recommend you read his book, “The Power of Now”, as well as Stephen Hayes “Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life”. Apparently, scientists are now re-discovering the potency of our Asian tradition, and how it is superior to Christianity.
To arms, my fellow Asian brother! Rediscover your tradition which is your birthright, and which has allowed Asians like us to triumph over many trials.
I understand where you are coming from. Based on the research I have done, in many inter-ethnic relationships, particularly white male / asian female, the people often get married for the wrong reasons, and take their immense identity and self-esteem problems out on the children. The parents are too caught up in their own world to even realize how abusive they are. In fact, they often think that they are not abusive – that they are providing their children with a better life. It is their intention that we have the “best of both worlds” and that we will be a “bridge between two or more worlds”. However, they do not realize that a bridge is an inanimate object, but as children and adults, we are full of conflict and emotion. Ultimately, it is not emotionally or psychologically sustainable to continuously bridge a gulf between two or more cultures and religions that are so different, they cannot be reconciled. This is why most mixed people choose and marry into one of their parent’s cultures over the other.
Since I have felt the way you have felt during most of my life, I understand, and it is your right to do what you want with your life, whether to choose to live or die. However, think about this – along with that right comes great power. It is the power to choose, and to decide. This means that you also have the power to choose to look at things in a new perspective if you wish. What kept me living, and eventually brought me to a new place of peace (not that things are perfect on my end – just far better), was to find enjoyment in little things, such as taking a walk, enjoying a meal, or finding a friend to confide in. Gradually I was able to move onto bigger things, such as doing volunteer work, and working in a profession where I was helping other people. Exercise, fresh air, and healthy food helped. Perhaps all this sounds mundane to you, but if you try it enough, it could work. The biggest thing is to remove yourself physically and geographically from people who are negative and abusive (especially when they try to convince you that they are loving and doing everything for you, when they simply are not). I moved to a different part of the state, and I rarely see or talk to my parents or other relatives. I was forced to do it for my own sanity. It seems like this would be good for you as well.
I also recommend the book “Man’s Search for Meaning” by Victor Frankl.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Man%27s_Search_for_Meaning
In fact, any book, person, place, thing or activity that has a good energy, is worth your time. As I mentioned, it is your right to decide whether to continue living or not. However, I am sure there are at least a few people (including myself) on this planet who would be eternally grateful if and when you found that little spark inside yourself to go on living and finding something rewarding that you feel can lift you up – even if it starts out small like feeding a homeless puppy!
If I could find that spark of light inside myself, then you can find that spark of light inside yourself. And if you can find that spark of light inside yourself – then imagine how many other people could also manage to find their way out of the darkness into a new, better, more peaceful, more joyous way of living.
Kind Regards,
Theo
I agree with the last post that we are bit of a bridge between cultures.
That is the struggle I feel like with being Eurasian. I know who I “am”, but it is the way that society labels me that is the problem. To be quite honest, I am just a person, culturally “American”, but society gives me all of these labels which is where I feel like I’m a bit stuck between two worlds.
For me though, I live in California so about 2/3 of the time people think I’m Asian, and 1/3 of time Mexican or Hispanic(my skin is light brown and hair brown). So I get people speaking Spanish to me, or other people saying that I’m “Asian”. I never pass for “white” and I’m kind of at the point where I only claim my true heritage around my true friends, because the strangers or people that casually ask “what are you?” are going to probably label me as Asian or Hispanic anyways. It’s just easier to stay out of the crossfire and be one or other.
It’s funny though, cause to be quite honest, I actually REALLY LIKE BEING EURASIAN.
It gives a hope for humanity, that there is a possibility that we could evolve. There is a possibility that we are not supposed to be labeled so discretely.
I am nearing the age to be ready for marriage I feel like, and seriously considering marrying a “black” woman. Which would technically mean that my kids would be “African, European, Asian”. I know the kid would likely get attacked from every stereotype possible – being black, Asian, or even part of the “white” man. But in some way I just feel like all this “race” stuff is a bunch of crap, and the very notion that we could marry “interracially” is a testament to the fact that we should.
Asian females love to write and talk about how they are abused for dating outside of their race. Asian women are the number one vitriolic, adamant liars when it comes to rationalizing their sexual preference (which is nothing more than a preference for tall, dominant men, ultimately; love is colorblind as long as it’s a tall white guy, right?).
They complain that the Asian male patriarchy attacks them for having an overwhelming preference for white males, ignoring the hostility that older white people have for white males and white females that date outside of their race as well; I have even been on the receiving end of this.
They complain that Asian men are patriarchal; yet they throw themselves at the same men that dropped not one, but TWO nuclear weapons onto Japanese cities populated entirely by civilians, and children.
They complain that older Asians are racist, while completely ignoring both the fact that their own sons face daily racism, being called “small dicked,” “chinks,” “slant eyes,” “slopes,” “ching chongs,” and virtually every other name under the sky by our white peers growing up – the white racism goes so far as to be even verbalized by whites living in Asia! A review of any expat website constantly demeans Asian men as being “nano aggressors,” yet these poor, poor white men are treated a fraction as badly as they treated non-whites in their own countries!
Sometimes they go so far as to say that their own mixed-race children are bullied at majority-Asian schools. NOT ONCE DID THIS HAPPEN TO ME, and I grew up in a 90% Asian neighborhood in Queens, NY. Quite the opposite, happened, actually, with the white and black minority targeting Asian students, and older whites complaining that their neighborhoods were being overrun by a “sea of black hair.”
As someone who can easily blend into the white male “patriarchy,” the amount of shit that white males have to say about Asian men is astounding and I SERIOUSLY have doubts about my own mother’s character and intentions in fucking a white man, and only white men.
It’s so bad that I assume any white male who ALLOWS his partner to say the same terrible things about Asian men must BE RACIST HIMSELF, and this combination will have DISASTROUS results for the children, as it did for me and my brother.
They even say that it is very difficult for a blonde-haired, blue eyed person to live in an Asian country, without even beginning to think about what it must be like for an Asian or black male to live in a white country; of course, Asian women have immense privilege living in western countries, being seen as a sexual commodity for white men looking to experiment, or to get away from their own women. Meanwhile, white women are complaining about white male patriarchy, white male agism, white male sexism, and white male racism in the Western world!
The Hapa son grows up with the direct evidence of his own humiliation and conquest just looking at his whore mother who absolutely needed to be dominated by a large, blonde man. His mother almost always deliberately sought a white male partner as a combination of perverse sexual desire, and a desire to humiliate Asian men – both of which her sons will be reminded of.
We are the Hapa generation and we spit in the face of our whore mothers and their blatant lies. They were nothing more than common racists, whores, harlots and hypergamous liars.
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If you are serious about committing suicide, and can within the next few months, I suggest that we kill ourselves together.
I independently came to the same conclusions as you, about how being the son of WMAF has forever doomed me, and I was born out of my own cuckolding. I planned on killing myself quietly and alone, but it be a shame to waste my death.
If you kill yourself alone, they will try to dismiss you as a lone mentally ill loser, who just happened to be Eurasian. If 2 Hapas, who have nothing in common, other than WMAF parents, suicide together, it will be much harder to dismiss the Eurasian issues. It could perhaps trigger a national discussion about what WMAF does to its children.
I’m going to kill myself either way, but if we are both going to do it, for Hapa reasons, we might as well merge together.
oh yay how nice white supremists on this blog too…..